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Friday, December 26, 2014

Maintenance is denied to wronged wives... List of 120 Judgements

Original Post  : http://everysuffererisasaviour.blogspot.in/2014/02/list-of-more-than-100-judgements-where.html

List of 120 Judgements where Maintenance is denied to wronged wives..

Dear all victims as we all know that giving your hard earn money to your cruel,greedy & capable to earn wives is something like giving a forced charity  to an untrusted organization so called as your dead marriage.

 

So,here Iam pasting all the related major judgements which I got through official website of Advocate Seema Dhavale--- I salute you mam for your work & your website. It is of immense help & support to all victims where maintenance been denied to these cruel and greedy wives to give innocent husbands a sought of relief indeed..................


RELIEF GIVEN TO VICTIMS WHERE MAINTENANCE WAS DENIED TO THEIR CRUEL & GREEDY WIVES

Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Why protests by men are not heard!

I came across this post (full post quoted below, Original link of the post) 


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Why do advertisers portray men as idiots?

A new survey has revealed that women are angry with the way men are depicted in TV adverts - so why aren't men complaining, asks Harry de Quetteville

A 2013 ad for Samsung's Evolution Kit was described as 'feminist porn'
A 2013 ad for Samsung's Evolution Kit was described as 'feminist porn' Photo: YouTube


Have you ever seen a television advert supposed to represent a “bog-standard household”, which does not feature a mum who is competent and organised (possibly clutching a pencil, looking thoughtful, and then writing something down on a list) and a bumbling halfwit dad who looks game but has the skill-set and sheepish dependency of a puppy which hasn’t learned to control its bladder.
Nope. Me neither.
“TV ad mum” shoulders both the burden of bringing up her children and supporting a man who contributes zero – no housework, no childcare. “Tv ad dad”, meanwhile, can barely be trusted to look after the remote control. He is too busy drinking brightly coloured alco-yuk to help at home; if by some miracle he tries, he will screw things up so comprehensively that, for comic effect, he will be shown trailing a poo-filled nappy around stuck to his shoe.
Having opened the fridge to find it empty, he will then roll his eyes at his wife, who has just returned from the supermarket and is simultaneously juggling three children under three and 14 heavy shopping bags.
It is a total outrage. No wonder us men are fuming at these reductive, stereotypical gender-based images, which bear no relation to the complex reality of the care and responsibility we devote to our family duties. No wonder you’ve seen all those marches, and heard all those mid-morning Radio 4 talk-shows earnestly discussing the fact that we need a more accurate representation of the contribution of modern men to domestic life...
Oh… no you haven’t.

But don’t worry. Thankfully women have done it for us. Thank God. Yes.A recent Saatchi and Saatchi survey has revealed that while women rarely identified with the women portrayed in British advertising, what got them angriest – what got them really steamed up - was the way that adverts portray men.
“The suggestion that dads are clowns, or, worse, sideshows, is the final faux pas that marketers make,” it noted.
Us men. Honestly, eh? We are useless. I mean, there we are, being horribly traduced by the global marketing industry, being bandied around as incompetent, lazy halfwits. And what do we do about it? Naff all. Nothing. Nada. Do we even bother to lift a finger to get insulted or worked up? Nope. Can we be trusted to feel appropriately discriminated against? Of course not. We need women to do it for us. It’s the same old story.
Bloody Typical.
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It's not that men do not or have not protested against portrayal of men in a bad light, they definitely have, but those protests usually fall on deaf ears.... but it becomes grave enough to be noticed only when women protests against the same thing(against men being portrayed inappropriately in media)..... this is not a new phenomenon.. it's essentially what the term "Men are disposable" means!.

Here are some protests which men did, against inappropriate portrayal of men in advertisements/media

2) Other protests: In September 2008, Save Family Foundation sent a complaint against a Kitply plywood commercial(The DNA news report also quoted below) to the Advertising Standards Council of India. The ad showed a wife slapping her husband on her wedding day because of a creaking bed. The complaint alleged that the ad promoted violence against men by portraying it as funny. Swarup Sarkar of Save Family Foundation said that violence against women draws strong reactions, but violence against men on public television is ignored. In the same month, Suresh Ram of Chennai-based organization Indiya Kudumba Pathukappu Iyaakam, complained against a Pond's ad which portrayed men as wife-beaters and an ICICI Prudential Insurance commercial which portrayed verbal and economical abuse against men.

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DNA Article: Complaint against Kitply

Tuesday, 16 September 2008 - 3:06am IST
They have complained to the Advertising Standards Council of India asking it to ban the commercial.

NEW DELHI: The latest Kitply commercial, in which a wife slaps her husband on their wedding night because their bed made from ordinary plywood kept creaking, has not gone down well with men organisations, who feel that the ad and its likes promote domestic violence. They have complained to the Advertising Standards Council of India asking it to ban the commercial.

“It’s a derogatory commercial, which promotes physical, emotional and financial abuse of men. Kitply may consider it a joke, but violence is not funny; be it against a man or a woman. We are sure you would find the same commercial with reversed roles revolting and so, we urge you to revoke the commercial immediately and take strong legal actions against those who promote domestic violence,” said Save Family Foundation (SFF), an organisation for harassed men, in its complaint.

“It is evident corporates are also responsible for 56,000 married men committing suicides, as they encourage wives to hit their husbands and justify it as alright because it is telecast on the TV,” the complaint stated.

Said Swarup Sarkar of SFF, “There a big hue and cry if a wife is hurt by her husband, but a blind eye is turned when there’s a public display of a wife hitting her husband. Any sort of violence between the spouses is considered illegal and termed as domestic violence or gender violence across the world. Depicting violence on national TV is unacceptable.”

Some groups have also written to Kitply asking it to withdraw the commercial or face legal action and have also called to boycott any product whose ads talk or promote domestic violence. Some women organisations have also joined in the campaign.

Talking to DNA from Kolkata, a Kitply official acknowledged receiving complaints to withdraw the commercial. “We do not feel the ad is offensive. But since there are complaints, we will discuss it in the managing committee meeting this week. It will be difficult to withdraw the ad because we have already tied up with the TV channels. But the final decision will be taken in the meeting,” said Sandeep Sawalka, senior operations manager of Kitply.

Men groups have also protested against a Hindustan Lever Limited, Ponds commercial promoting a scar-removing fairness cream and an ICICI Prudential Insurance commercial.

“The Ponds ad terms husbands as wife beaters and the ICICI ad portrays verbal and economical abuse against men,” said Suresh Ram of Chennai-based organisation Indiya Kudumba Pathukappu Iyaakam.
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Saturday, March 15, 2014

Open letter- AAP's views & strategies?: Men's(& Families') right violation

Messers,

I hope you are all aware, albeit in various degrees, of the misuse of laws intended for women-protection, which has actually shriveled entire societies in the west, and which could very well be traced back to a considerable loss of productivity in India and a threat to India's development as a nation itself.

Iam referring to the widespread misuse of laws like Rape(IPC 375) , Dowry laws(Dowry prohibition act of 1961), Dowry Death(IPC 304B), Abetment of Suicide(IPC 306), Cruelty against wife(IPC 498a), Domestic Violence Act, 2005, Sexual Harassment of Women at Work Place act, 2013, the various Maintenance acts(Sec 125 of Cr.PC, sections of Hindu Marriage acts & Hindi adoption and maintenance act, etc), Child access and custody laws. 

All these, and more, laws are being misused against Men and his family members, including women of his house and other female relatives who may be staying apart(married sisters, their families), and lakhs are getting arrested and entangled in the legal web for extended periods of time.

For details you may visit these blog posts, just to ensure that any of you are not under the wrong influence of "myths"

Common Myths and arguments, when it comes to misuse of women-protection laws:

"Such instances of misuse of women-protection laws form a minuscule percentage and hence can be safely ignored. Anyway 99% of marriages are 'Good'! " , 

"Women do not risk breaking their own marriages by filing false cases" ,

"Fathers are unable to take care of children and they don't even want to take the responsibility of bringing them up" , 

"Every law is misused so there is nothing great about these laws getting misused", 

"These are small skirmishes in families/offices/society, which is unavoidable and anyway doesn't affect anything in the bigger scheme of things or the Nation in general!"

"Myth buster links"

"How the Indian government imported Weapons of Male(& family) destruction(WMD) from the United States " - http://menseekjustice.blogspot.com/2010/02/great-india-domestic-violence-tamasha.html


http://pragati.nationalinterest.in/2013/01/misuse-of-women-centric-laws (Misuse of women-centric laws, affecting senior citizens, infants & minor children, women themselves and men).



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Do let me and the groups I represent know your views and strategies to address these issues, which are of grave importance to the basic units of any nation(families) and hence India as nation in general.


 Awaiting your swift response to take up necessary actions, especially in view of the upcoming elections.

***************My follow-up mail on 16th March***************

Dear members and officials of AAP please do reply to my Open letter sent/published yesterday. Please read on for some govt. statistics in this regard.






What will Bindu Krishna(Congress party candidate from Attingal, Kerala) & Sarah Josesh(Aam Aadmi Party Kerala à´†ം ആദ്à´®ി à´ªാà´°്à´Ÿ്à´Ÿി à´•േà´°à´³ംcandidate from Thrissur, Kerala), who claim to work for the welfare of women, do for these women and their families?. 

Aam Aadmi Party Thrissur à´†ം ആദ്à´®ി à´ªാà´°്à´Ÿി à´¤ൃà´¶്à´¶ൂà´°് Aam Aadmi PartyAam Aadmi Party - Kochi please do reply to my Open letter sent/published yesterday, quoted above: http://at498a.blogspot.in/2014/03/aaps-views-strategies-mens-families.html


***************My follow-up mail on 18th March***************

Subject: Attn.Mr.Karassery: Ref: Your statement in today's Mathrubhumi & AAP's views & strategies?: Men's(& Families') right violation

Dear Mr.M.N.Karassery and all concerned at AAP,

Glad to note Mr.M.N.Karassery's statement that justice should be served irrespective of gender, religion and social status(today's, 18th March Mathrubhumi). We hope that you spread this message and also implement this in your work with AAP.

Please read my open letter to AAP: http://at498a.blogspot.in/2014/03/aaps-views-strategies-mens-families.html. I have not got any reply from anyone in AAP regarding this, which puts a dark shadow over their intentions in this regard. I would anyway be grateful if you(or anyone concerned and responsible enough to reply to a genuine corncern by a citizen) could reply as to what AAP's view and strategies are to curb the misuse of laws intended for protection, which was termed by Supreme Court of India as "Legal Terrorism". 

***************My follow-up mail on 20th March***************

Messers,

I haven't still received even an acknowledgement for my various email, I hope you are not evading these uncomfortable questions, if you are then you are no better than the current crop of Politicial Parties who do not care about the issues of people.

Today's example is this: 

Another perishes in face of 'Legal Terrorism


Hope you show the moral responsibility and conviction to answer my original question: AAP's views & strategies? regarding Men's(& Families') right violation


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Warm Regards,

Gokul.P.R, http://gokul.go.to, 9633409355(Kerala)
Twitter: http://twitter.com/gokulpr, FB: https://www.facebook.com/gokulpr
Editor - www.siftimes.com , www.protectindianfamily.org, www.mensrights.in
Member - All India Men's Welfare Association(www.aimwa.in),
National Litigant Bench(www.litigantbench.org)


Counseling helpline for Men in distress - "Man's Voice": http://bit.ly/mansvoice
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I blog at:
http://at498a.blogspot.com
http://bok498a.blogspot.com
http://siftimes.blogspot.com
http://cruiserdeep.blogspot.com
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Cowardice asks...."Is it safe?", Expedience asks "Is it politic?", Vanity asks...."Is it popular?"... There comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, politic, nor popular, but one must take it because it is right: Martin Luther King, Jr.


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Monday, May 27, 2013

Law Commission report on IPC 498a

REPORT: LAW COMMISSION OF INDIA
Subject: Section 498A IPC
Report No.243, AUGUST 2012

http://lawcommissionofindia.nic.in/reports/report243.pdf

Read and ensure that favourable directions of this report is implemented, use RTI, make us of online and offline methods public awareness campaigns like Pamphlets, Articles, Press conference/ Press releases, information dissemination on Facebook, Twitter, Google Plus and other social networking sites, email, websites, comments on blogs and websites, etc.,.

Monday, February 08, 2010

Programme on Custody Battle & legal terrorism

Purushottam's crusade against legal terrorism continues, in this program(in Marathi, by Zee Marathi) his child custody struggles are depicted along with his resistance against legal terrorism.







Summary of this program(for non-marathi guys)



This is a nice programme on Zee Marathi, called "Yaala Jivan Aise Naav". Loosely translated as "This is what is called Life".

The show is hosted by Renuka Shahane. The show is very down to earth, and it aims to put forth, problems suffered by common men. The show is characterized by it simplicity, and its direct to the problem approach,
avoiding all the publicity gimmicks rampant nowadays.

In the episode on 6th February, a gentleman, by the name Purushottam Mahajan, had appeared on the show.

After hearing his plight, everyone's eye's welled with tears, including the ever cheerful Renuka Shahane, even she couldn't control her tears. Even though the court, had granted visitation rights to this father, his wife, didn't allowed him access to his only son. It is more then 10 months, that this father, hasn't even had a glimpse of his only son, whom he so dearly loves. And the Family court hasn't even done anything about it, even when this is a glaring contempt of court.

Such was the father-son bonding, that his little son, had himself, requested the marriage counsellor in court, to increase the visitation time with his father. Whenever this father used to visit his son at his school, his son would point to his friends, and tell them, see " There comes my best friend !".

When his wife was leaving his house, the police had accompanied her. At that time, his son, requested the wife "Mummy, maybe, we shouldn't leave Papa's house". On hearing this the cruel wife started thrashing that 9 year old child, with her chappal. Such was her cruelty towards even her own child that even the Police were moved.

Bowing to his wife's wishes the husband had left his career in films, and took a job in a bank. He helped her start a beauty parlor. He tried to inculcate good values in her. He took her to places like British Council Library, etc, but she was never into it. In the mean time, she developed extra marital relationships with a police officer, which later she used to harass her husband. Not contend with verbally abusing her husband, she used to physically abuse him too. Add to all this she always insulting him, and his parents. In short, she had his life a hell.

Amongst all this it was SIFF, which offered him hope, and gave him the determination to fight against
this injustice. SIFF'ian Ajit Sakharkar helped him a lot.

Also see other news videos related to Purushottam below:





Friday, November 13, 2009

International Mens Day... for real men

You are Invited on Men’s Day 19th Nov 2009

PIFF (Protect Indian Family Foundation) and IFF (Indian Family Foundation) are celebrating International Mens Day on 19th November 2009 at Azad Maidan(11 A.M to 4 P.M). An awareness vehicle rally, consisting of about 50 motorcycles and four wheelers, starting from Mulund will be converging at Azad Maidan by 12.30 pm.

We are part of the Save Indian Family Movement. This movement was initiated by victims of law who were falsely accused or threatened of law misuse, done with a view to take undue advantage, when a male family member’s marriage fails due to some other reason other than the false criminal accusation.

Male plight have always been the butt of jokes or cartoons and have never been taken seriously as their suffering is taken for granted or ignored. On this mens day we would like to pay tribute to the undisputable hard working taxpayer, Men, who pays approximately 82% taxes to the Government of India. Legal atrocities on us has been termed as “Legal Terrorism” by Supreme Court and recently the government has advised not to rush for Arrests of the Innocent Family of the Groom, as gross misuse of cruel Marriage laws has been observed for years together.

We would like to call for your Unconditional and Overwhelming support in demanding a basic constitutional infrastructure and machinery for Men and his family members.

- Calling the government attention for Introducing a Ministry for Men regarding welfare of mens and related issues.
- Introducing a suo motu (By Default) punishment in the IPC for misuse of any law(especially laws concerned with families) irrespective of gender.
- Creating Machinery for Men to get his serious grievances recorded as crime against men and thus allow generating statistics for men to help understand his plight better.
- Identify his emotional needs as a father and allow a shared parenting during marital dispute.
- Protect the Mother and Sister and other relatives of Husband during marital dispute.

We are only against the misuse of any law on any innocent. We are not against any strata of the society. We are for protection of a vulnerable section in the society. We believe that law should treat everyone equal without blindly favoring / opposing any group.

We look forward for your support and participation in making this International Men’s day a great success.

RSVP.
Public Relations Officer: 9930889008 / 9769770498 / 9224335577
info@protectindianfamily.org , help@iff-ngo.org
Indian Family Foundation and Protect Indian Family Foundation (Mumbai)

Supported by: Save Indian Family Foundation Bangaluru, Chattisgarh, Save Family Foundation Delhi, Hridaya Kolkatta, Pati Parivar Kalyan Samiti Lucknow, Save Family Welfare System Indore, All India Forgotten Women Hyderabad, Mothers And Sisters Initiative Delhi, All India Mother In Law Protection Forum Nagpur. Gender Human Rights Society Delhi, Child Rights and Famliy Welfare Mumbai, Bhavya Foundation Moradabad, Childs Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting Bangaluru. Sahana Hyderabad, Rakshak Foundation USA, 498a.org USA, Mynation.net (Middle East), Indiya Kudumba Pathukappu Iyakkam Chennai, Family India Lifeline Kochi, All India Men’s Welfare Association Bangaluru.

www.protectindianfamily.org www.iff-ngo.org www.savefamily.org www.498a.org www.saveindianfamily.org www.ghrs.in www.crisp-india.org www.bhavyafoundation.org www.aifw.info www.sahanaindia.org www.mynation.net www.aimpf.org http://www.antidowry.org

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We got a lot of media coverage for IMD events(Vehicel Rally and Dharna), as follows:

1) A two part series of articles by Alisha Coelho, Mid Day, who did articles about IMD on 2 days(on the eve(18th) and post IMD on 20th November).


Mid_day News Video:

3) Hindustan Times Article: ‘Harassed’ husbands rally for equal laws on International Men’s Day (http://at498a.blogspot.com/2009/12/ht-article-post-international-mens-day.html)

4) DNA Article: 'Harassed' husbands take up cudgels (http://at498a.blogspot.com/2009/12/dna-article-post-international-mens-day.html)

5) Top News Article: ‘Harassed’ husbands rally for equal laws on International Men’s Day (http://at498a.blogspot.com/2009/12/topnews-article-post-international-mens.html)

IMD Videos

Rally Part-1:

IMD Rally Part-2:

IMD Dharna-Protest:


Rally and Dharna Pictures: http://picasaweb.google.com/send2jaspreet/BikeRallyMensDay2009

For more details on events across the world: http://internationalmensday-india.blogspot.com

Last years Mumbai IMD rally news reports: http://at498a.blogspot.com/2008/11/mens-day-vehicle-rally-mumbai-media.html



Sunday, October 26, 2008

First Contact Advice

This is my routine first reply for all new members who contact me with queries, the readers of this blog also could benefit by this
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First and foremost, please attend the weekly counseling meetings at Mulund(or Borivli), if you are around Mumbai. We conduct these meetings on every Sunday, 4 to 7pm at Chintaman Deshmukh Garden, Mahatma Phule Road, Mulund(east), very near local train station. Please call 9322156141(PIFF Helpline)/ 9833066726 (Suhail) to confirm or if in doubt. For confirming the Borivli based meeting details call Jinesh on 9820241589/9769770498(IFF Helpline) .

Please attend the weekly meetings for counseling and support near you, find the nearest venue from the helplines of All India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA)/Mynation/SIF (http://aimwa.in/contact, http://mynation.net/contact-us and http://www.saveindianfamily.in) and attend weekly meetings, which will help you solve your issues. It is very important to attend meetings/talk to fellow victims-turned-victors, etc., since it will give peace of mind more than anything in the first meeting itself. Everyone comes to meetings feeling very unlucky/cursed since they think they are the only ones having these troubles, but when u meet others in the same boat, not only u will resolve the "why me" question in your own minds, but also get a definite and positive direction on which you can work and solve your problems

There is so much collective knowledge to be tapped, in terms of working of courts, how cases proceed, what to keep in mind when dealing with advocates, and hundreds of other aspects of how to stay peaceful and still solve your problems - these inputs u wont get on any site or book, that’s a guarantee- meetings transform the people who have the will to transform.

I would recommend that you join SIF(saveindianfamily) yahoo group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily , where you can post your specific queries and can expect to get replies from the 4000 odd members in this group, who are highly passionate about fighting this kind of misuse of law and are knowledgeable than even an average advocate. The message archives of SIF yahoo group also will be helpful in getting more insight to any kind of legal situation that you may be in(you can search with Keywords related to your case).

See this for some links and resources which will help you to research solutions yourselves. Also call the helpline numbers near to you( given below) and meet the local group at their weekly meetings.

In the meanwhile go through some blog posts I had written about counter cases and using the Joginder Kumar Vs State of UP judgement for getting a fair investigation done in your case. See: http://at498a.blogspot.com/2008/05/impending-498a-send-this.html , http://bok498a.blogspot.com/2008/07/post-498a-getting-fair-investigation.html , http://bok498a.blogspot.com/2008/07/counter-cases-during-and-after-case.html and http://bok498a.blogspot.com/2008/06/first-strikers-advantage-live-saving.html

With the recent Cr.PC amendment(notified/enforced in November 2010) arrests in 498a is going to be a lesser threat since as per this amendment a warrant from the court is required to arrest any accused(of crimes with less than 7 years of imprisonment). A notice of appearance would be issued by the police to the accused who should then co-operate with the investigation, so no more arbitrary arrests by police. See an RTI reply Ministry of Home Affairs confirming that this Cr.PC amendment has been notified and is effective from 1st November, 2010


Please do your bit by sending the above RTI to the chief of police(DGP) of your state and ask for compliance, by all police stations in the state, with respect to this Cr.PC(section 41A) amendment.


For Free Advise, click here or call our help-lines worldwide

Help-Line Numbers.
Mumbai: 9322156141, 8652843011, 9820241589 Nagpur: 9890974788
Nasik: 9371988132, 9822011250, 9890656219 Pune: 9923056460, 9922379103, 9850883751
Delhi: 9911119113, 9891369616, 9811624141 Calcutta: 9231835462, 9830151555, 9830927619
Kanpur: 9839038424, 9335014984,9935239764 Bangalore: 80-65334135, 9845986250
Jaipur 9352562456 Kerala 9895557765, 9995433034, 9995308518 Gujarat 9825365816, 9898989884 U.S.A +650-430-9544, +612-812-4340, +917- 512-5362 Kuwait +965-3869295

In return we just need you to raise your voice in whatever way possible so that we can together see the end of this legal terrorism in families, families which are the real strength of India(and may be that’s why families are being systematically targeted and broken down by vested interests and neo-imperialists!)

Warm Regards,

Gokul, 
 http://gokul.go.to, 9633409355(Kerala)
Twitter: http://twitter.com/gokulpr, FB: https://www.facebook.com/gokulpr
Editor - www.siftimes.com , www.protectindianfamily.orgwww.mensrights.in
Member - All India Men's Welfare Association(www.aimwa.in),
National Litigant Bench(www.litigantbench.org)


Counseling helpline for Men in distress - "Man's Voice": http://bit.ly/mansvoice
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I blog at:
http://at498a.blogspot.com
http://bok498a.blogspot.com
http://siftimes.blogspot.com
http://cruiserdeep.blogspot.com
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Cowardice asks...."Is it safe?", Expedience asks "Is it politic?", Vanity asks...."Is it popular?"... There comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, politic, nor popular, but one must take it because it is right: Martin Luther King, Jr.


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