The Maha relay vehicle rally for Men's rights(pan-India)

The Maha relay vehicle rally for Men's rights(pan-India): In conjunction with the National meet for men's rights, Chennai, 2012.

Need riders for The Maha Relay vehicle rally for Men's rights(pan-India): Only a relay format rally would be feasible for most of us, for the ones who are on/planning to be on a sabbatical a ride till delhi is well possible(radial routes to Chennai(where the National meet for Men's rights is going to be conducted this year, mostly on 17th and 18th of November) from their hometowns in various parts of India).

The plan is to conduct the rally from November 8th to 15th, start points being North end of India, South, West and East(and may be others if local centres fall in between these coordinates). The longest route may be from the North End of India(say Delhi or Chandigarh) to Chennai, which will be the longest to cover(2100 & 2424 kms respectively), one can easily do 400-500 Km per day(on bikes, cars can do more but they will have to pace with the bikes since its a rally, not a race!) with planned stops for food/breaks and SIF events/dharnas/press conferences... which means a relay team can reach Chennaii from Delhi or Punjab in max 6 days, but lets keep 1 day for buffer/rest/contingency., so 7 days max to Chennai from any extreme of India).

As of now the following members have shown interest in this relay bike rally for Men's rights:
Name Starting from
1) Gokul.P.R - Thrissur, Kerala
2) Amit Yadav - Delhi
3) Atit Rajpara - Pune
4) Yaksh - Lucknow
5) Suhail - Mumbai
6) Sachit - Delhi
7) D.S.Rao - Kolkata
8) Amol - Pune
9) Aggarwal - Gurgaon

We need to execute this "Maha relay rally for Men's rights(pan-India)" milestone... the media frenzy it could whip up and the resultant public interest would be among last nails in the coffin of misandry in India, so screw it..... lets do it(as goes the title of Richard Branson's .book:http://sharatthakur.com/?p=8).

Need more volunteers who can ride and organise a local group from wherever they plan to start the relay rally from(need not ride the full length till Chennai, since its a relay rally one can ride for how muchever kilometers he is comfortable in joining the rally).

At the end of the rally riders can attend the All India Men's rights National meet, conducted in Chennai this year(venue and other confirmed details will be announced later). We can arrange for the bikes to be transported back to the respective locations too, so do not hesitate, we are all here to make this mega events sizzle, just sign up and the rest ... we will all make it happen.

Let me know on gokul (At) siftimes.com , your responses to the groups/forums may not be noticed all the time, so do send your responses to my emailid too. 

Also join this event at https://www.facebook.com/events/228358760577591/ , comment, participate and spread the word by inviting your contacts too to this event.https://www.facebook.com/events/228358760577591/

NATIONAL FATHERS DAY RALLY

NATIONAL FATHERS DAY RALLY

We the members of CRISP have organized a “NATIONAL FATHERS DAY RALLY” on 19th June 2010, to stop the creation of a fatherless society which coincides with fathers day which is celebrated throughout the world to recognize and to honor the fathers for everything they are doing for the children& express gratitude for their love, care and protection to their children.

Details of the function:
Time : 10:00 AM to 1.30 PM
Venue : Mahatma Gandhi Statue, MG Road, Bangalore.

CRISP is an NGO formed in 2008 at Bangalore by people who recognized the serious effects of Parental Alienation of children due to single parenting in divorce/separation. Now we have chapters throughout the country. CRISP speaks up for the Rights of Children to remain connected with and enjoy the love of both the natural parents being divorced or separated. Our aims and objectives are based on research findings. Our members come from all walks of life, like software engineers, doctors, teachers, businessmen, social workers, etc. which includes women and senior citizens. All family roles like grandparents, fathers, mothers, etc., are being represented. CRISP has charted a Pro-Family agenda to promote family harmony in our society.
Parental Alienation: Psychological Effects on the Child

Parental alienation occurs when one parent estranges the children from the other parent for personal vendetta. Children are brainwashed (used as pawns in divorce/ separation) by the dominant parent against the non-custodial parent (usually fathers). This brings a lot of mental distress & trauma to the child and the alienated parent and is particularly damaging to the child’s psychology and is Child Abuse. Extensive psychological studies over decades collectively called “The Spectrum of Parental Alienation Syndrome1” describe the detrimental effects on the child. In western countries, mainly U.S and Europe, organizations (including medical, judicial & NGOs) have gone into the depths of this and are trying hard to preserve families and save children. Unfortunately, our own country which once prided possessing “family values” now needs to learn basic lessons from the west. Its a well known fact that neglected children and children from broken families are more prone to take to crime. In India, NOT even a single such study/ research has been done. There is a serious need to commit to research and save children from this situation, which is completely being ignored. As a society, we are largely ignorant of the effects.

Indian legal system and society at large is still based on a patriarchal mindset which considers fathers incapable of nurturing children which is incorrect. Men are as capable as women to be caregivers and bring up children in a normal way. Even if the woman (mother) assumes that the man is not a good husband, it is out of place to say he is not also a good father for the children until there is strong evidence against the father. Thus, women (mothers) need to understand that her animosity for the husband & his family should be kept separate from the child’s need for his/her father and must share the children with their estranged husband in the best interest of their children. After all, the father if far better than strangers, servants, day-care and nannies!

Judicial & Governmental Apathy: Anti-Child, Anti-Father & Anti-Family

Divorce/ Separation is between spouses. Not child and parent. This is common sense. There is no law requiring a normal father to keep away from his child, in divorce/ separation proceedings. On the other hand, U.N’s Child Rights Convention (to which India also acceded about 20 years ago and then did nothing about) requires the state (of which the Judicial systems are a part) to ensure that
the child does not suffer separation! However, the way justice is administered, the child is separated from the father (mostly) for years! One has to “apply” for “visitation” that takes years to “grant” and even then for a paltry time. Innocent children suffer because parents are separating & fight for their egos! Our judicial mechanism has a deplorable understanding of child welfare based on biased and outdated social concepts. The father is a relegated to a mere “visitor”, eliminating involvement in the child’s life and just a “maintenance” paying ATM machine. It virtually condemns the child to an illegitimate. This is neither in the child’s nor the family’s interest and destroys the foundation for the future generation.

It’s a fact that even convicted criminals have better access to their children 2.That is the extent of judicial apathy towards children and good fathers in family courts!
Our Family Laws and Courts are not only functioning insensitively in an anti-child, anti-father and anti-family manner, but are also flouting U.N’s Child Rights Convention (CRC) and even the Constitution of India3. Child’s rights cannot be subordinated to anything!

The Indian judiciary would do well to educate itself, provide training to judges and inculcate good international practices in the family law systems. The judiciary must become more accountable, transparent, improve the quality of justice and urgently implement extensive judicial reforms in right earnest, if it wishes to be a credible and potent justice system.

Why is a Family institution needed in the first place? Family is the most fundamental building block of society. It builds healthy human beings and healthy society. When family system breaks, its leads to serious social consequences4 and surge in crime rates. A main contributor to teenage pregnancies is broken families. It’s well known that children from broken homes are more prone to crime.

In US, it has been found after extensive scientific research that children from broken families without a father are:

14 times more likely to commit rape
5 times more likely to commit suicide
20 times more likely to end up in prison
10 times more likely to take drugs
32 times more likely to run away from home
20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders
9 times more likely to drop out of school
9 times more likely to end up in a state operated institution

From here it’s a short step to even more serious anti-national crimes like terrorism. Social upheaval/ instability are heavily exploited by anti-nationals and terrorists.

For a country like India, the breaking of the family system will be catastrophic to social well being and economic growth. Even today, the government spends crores on internal security. People are spending years in courts instead of engaging productively.

CRISP’s Achievements

Extensively campaigned to implement SHARED PARENTING. Currently engaging with the government on this. In-fact, National Commission for Protection Of Child Rights (NCPCR), Government of India appreciated CRISP for educating the society and legal fraternity on the significance of Shared Parenting.



1.CRISP has created a national forum and made representations to the Chief Justice of India,
WCD Ministry and Law Commission to make Shared Parenting mandatory.

2.Over 2500 members strong and growing. Now CRISP has 7 chapters across the nation.

3.Mothers who have been deprived of child custody are also members of CRISP.

4.Some reputed women’s organizations are supporting CRISP’s efforts.

5.Engaging with leading medical professionals to provide quality counseling. This is to prevent
suicides of deprived and abused fathers like Syed Makhdoom who committed suicide and whose
child is now fatherless.

6.CRISP has conducted several workshops, seminars and press meets pertaining to children issues
and sensitized the society and successfully spread the message of shared parenting.

7.Many deprived parents have benefited from CRISP counseling and have successfully got orders
for weekends and 50% vacation custody of their children.

8.CRISP provides quality information through its website www.crisp-india.org. Thousands of victims
have made use of this information which is the first of its kind in the country.


CRISP’s Demands:

• Basic right of children to access both biological parents
• Implementation of UN’s Child Rights Convention and Hague’s Convention on Parental Child Abduction.
• Implement SHARED PARENTING / JOINT CUSTODY as a rule in separation and divorce cases.
• Setting up Special Guardian Courts in every major city
• Speedy and quality justice (within 3 months)
• Rational and Gender neutral Family Laws (including DV Act)
• Create a separate Child Welfare Ministry at the National Level and separate from WCD Ministry
• Laws against International Parental Child Abduction and Child Alienation
• Enroll organizations like NIMHANS to carry out research on Child Psychology of separated children. Laws to be framed based on scientific studies.
• Compulsory counseling to parent-litigants on Shared Parenting for child’s welfare.
• Ban child interviews of tender age children, who have not had adequate access with the noncustodial parent.
• Appoint psychologists/ child psychologists as mediators and to encourage shared parenting.
• Ban lawyers as mediators! They are suited for arbitration not mediation!
• Ban lawyers form Family Courts (implement the Family Court Act which discourages engaging lawyers).Encourage party in person after giving adequate counseling.
• Grant visitation rights to grand parents who want to have access to the grandchildren.
• Harsh Punishment for Child Abusers including non-compliance of court orders concerning child visitation.
• Punish people who misuse dowry & domestic violence act as a weapon to cut off the children from the father.
• Make the domestic violence act gender neutral and also to protect the child from domestic violence from even the mother.

We appeal & invite our media friends to kindly grace the occasion since media has a very important role in educating the society on this highly sensitive subject of children who constitute 40% of the population and not vote banks & ensure our children are saved from being fatherless since the divorce rates in the cities are escalating and in Bangalore alone there are over 15000 cases pending.

Speakers for the press conference are:
Kumar V Jahgirdar President CRISP
Anil Kumar President Save Indian Family (NGO)
Roshni Mathan Teacher and Woman’s Rights Activist
Jayanth T.K Legal Counselor

CRISP’s is supported by the following NGOs and organizations:
SAVE INDIAN FAMILY
SUMANGALI SEVA ASHRAMA
FAMILY HARMONY SOCIETY
PURE (Mysore)
AIMPF, AIDPF

SOURCE:
1. The American Bar Association initiated a 12 year study by Dr. Richard Gardner and subsequently
carried forward by many others.
2. Francis Cora lie Mullin vs. The Administrator, Union Territory of Delhi, (1981) 2 SCR 516
(Justice P.N Bhagwati) which struck down Rule 559A of the Punjab Prison’s manual and allowed
a detune to see his/her child twice a week.
3. 1978 AIR 597 MANEKA GANDHI vs. Union of India: Article 21 of the Constitution enshrines
the right to life and liberty which includes right to a dignified life, free from social stigma, freedom
of movement. Article 39(e) & (f) protects a child from abuse!
4. U.S Department of Justice, National Criminal Justice Reference Service
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/pubalp2.htm#csus
http://www.ncjrs.gov/app/Search/Abstracts.aspx?id=206316

KUMAR V JAHGIRDAR
President CRISP
Childrens Rights Initiative For Shared Parenting (CRISP)
(Regd. NGO) www.crisp-india.org (email: kvjahgirdar@yahoo.com)
# 78, Osborne Road, (Near Lake Side Hospital), Bangalore - 42, India.
Helpline No: +91 80 25593848, Mobile No: +91 98452 64488.

More at Fathers Day Rally organised in Bangalore paper report  and Press release by Bhavya foundation

International Mens Day... for real men

You are Invited on Men’s Day 19th Nov 2009

PIFF (Protect Indian Family Foundation) and IFF (Indian Family Foundation) are celebrating International Mens Day on 19th November 2009 at Azad Maidan(11 A.M to 4 P.M). An awareness vehicle rally, consisting of about 50 motorcycles and four wheelers, starting from Mulund will be converging at Azad Maidan by 12.30 pm.

We are part of the Save Indian Family Movement. This movement was initiated by victims of law who were falsely accused or threatened of law misuse, done with a view to take undue advantage, when a male family member’s marriage fails due to some other reason other than the false criminal accusation.

Male plight have always been the butt of jokes or cartoons and have never been taken seriously as their suffering is taken for granted or ignored. On this mens day we would like to pay tribute to the undisputable hard working taxpayer, Men, who pays approximately 82% taxes to the Government of India. Legal atrocities on us has been termed as “Legal Terrorism” by Supreme Court and recently the government has advised not to rush for Arrests of the Innocent Family of the Groom, as gross misuse of cruel Marriage laws has been observed for years together.

We would like to call for your Unconditional and Overwhelming support in demanding a basic constitutional infrastructure and machinery for Men and his family members.

- Calling the government attention for Introducing a Ministry for Men regarding welfare of mens and related issues.
- Introducing a suo motu (By Default) punishment in the IPC for misuse of any law(especially laws concerned with families) irrespective of gender.
- Creating Machinery for Men to get his serious grievances recorded as crime against men and thus allow generating statistics for men to help understand his plight better.
- Identify his emotional needs as a father and allow a shared parenting during marital dispute.
- Protect the Mother and Sister and other relatives of Husband during marital dispute.

We are only against the misuse of any law on any innocent. We are not against any strata of the society. We are for protection of a vulnerable section in the society. We believe that law should treat everyone equal without blindly favoring / opposing any group.

We look forward for your support and participation in making this International Men’s day a great success.

RSVP.
Public Relations Officer: 9930889008 / 9769770498 / 9224335577
info@protectindianfamily.org , help@iff-ngo.org
Indian Family Foundation and Protect Indian Family Foundation (Mumbai)

Supported by: Save Indian Family Foundation Bangaluru, Chattisgarh, Save Family Foundation Delhi, Hridaya Kolkatta, Pati Parivar Kalyan Samiti Lucknow, Save Family Welfare System Indore, All India Forgotten Women Hyderabad, Mothers And Sisters Initiative Delhi, All India Mother In Law Protection Forum Nagpur. Gender Human Rights Society Delhi, Child Rights and Famliy Welfare Mumbai, Bhavya Foundation Moradabad, Childs Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting Bangaluru. Sahana Hyderabad, Rakshak Foundation USA, 498a.org USA, Mynation.net (Middle East), Indiya Kudumba Pathukappu Iyakkam Chennai, Family India Lifeline Kochi, All India Men’s Welfare Association Bangaluru.

www.protectindianfamily.org www.iff-ngo.org www.savefamily.org www.498a.org www.saveindianfamily.org www.ghrs.in www.crisp-india.org www.bhavyafoundation.org www.aifw.info www.sahanaindia.org www.mynation.net www.aimpf.org http://www.antidowry.org

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We got a lot of media coverage for IMD events(Vehicel Rally and Dharna), as follows:

1) A two part series of articles by Alisha Coelho, Mid Day, who did articles about IMD on 2 days(on the eve(18th) and post IMD on 20th November).

The Mid-Day article on 18th nov was a photo feature: "Mard ko bhi dard hota hai "( http://at498a.blogspot.com/2009/12/mid-day-photo-feature-on-international.html ).

2) Mid-day article post IMD on 20th "We don't need dowry, cry harassed husbands" -( http://at498a.blogspot.com/2009/12/mid-day-article-post-international-mens.html) which also had the following News video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKtueosbuVI

Mid_day News Video:

3) Hindustan Times Article: ‘Harassed’ husbands rally for equal laws on International Men’s Day (http://at498a.blogspot.com/2009/12/ht-article-post-international-mens-day.html)

4) DNA Article: 'Harassed' husbands take up cudgels (http://at498a.blogspot.com/2009/12/dna-article-post-international-mens-day.html)

5) Top News Article: ‘Harassed’ husbands rally for equal laws on International Men’s Day (http://at498a.blogspot.com/2009/12/topnews-article-post-international-mens.html)

IMD Videos

Rally Part-1:

IMD Rally Part-2:

IMD Dharna-Protest:

Rally and Dharna Pictures: http://picasaweb.google.com/send2jaspreet/BikeRallyMensDay2009

For more details on events across the world: http://internationalmensday-india.blogspot.com

Last years Mumbai IMD rally news reports: http://at498a.blogspot.com/2008/11/mens-day-vehicle-rally-mumbai-media.html

Men's Day Vehicle Rally, Mumbai-Media Coverage

More Photos at: http://picasaweb.google.com/send2jaspreet/MumbaiBikeRally?authkey=ke61qSX3oT8

First weekly meeting in western-suburbs of Mumbai- resolutions and action points, event calender ahead

I am glad(I am actually holding back my sheer elation) to announce the newly formed email distribution list of mumbai, now onwards u can reach the core-group of Mumbai(PIF, NGO) by mailing to a single maild, ie. mumbai (at) protectindianfamily (dot) org

This is the start of a quantum jump in Mumbai's activity levels. Yesterday in the first weekly meeting of the western line(Venue: Goregaon)We were discussing Mumbai's evolution in SIF history, although we were among the first movers to start SIF group activities(back in 2005 Sept 11th we had our first group meeting at Powai, blogged at http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2005/09/mumbai-meeting-no1.html ), mumbai was the first among the SIF brigades to conduct a seminar: http://at498a.blogspot.com/2006/08/legal-awareness-seminar-coping-with_18.html ), the first among innovative awareness programs : http://at498a.blogspot.com/2008/03/sif-presentation-at-15th-annual.html and http://at498a.blogspot.com/2007/09/peace-ride-on-bikes-around-bombay30th.html , etc. etc.

Even with these commendable firsts, the fact remained that these pockets of excellence were only possible due to a very few dedicated members, and given that their whole-hearted efforts coming out of the firm conviction that piece-meal solutions will not solve the critical problems of the opulation at large, nor will solving personal cases bring immunity to oneself in future(misuse of family laws are, by nature, multi-directional, counter-intuitive and even beyond regular estimation or risk-assesments). But like a chinese bamboo shoot we had been systematically growing our roots in mumbai without much fuss or notice by even close associates, now this chinese bamboo is ready to achieve phenomenal growth which is well within the capabilities of the well motivated group we have now in Mumbai(bamboos grow their roots first, and then after couple of years, grows leaps and bounds after it has spread its roots enough to ensure food-security and sustainability in growth and existence!).

With these thoughts I would like to invite your attention to watch Mumbai group(Protect Indian Family, NGO- For family harmony, against legal terrorism) and to prepare yourselves to get ready to be inspired.

We pledge that we will not betray ur trust, we will only exceed expectations and targets we set for ourselves, we will not engage in wasteful exercises/egoistic acts, we shall strive to excel at each endevour we plan, we shall hold truth and justice above our own lives, we shall prevail with truth and justice, we shall do everything which counts to shake-up the system and relieve all of us from the systemic & chronic rot, with a view to present a better tomorrow to our own children and all other inhabitants of this world - "Loka samastha sukhino bhavanthu".

See the brief details about the first weekly meetings in western line(Mumbai) and the discussions which lead to formulation of events until December 2008, planned to be "positively" executed in Mumbai: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/message/105991

Shine on us father, that we reflect your shine unto others..... Avigna Masthu
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Brief details about the first weekly meetings in western line(Mumbai) and the discussions which lead to formulation of events until December 2008, planned to be "positively" executed in Mumbai:

Today we had the first meeting(weekly') in Goregaon(western line) and we have decided upon innvoative events, as well as the tested options like Dharna,Seminars, pls see the events as below

1) October 26th, 2008, 2nd Anniverssary of DV Act(Domestic Violence act)Black march: to mark this "Black Day for Indian families"
2) November 19th- Men's day, Bike/Car rally: 40 bikes and cars with PIF, Mumbai members and out station members
Optional-> Black(prominently) rangoli competitions , 2) Pamphlet distribution booths in V.T & Churchgate + family court(other courts worth which are worth it), other offices of state government,and 3) Candle march
3) 13th December - Dharna and memorandum/stats compiled as a folders andpresent to Home ministry. As a run-up to these events we can start distributing pamphlets as paper inserts, get news paper articles, etc, so that we can get maximum mileage out of every expense we incur.
PS: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/message/101689 (Changes in counselling services from PIF)