Open letter- AAP's views & strategies?: Men's(& Families') right violation

Messers,

I hope you are all aware, albeit in various degrees, of the misuse of laws intended for women-protection, which has actually shriveled entire societies in the west, and which could very well be traced back to a considerable loss of productivity in India and a threat to India's development as a nation itself.

Iam referring to the widespread misuse of laws like Rape(IPC 375) , Dowry laws(Dowry prohibition act of 1961), Dowry Death(IPC 304B), Abetment of Suicide(IPC 306), Cruelty against wife(IPC 498a), Domestic Violence Act, 2005, Sexual Harassment of Women at Work Place act, 2013, the various Maintenance acts(Sec 125 of Cr.PC, sections of Hindu Marriage acts & Hindi adoption and maintenance act, etc), Child access and custody laws. 

All these, and more, laws are being misused against Men and his family members, including women of his house and other female relatives who may be staying apart(married sisters, their families), and lakhs are getting arrested and entangled in the legal web for extended periods of time.

For details you may visit these blog posts, just to ensure that any of you are not under the wrong influence of "myths"

Common Myths and arguments, when it comes to misuse of women-protection laws:

"Such instances of misuse of women-protection laws form a minuscule percentage and hence can be safely ignored. Anyway 99% of marriages are 'Good'! " , 

"Women do not risk breaking their own marriages by filing false cases" ,

"Fathers are unable to take care of children and they don't even want to take the responsibility of bringing them up" , 

"Every law is misused so there is nothing great about these laws getting misused", 

"These are small skirmishes in families/offices/society, which is unavoidable and anyway doesn't affect anything in the bigger scheme of things or the Nation in general!"

"Myth buster links"

http://at498a.blogspot.com/2010/02/economic-terrorism-and-its-family.html or the short link: http://bit.ly/etfamilybreak 

"How the Indian government imported Weapons of Male(& family) destruction(WMD) from the United States " - http://menseekjustice.blogspot.com/2010/02/great-india-domestic-violence-tamasha.html

http://at498a.blogspot.in/2008/04/information-which-one-could-send-media.html 

http://pragati.nationalinterest.in/2013/01/misuse-of-women-centric-laws (Misuse of women-centric laws, affecting senior citizens, infants & minor children, women themselves and men).

http://at498a.blogspot.in/2008/08/unprovoked-suicides-dowry-deaths-in.html

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Do let me and the groups I represent know your views and strategies to address these issues, which are of grave importance to the basic units of any nation(families) and hence India as nation in general.

 Awaiting your swift response to take up necessary actions, especially in view of the upcoming elections.

***************My follow-up mail on 16th March***************

Dear members and officials of AAP please do reply to my Open letter sent/published yesterday. Please read on for some govt. statistics in this regard.

During 2012 in Kerala total 6923 were arrested under IPC 498a(commonly known as Dowry case, in which 98% are found to be innocent as per Govt. statistics, ref: http://ncrb.nic.in/CD-CII2012/Additional_Tables_CII_2012/Additional%20table%202012/CR%20CS%20CV%20PAR%20PCS%20PCV%20under%20IPC%20crimes%20during%202010-2012.xls), 1459 were women & 5464 men (ref:http://ncrb.nic.in/CD-CII2012/Additional_Tables_CII_2012/Additional%20table%202012/Age-group-wise%20and%20sex-wise%20break-up%20of%20persons%20arrested%20under%20IPC%20crimes%20-%202012.xls). 

During 2011 in Kerala total 7305 were arrested under IPC 498a(commonly known as Dowry case, in which 98% are found to be innocent as per Govt. statistics, ref: http://ncrb.nic.in/CD-CII2012/Additional_Tables_CII_2012/Additional%20table%202012/CR%20CS%20CV%20PAR%20PCS%20PCV%20under%20IPC%20crimes%20during%202010-2012.xls), 2013 were women & 5292 men(ref: http://ncrb.nic.in/CD-CII2011/Additional%20table%20cii%202011/Age-group-wise%20and%20sex-wise%20break-up%20of%20persons%20arrested%20under%20IPC%20crimes%20-%202011final.xls). 

During 2010 in Kerala total 7522 were arrested under IPC 498a(commonly known as Dowry case, in which 98% are found to be innocent as per Govt. statistics, ref: http://ncrb.nic.in/CD-CII2012/Additional_Tables_CII_2012/Additional%20table%202012/CR%20CS%20CV%20PAR%20PCS%20PCV%20under%20IPC%20crimes%20during%202010-2012.xls), 1845 were women & 5677 men (ref: http://ncrb.nic.in/cii2010/Additional%20Tables%2010/Additional%20table%20for%20Crime%20in%20India,2010/Age-group-wise%20and%20sex-wise%20break-up%20of%20persons%20arrested%20under%20IPC%20crimes%20-%202010.xls). 

What will Bindu Krishna(Congress party candidate from Attingal, Kerala) & Sarah Josesh(Aam Aadmi Party Kerala ആം ആദ്മി പാര്ട്ടി കേരളംcandidate from Thrissur, Kerala), who claim to work for the welfare of women, do for these women and their families?. 

Aam Aadmi Party Thrissur ആം ആദ്മി പാര്ടി തൃശ്ശൂര് Aam Aadmi PartyAam Aadmi Party - Kochi please do reply to my Open letter sent/published yesterday, quoted above: http://at498a.blogspot.in/2014/03/aaps-views-strategies-mens-families.html

***************My follow-up mail on 18th March***************

Subject: Attn.Mr.Karassery: Ref: Your statement in today's Mathrubhumi & AAP's views & strategies?: Men's(& Families') right violation

Dear Mr.M.N.Karassery and all concerned at AAP,

Glad to note Mr.M.N.Karassery's statement that justice should be served irrespective of gender, religion and social status(today's, 18th March Mathrubhumi). We hope that you spread this message and also implement this in your work with AAP.

Please read my open letter to AAP: http://at498a.blogspot.in/2014/03/aaps-views-strategies-mens-families.html. I have not got any reply from anyone in AAP regarding this, which puts a dark shadow over their intentions in this regard. I would anyway be grateful if you(or anyone concerned and responsible enough to reply to a genuine corncern by a citizen) could reply as to what AAP's view and strategies are to curb the misuse of laws intended for protection, which was termed by Supreme Court of India as "Legal Terrorism". 

***************My follow-up mail on 20th March***************

Messers,

I haven't still received even an acknowledgement for my various email, I hope you are not evading these uncomfortable questions, if you are then you are no better than the current crop of Politicial Parties who do not care about the issues of people.

Today's example is this: 

Another perishes in face of 'Legal Terrorism

Hope you show the moral responsibility and conviction to answer my original question: AAP's views & strategies? regarding Men's(& Families') right violation

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Warm Regards,

Gokul.P.R, http://gokul.go.to, 9633409355(Kerala)
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Editor - www.siftimes.com , www.protectindianfamily.org, www.mensrights.in
Member - All India Men's Welfare Association(www.aimwa.in),
National Litigant Bench(www.litigantbench.org)

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Another man facing legal terrorism takes justice into his hands and then gives up on his own life

Another man facing legal terrorism takes justice into his hands and then gives up on his own life. How many more will have to walk this road before justice prevails.

Pradeep Jain was a victim of legal terrorism(false case of IPC 498a) and was denied access to his child, he broke down and went on a rampage, before he took his own life. This can happen to any man faced with similar situations.... we should act before its late. See the original news in TOI quoted below.

Man kills wife, in-laws

TNN | Aug 29, 2011, 04.29AM IST (Courtesy TOI)

JAIPUR: Pradeep Jain, 32, who shot four members of his in-laws family, including his wife, was on a confrontation with his in-laws since 2006.

After his separation from the family, it was a mutual understanding that the baby would be given to Jain. However, the custody of the child was never given to him.

Addressing a gathering of over 2,000 people after he stepped on to the balcony of his sister's house at Devali town, Jain said: "They have been harassing me since 2006. I was fed up with the way the society including police, women's organizations and relatives responded to my worries and problems."

Pointing a gun on his forehead, he threatened that "if anyone dares to come closer, I will shoot myself." In a high drama that lasted for more than two hours, Jain asked the police to bring media persons to take his viewpoint. "Media se baat karwado nahin to maroonga (Bring media persons for interaction or I will die). Following the threat, reporters of various TV channels gave him the microphone.

'Doston, mein patni, pesha aur zameen se pareshan hum, koi meri nahin sunte (Friends, I am fed up with wife, profession and land and nobody bothers)," he said.
Later, thousands were taken aback when they came to know that he shot himself on the forehead.


**************** Another Victim of Legal Terrorism************


Another depressed father, Syed Makhdoom, had committed suicide on 5th April 09, leaving 4 suicide notes and the video appearing below, which was recorded on his mobile. Here he clearly mentions how he was tortured by his wife & in-laws and that he was not allowed to even see his only son, whom he loved more than his life.


There is also a heart wrenching message to the entire society towards the end. 


It was Syed's suicide which inspired his friend and film maker Mr.Suhaib Ilyasi to make the film "498a - The wedding gift"






When will this end?, when will the system stop cornering men, forcing them to turn desperadoes 

Topnews article post International Men's Day, Mumbai, 2009

‘Harassed’ husbands rally for equal laws on International Men’s Day

Courtsey Top News, Submitted by Sarthak Gupta on Fri, 11/20/2009 - 06:50

Over 100 “harassed”husbands sporting stickers on their shirts with one-liners like ‘My wife gifted me a law suit’ and ‘Hen-pecked or hand-cuffed’, raced their cars from Mulund to Chhatrapati Shivaji Terminus to demand gender equality on the occasion of International Men’s Day on Thursday.

The men, who identify themselves as “victims of wife-centric laws”, are members of various non-governmental organisations united under the Save Indian Family Movement. They later held a demonstration at Azad Maidan to highlight that husbands have become a “vulnerable section” due to the misuse of the domestic violenceand dowry harassment laws.

“We want the law to be gender-neutral. Husbands should also be able to file cases if they are harassed,” said Bunty Jain, one of the participants. He pointed out that the laws were being misused by educated and empowered women in cities while the unlettered women living in villages, who were truly victims of domestic violence, did not even know about it.

The men’s demands include the setting up of a ministry and commission for men. “When there can be ministries for women’s welfare and animal welfare, why isn’t there anything for men who pay 82 per cent of India’s taxes,” said Dr Sandeep Padwade.

The men also want people to understand a father’s emotions and allow joint custody of children during marital disputes. Tejender Singh, whose children live with his wife, was carrying a placard that read: ‘Jasleen, Goldie, Papa loves you’. Another father held up a placard saying, “Children need a father, not visitor.”

Manish Katira from non-governmental organization, Child’s Rights and Family Welfare, said that they had come across many cases where women seeking divorce were threatening to slapdomestic violence cases against their husbands if they did not give up the demand for child custody.

The participants also wanted to use the occasion of Men’s Day to shed their typical manly inhibitions and admit that that they experience pain and cry just like women. Each one had a heart- rending story to tell.

Goregaon resident Purshotam Mahajan recounted how his wife used to beat him every time they got into an argument. “She was having an affair. Every time I confronted her she would start hitting me. I was shocked when she slapped a case of domestic violence on me,” he said. Compact discs with a video of Mahajan’s wife thrashing him were distributed to prove that men need support.

DNA article post International Men's Day events, Mumbai, 2009

'Harassed' husbands take up cudgels

Courtsey DNA , by Surekha S / DNA

Mumbai: "Indian male - hapless animal"; "women empowered men unpowered"; "husband not an ATM machine", "options for Indian male - be henpecked or handcuffed"... these are some of the messages flashed on placards by members of various organisations who had gathered at Azad Maidan on the occasion of International Men's Day on Thursday, to raise their voice against the perceived harassment of men at the hands of the Indian judicial system.

Members of the Indian Family Foundation (IFF), Protect Indian Family Foundation, Child’s Right and Family welfare and the Save Indian Family Movement held a dharna to create awareness about the problems faced by men. A bike rally was also held, with many members from Pune participating.

The men particularly targeted section 498A, which they said is often misused by women to get husbands arrested for harassment. They shouted slogans against the National Commission for Women (NCW) and the misuse of the Domestic Violence Act, and demanded a separate ministry for men.

According to Bunty Jain, founder member, IFF, “Most cases where section 498A is invoked turn out to be false. Baseless allegations are made against men to extort money from them, and the law and the police support women, without making complete inquiries. The laws are wife-centric, not even woman-centric, because the husband’s mother or sister is not taken into account,” he said.

Jain, who calls himself a victim, had to pay a large sum of money to his wife as alimony and is now fighting the domestic violence case that his wife filed against him. “The Domestic Violence Act should be made gender-neutral,” he said.

Rakesh Jaiswal, who was also part of the dharna, feels that the time has now come for men to fight for gender parity. His wife, who left him two years ago, slapped a section 498A dowry harassment case against him and demanded a huge sum as alimony.” She earns about Rs2.5 lakh per annum, but I still have to pay her alimony. How is this fair?” he asked.

Another major concern is child custody, as the men feel it is always tougher for the father to be able to get custody of children. Many women were also part of dharna, most of them the mothers of “harassed” husbands. Borivli resident Kamal Kapadia, 59, claimed that her daughter-in-law made 23 allegations against her, all of them false.

(read the original article at http://www.dnaindia.com/mumbai/report_harassed-husbands-take-up-cudgels_1313960)