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Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Men's rights group battle mandatory child support

India too will reach this state, if the current family breaking laws are allowed to do the damage they are wrecking all around.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Delhi moves to save men from fake dowry cases

Courtesy: CNN-IBN

Delhi moves to save men from fake dowry cases
Jemima Rohekar / CNN-IBN
Published on Tue, Jun 24, 2008 at 02:09, Updated at Tue, Jun 24, 2008 in Nation section

A FAIR TRIAL: This is being done to avoid increasing misuse of the anti-dowry law.

New Delhi: The Delhi government is following in Hyderabad’s footsteps with regard to arrests and probe in dowry cases.

This essentially means those accused of dowry harassment will be arrested only after a thorough probe.

The Delhi police chief says it has been done so as to avoid increasing misuse of the anti-dowry law, a trend acknowledged even by the apex court.

According to data available with support organisations, of the five lakh people arrested from 2003- 2006 in dowry-related offences, 80 per cent were acquitted by courts.

A computer professional – who spoke with CNN-IBN on conditions of anonymity – said he and his family were victimised by his wife in a fake dowry harassment case. While he spent three days in jail, he was lucky the police didn't arrest his family members, all of who had been named in the FIR.

Support groups like Rakshak were formed especially to help those men who have been wrongfully implicated under laws for the protection of women.

According to information received by them through various RTIs:
Till 2006, more than six lakh people were still facing trial for past cases.
More than five lakh were awaiting a trial in court.
The expected length of trial in dowry cases was almost eight years in the same year.
See an NDTV program mentioning about the Delhi Police curcular which insists that investigation has to be done before arrests(after sanction from ACP/DCP) and the links to circulars issued in Delhi and Hyderabad

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Ignorance is NO Excuse: *NATIONAL* Fatherless Day Rally ***FRIDAY THE 13TH***

Ignorance is NO Excuse: *NATIONAL* Fatherless Day Rally ***FRIDAY THE 13TH***
Courtesy: and

This is from USA(Fathers for Justice:, and this is what I call an all-out Campaign, and this stuff is what we need to do in India too. The Music, the passion, the reach, soul stirring..... just soul stirring. Don't forget to see the video clip seen below, it will blow your mind if you are even remotely a DAD!:

********** Details*********

For more information on ***FRIDAY THE 13TH*** of June, two days before Fathers day, please visit Where Fathers, Mothers, GRANDparents and Children from all 50 states will be uniting at their State Capitols to demand a change in Family law. This is an EQUAL RIGHTS issue and OUR Children need, want and deserve to have BOTH fit parents as active participants in their lives. Those states participating are as follows: Alabama Alaska Arizona Arkansas California Colorado Connecticut Delaware Florida Georgia Hawaii Idaho Illinois Indiana Iowa Kansas Kentucky Louisiana Maine Maryland Massachusetts Michigan Minnesota Mississippi Missouri Montana Nebraska Nevada New Hampshire New Jersey New Mexico New York North Carolina North Dakota Ohio Oklahoma Oregon Pennsylvania Rhode Island South Carolina South Dakota Tennessee Texas Utah Vermont Virginia Washington West Virginia Wisconsin Wyoming and The United Kingdom. The Organizations promoting this event are: FAMILIES-4-JUSTICE, FATHERS-4-JUSTICE, UNITED CIVIL RIGHTS COUNCILS of AMERICA, AMERICAN COALITION FOR FATHERS and CHILDREN, A CHILD'S RIGHT and CHILDREN NEED BOTH PARENTS.

Go India Go, go get your Children......... show them who's the DAD.

See a related post: Indian Father's fight for Child rights- the CRISP(Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting) Dharna, Bangalore, India

Dowry culture was never an Indian culture.. Who brought it here..

A dowry (also known as trousseau) is the money, goods, or estate that a woman brings to her husband in marriage.

The opposite direction, property given to the bride by the groom, is called dower or mahr. Normally the bride would be entitled to her dowry in event of her widowhood, prior to the evolution of her dower rights; so common was this that the terms "dowry" and "dower" are sometimes confused.

The dowry should not be confused with a bride price, money or goods paid by the prospective groom to the bride's parents in exchange for her hand in marriage.

In Homeric times, the usual Greek practice was to give a brideprice, and dowries were also exchanged in the later classical time (5th century BC). Ancient Romans also practiced dowry, though Tacitus notes that the Germanic tribes practiced the reverse custom of the dower.

Dowry was widely practiced in Europe at all times. In Victorian England, it was seen as an early payment of her inheritance, such that only daughters who had not received their dowry were entitled to part of the estate when their parents died, and if the couple died without children, the dowry was returned to the bride's family.

Failure to provide a customary, or agreed-upon, dowry could call off a marriage. William Shakespeare made use of this in King Lear: one of Cordelia's wooers ceases to woo her on hearing that King Lear will give her no dowry. And in Measure for Measure, Claudio and Juliet's premarital sex was brought about by their families' wrangling over dowry after the betrothal, and Angelo's motive for forswearing his betrothal with Mariana is the loss of her dowry at sea. Folklorists often interpret the fairy tale Cinderella as the competition between the stepmother and the stepdaughter for resources, which may include the need to provide a dowry. Gioacchino Rossinis opera La Cenerentola makes this economic basis explicit: Don Magnifico wishes to make his own daughters' dowry larger, to attract a grander match, which is impossible if he must provide a third dowry.

One common penalty for the kidnapping and rape of unmarried women was that the abductor or rapist had to provide the woman's dowry, which was until the late 20th century the wreath money, or the breach of promise.

Providing dowries for poor women was regarded as a form of charity. The custom of Christmas stockings springs from a legend of St. Nicholas, in which he threw gold in the stockings of three poor sisters, thus providing for their dowries. St. Elizabeth of Portugal and St. Martin de Porres were particularly noted for providing such dowries, and the Archconfraternity of the Annunciation, a Roman charity dedicated to providing dowries, received the entire estate of Pope Urban VII.

In some parts of Europe, land dowries were common. In Grafschaft Bentheim, for instance, it was not uncommon for people who had no sons to give a land dowry to their new son-in-law with the condition that the groom would take the surname of his bride. The Indian city of Mumbai(Bombay), which is one of the biggest cities in the world, was given as a dowry by the Portuguese crown to the British when H.M. Charles II King of England, Scotland and Ireland married Catherine of Braganza, a princess of Portugal in 1661.

In some cases, nuns would be required to bring a dowry when joining a convent.

In Europe and Western culture in general it is still common for the bride's family to pay for the majority of the wedding costs.

posted by: Andy Says

An Ode to Dad- dads for life, not just for conception

Thought you all would love this: . Check this one out especially:

Also see our guys in action at the CRISP(Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting) Dharna:

News reports about the event(available at if the links below are not working)

‘Both parents have right to child’s Custody’ :

Father’s Day blues for dads :

Professionals to highlight joint custody :

Harassed fathers seek better custody laws:

Also see for media articles which came before the event.

The Press Release for the event:

Photos from the CRISP Dharna(Father's for Child Rights):
Go dad go, you have done it, you can do it again, anytime you are needed to do it - dont just listen them say "Dads are Bad"!.
See how they do it in the USA

Sunday, June 15, 2008

Report of Awareness program in front of Family court

On 7th June 2008 Protect Indian Family Foundation, NGO, Mumbai (Member of the Save Indian Family(SIF) Network), conducted an awareness program- ‘Effects of 498a, Dowry Act & Domestic Violence Act on Indian Families’.

This program was at the family court, bandra. 50 members in PIF T-shirts gathered and educated the people around family about the ill effects of misusing laws concerning families and also distributed pamphlets outlining these ill effects. The program details were communicated beforehand to the family court officials including the judges and the counsellors. Protect Indian family intends to continue such awareness programs in future too, especially since the high court of mumbai itself has been promoting such programs which could reduce disintegration of families and avoid wasteful litigation for all. Crores of rupees are wasted in the conduct of such litigations both in terms of juidical resources and public resources, apart from the weakening of the foundation of nation itself- The Family.
The present trend of wives filing false criminal cases, against their husbands and his family, at the drop of the hat(for reasons other than harassment and cruelty) is a very disturbing trend and is sure to affect India's progress itself in the long run. Progress of a country depends upon the level of wellness of its citizens, and if most of the citizens are entangled in trivial marital issues which are nevertheless catapulted into false but serious criminal cases, only god can save that nation!. The future of the nation, the children, are actually the prime affected in these unnecessary and ill-intentioned litigations there by sealing the fate of progress deep down the drains.

Misuse proportions are so overwhelming and flagrant that the Supreme court itself has termed this trend of misuse of women protection laws as 'Legal Terrorism', whereas this trend is actually fuelled by the breed of corrupt Police, indifferent Judiciary apart from the conniving and fire-starting advocates which prompts us to call it 'Sate Terrorism'!. Of course these laws are misused by the misusers themselves, but they find it easy to misuse since there is no fear of punishment even if the misuse is proved – They misuse the laws, because THEY CAN!.

The irony of all this is that women themselves are the targets of these misused women protection laws!(22% of all arrested in 498a IPC are women, compared to 5.8% average number of women arrested among the total in case of all other IPC sections. Source: National Crime Research Bureau)

************** Pamphlet used for this event**************

Protect Indian Family Foundation

Women protection laws should be used only in the
right spirit and in genuine cases, otherwise the same laws will prove disastrous
to themselves and breaks their own families.

Note to Public

Did you know that every year over 5 lakh persons are
harassed by the misuse of women-protection laws (IPC 498a, Domestic Violence
Act, Dowry Prohibition Act) – Please note that more than 22% of total arrested
are women themselves, and that more than 1.2 lakh women (over 5.3 lakh persons
in total) have been arrested since 2004 under IPC Section 498a (Source: National

Are you being advised to misuse these laws just to make
the opposite party (husband and his family) submit to your terms and demands – Please note that
these laws are known as ‘Family Breaker laws’ and the persons who misuses
are termed as ‘Legal Terrorists’ by Supreme Court itself. There is no chance of
reuniting and leading a meaningful family life after anyone misuses these laws,
since trust, which is the basis and foundation block of a family, is lost. DO

Whether you are a man or woman please realise that
fighting against misuse of laws concerning family is your duty, since these laws
only break families, puts individuals in distress for years together, and
promotes a fatherless society. We only need to look towards western societies,
where no one has benefited from laws like these, whereas violence has replaced
security and values inside their fatherless families, to know the worst effects
of destructive family laws like these.

If you have problems in your families, communicate with
each other or take assistance of counseling or elderly members of the family, do
not run to courts/police to settle scores. Making criminal offences out of
trivial family issues need to be resisted by all of us. We also urge the
legislation and government to curb the tendency of criminalization of trivial
family issues without even investigating

DID YOU KNOW THAT you could be arrested and put in jail,

DID YOU KNOW THAT a single line
of false complaint by wife under section 498A of IPC

(without any proof or witness or
investigation) could land you and your entire family in jail !!

Thereby wife herself blocks her entry back in the

DID YOU KNOW THAT false complaint under Domestic Violence Act
(commenced from 26

October, 2006) could throw you out of your own house

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