First Contact Advice

This is my routine first reply for all new members who contact me with queries, the readers of this blog also could benefit by this
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First and foremost, please attend the weekly counseling meetings at Mulund(or Borivli), if you are around Mumbai. We conduct these meetings on every Sunday, 4 to 7pm at Chintaman Deshmukh Garden, Mahatma Phule Road, Mulund(east), very near local train station. Please call 9322156141(PIFF Helpline)/ 9833066726 (Suhail) to confirm or if in doubt. For confirming the Borivli based meeting details call Jinesh on 9820241589/9769770498(IFF Helpline) .

Please attend the weekly meetings for counseling and support near you, find the nearest venue from the helplines of All India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA)/Mynation/SIF (http://aimwa.in/contact, http://mynation.net/contact-us and http://www.saveindianfamily.in) and attend weekly meetings, which will help you solve your issues. It is very important to attend meetings/talk to fellow victims-turned-victors, etc., since it will give peace of mind more than anything in the first meeting itself. Everyone comes to meetings feeling very unlucky/cursed since they think they are the only ones having these troubles, but when u meet others in the same boat, not only u will resolve the "why me" question in your own minds, but also get a definite and positive direction on which you can work and solve your problems

There is so much collective knowledge to be tapped, in terms of working of courts, how cases proceed, what to keep in mind when dealing with advocates, and hundreds of other aspects of how to stay peaceful and still solve your problems - these inputs u wont get on any site or book, that’s a guarantee- meetings transform the people who have the will to transform.

I would recommend that you join SIF(saveindianfamily) yahoo group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily , where you can post your specific queries and can expect to get replies from the 4000 odd members in this group, who are highly passionate about fighting this kind of misuse of law and are knowledgeable than even an average advocate. The message archives of SIF yahoo group also will be helpful in getting more insight to any kind of legal situation that you may be in(you can search with Keywords related to your case).

All the major judgements/citations that you may need is here: http://mynation.net/docs and http://www.498a.org/forum/viewforum.php?f=16&sid=1592eb0eed276fe804822de5daf4db2a . Refer http://ipc498a.wordpress.com/2007/07/01/the-498a-survival-kit/ to read about how you can fight misuse of 498a. 


Read DV Survivor Guide or https://docs.google.com/View?id=djh8gv9_0f8k87kdr and http://nyayayodha.blogspot.com/search/label/PWDVA%28DV%20Act%29 (for Domestic Violence Act cases).

See this for some links and resources which will help you to research solutions yourselves. Also call the helpline numbers near to you( given below) and meet the local group at their weekly meetings.

In the meanwhile go through some blog posts I had written about counter cases and using the Joginder Kumar Vs State of UP judgement for getting a fair investigation done in your case. See: http://at498a.blogspot.com/2008/05/impending-498a-send-this.html , http://bok498a.blogspot.com/2008/07/post-498a-getting-fair-investigation.html , http://bok498a.blogspot.com/2008/07/counter-cases-during-and-after-case.html and http://bok498a.blogspot.com/2008/06/first-strikers-advantage-live-saving.html

With the recent Cr.PC amendment(notified/enforced in November 2010) arrests in 498a is going to be a lesser threat since as per this amendment a warrant from the court is required to arrest any accused(of crimes with less than 7 years of imprisonment). A notice of appearance would be issued by the police to the accused who should then co-operate with the investigation, so no more arbitrary arrests by police. See an RTI reply Ministry of Home Affairs confirming that this Cr.PC amendment has been notified and is effective from 1st November, 2010

Read code of criminal procedure amendment bill, 2010 for better clarity.

Please do your bit by sending the above RTI to the chief of police(DGP) of your state and ask for compliance, by all police stations in the state, with respect to this Cr.PC(section 41A) amendment.

For Free Advise, click here or call our help-lines worldwide

Help-Line Numbers.

Mumbai: 9322156141, 8652843011, 9820241589 Nagpur: 9890974788

Nasik: 9371988132, 9822011250, 9890656219 Pune: 9923056460, 9922379103, 9850883751

Delhi: 9911119113, 9891369616, 9811624141 Calcutta: 9231835462, 9830151555, 9830927619

Kanpur: 9839038424, 9335014984,9935239764 Bangalore: 80-65334135, 9845986250

Jaipur 9352562456 Kerala 9895557765, 9995433034, 9995308518 Gujarat 9825365816, 9898989884 U.S.A +650-430-9544, +612-812-4340, +917- 512-5362 Kuwait +965-3869295

More helplines at: http://www.saveindianfamily.org/contact-us/activists.html,     http://mynation.net/contact-us and  http://www.savefamily.org/index.php?Itemid=65&option=com_content

In return we just need you to raise your voice in whatever way possible so that we can together see the end of this legal terrorism in families, families which are the real strength of India(and may be that’s why families are being systematically targeted and broken down by vested interests and neo-imperialists!)

Warm Regards,

Gokul,  http://gokul.go.to, 9633409355(Kerala)

Twitter: http://twitter.com/gokulpr, FB: https://www.facebook.com/gokulpr
Editor - www.siftimes.com , www.protectindianfamily.org, www.mensrights.in
Member - All India Men's Welfare Association(www.aimwa.in),
National Litigant Bench(www.litigantbench.org)

Counseling helpline for Men in distress - "Man's Voice": http://bit.ly/mansvoice
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Cowardice asks...."Is it safe?", Expedience asks "Is it politic?", Vanity asks...."Is it popular?"... There comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, politic, nor popular, but one must take it because it is right: Martin Luther King, Jr.


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