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Thursday, March 20, 2014

Another perishes in face of 'Legal Terrorism" as one more suicide gets converted into a Dowry death

Daughter in law suicides and the entire family of the husband is jailed without any investigation, then the mother in law suicides because of the hopelessness, insult, trauma and frustration, which any innocent can feel in this kind of situations when the entire system itself hounds innocents and persecute them like terrorists, without any evidence or investigation. This trend of converting suicides by married women into cases of dowry death is not a new thing, you can read about this "Unprovoked Suicides- Dowry-Deaths in the making!(Auto conversion kit- IPC 304B)". There are more in this series read these Blog1 & Blog2
Can you imagine this happening to you and your family?, if not ... why are you keeping silent, are you waiting for this to happen to you and your kin, to then react?.....make no mistake, if you do not take notice NOW and start voicing against this lawlessness NOW, it will be too late when it happens to you & your dear ones tomorrow!..

50-yr-old woman undertrial hangs self in jail

Monday, March 17, 2014

Justice S.N.Dhingra's Speech: Save Indian Family's 10th foundation day

Watch Justice(Retired) S.N.Dhingra's well thought of and powerful speech on the occassion of the 10th foundation day of Save Indian Family movement at Delhi on 9th March, 2014

Hounarable Justice Dhingra started his speech in these lines " Sirf wohi aadmi pareshaan nahi hain jinki shadi nahi chali... aur bhi bahut aadmi pareshaan hain jo shadishuda hain ... isse kahi guna zayda vo log hain jo shadi chala rahe hain aur pareshaan hain."

Which roughly translate to "Don't feel alone and think that only those husbands are suffering whose marriage ends, those husbands are also suffering whose marriage is live.. in fact there much more people leading a much more miserable life, who are in a marriage and trying to keep the marriage alive"

He also spoke about what a Judge can do to stop misuse of law...... What we as citizens need to, and can do .... like if we as citizens were really interested in stopping dowry and the troubles due to it, we should have followed the law as prescribed in the Dowry Prohibition Act of 1961, which clearly says that all gifts exchanged between the groom's side and bride's side should be written down and should have signatures of both sides and should be registered with government.  Instead of enforcing this we and the vested interests are actually letting the system of dowry alive and getting ourselves into trouble.

The trouble(misuse of women-protection laws) we see on the surface is only like an Ice berg, may be less than 5% of troubled marriages precipitate and end up in misuse of laws, the rest 95% of troubled marriages just smoulder below the radar!. And there are a lot troubled marriages in our times, than we normally would imagine, may be more than 50% of marriages are troubled and traumatic in varying degrees and living in such relationships result in multiple negativity in terms of children's development and criminality in spouses themselves and in the children of these dysfunctional/violent families.

Like Justice Dhingra if more and more of our sitting judges show some understanding of this grave problem looming over us as a nation in general and act to sort it out in whichever ways they can manage, boosted by the courage of this conviction that this is a nation wide emergency(and not some silly hubby-wife tussle which deserved a blind eye)... we can hope to see some change from the judiciaries side too. Only if every segment/stake holder of this society pushes for a better tomorrow can we hope to bring about change in good time, else it's going to be very tough for everyone, faster than most of the indifferent/passively good silent people are hoping for!. We do not have to imagine a lot of things or do guesstimates, we just have to look towards the west which had gone this way of mindless 'development', and assess where they are as societies with respect to human welfare.

A must watch for every judge and every citizen across all strata of our society. Justice Dhingra has called a spade a spade in this... don't miss it!. 

(Long and full version)

See a shorter and clearer version here: 

Speech by Mr.Suhaib Ilyasi, director of the film "498a - The wedding gift"

Saturday, March 15, 2014

Open letter- AAP's views & strategies?: Men's(& Families') right violation


I hope you are all aware, albeit in various degrees, of the misuse of laws intended for women-protection, which has actually shriveled entire societies in the west, and which could very well be traced back to a considerable loss of productivity in India and a threat to India's development as a nation itself.

Iam referring to the widespread misuse of laws like Rape(IPC 375) , Dowry laws(Dowry prohibition act of 1961), Dowry Death(IPC 304B), Abetment of Suicide(IPC 306), Cruelty against wife(IPC 498a), Domestic Violence Act, 2005, Sexual Harassment of Women at Work Place act, 2013, the various Maintenance acts(Sec 125 of Cr.PC, sections of Hindu Marriage acts & Hindi adoption and maintenance act, etc), Child access and custody laws. 

All these, and more, laws are being misused against Men and his family members, including women of his house and other female relatives who may be staying apart(married sisters, their families), and lakhs are getting arrested and entangled in the legal web for extended periods of time.

For details you may visit these blog posts, just to ensure that any of you are not under the wrong influence of "myths"

Common Myths and arguments, when it comes to misuse of women-protection laws:

"Such instances of misuse of women-protection laws form a minuscule percentage and hence can be safely ignored. Anyway 99% of marriages are 'Good'! " , 

"Women do not risk breaking their own marriages by filing false cases" ,

"Fathers are unable to take care of children and they don't even want to take the responsibility of bringing them up" , 

"Every law is misused so there is nothing great about these laws getting misused", 

"These are small skirmishes in families/offices/society, which is unavoidable and anyway doesn't affect anything in the bigger scheme of things or the Nation in general!"

"Myth buster links"

"How the Indian government imported Weapons of Male(& family) destruction(WMD) from the United States " - (Misuse of women-centric laws, affecting senior citizens, infants & minor children, women themselves and men).


Do let me and the groups I represent know your views and strategies to address these issues, which are of grave importance to the basic units of any nation(families) and hence India as nation in general.

 Awaiting your swift response to take up necessary actions, especially in view of the upcoming elections.

***************My follow-up mail on 16th March***************

Dear members and officials of AAP please do reply to my Open letter sent/published yesterday. Please read on for some govt. statistics in this regard.

What will Bindu Krishna(Congress party candidate from Attingal, Kerala) & Sarah Josesh(Aam Aadmi Party Kerala ആം ആദ്മി പാര്ട്ടി കേരളംcandidate from Thrissur, Kerala), who claim to work for the welfare of women, do for these women and their families?. 

Aam Aadmi Party Thrissur ആം ആദ്മി പാര്ടി തൃശ്ശൂര് Aam Aadmi PartyAam Aadmi Party - Kochi please do reply to my Open letter sent/published yesterday, quoted above:

***************My follow-up mail on 18th March***************

Subject: Attn.Mr.Karassery: Ref: Your statement in today's Mathrubhumi & AAP's views & strategies?: Men's(& Families') right violation

Dear Mr.M.N.Karassery and all concerned at AAP,

Glad to note Mr.M.N.Karassery's statement that justice should be served irrespective of gender, religion and social status(today's, 18th March Mathrubhumi). We hope that you spread this message and also implement this in your work with AAP.

Please read my open letter to AAP: I have not got any reply from anyone in AAP regarding this, which puts a dark shadow over their intentions in this regard. I would anyway be grateful if you(or anyone concerned and responsible enough to reply to a genuine corncern by a citizen) could reply as to what AAP's view and strategies are to curb the misuse of laws intended for protection, which was termed by Supreme Court of India as "Legal Terrorism". 

***************My follow-up mail on 20th March***************


I haven't still received even an acknowledgement for my various email, I hope you are not evading these uncomfortable questions, if you are then you are no better than the current crop of Politicial Parties who do not care about the issues of people.

Today's example is this: 

Another perishes in face of 'Legal Terrorism

Hope you show the moral responsibility and conviction to answer my original question: AAP's views & strategies? regarding Men's(& Families') right violation

Warm Regards,

Gokul.P.R,, 9633409355(Kerala)
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