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Tuesday, December 20, 2011

The Maha relay vehicle rally for Men's rights(pan-India)

The Maha relay vehicle rally for Men's rights(pan-India): In conjunction with the National meet for men's rights, Chennai, 2012.

Need riders for The Maha Relay vehicle rally for Men's rights(pan-India): Only a relay format rally would be feasible for most of us, for the ones who are on/planning to be on a sabbatical a ride till delhi is well possible(radial routes to Chennai(where the National meet for Men's rights is going to be conducted this year, mostly on 17th and 18th of November) from their hometowns in various parts of India).

The plan is to conduct the rally from November 8th to 15th, start points being North end of India, South, West and East(and may be others if local centres fall in between these coordinates). The longest route may be from the North End of India(say Delhi or Chandigarh) to Chennai, which will be the longest to cover(2100 & 2424 kms respectively), one can easily do 400-500 Km per day(on bikes, cars can do more but they will have to pace with the bikes since its a rally, not a race!) with planned stops for food/breaks and SIF events/dharnas/press conferences... which means a relay team can reach Chennaii from Delhi or Punjab in max 6 days, but lets keep 1 day for buffer/rest/contingency., so 7 days max to Chennai from any extreme of India).

As of now the following members have shown interest in this relay bike rally for Men's rights:
Name Starting from
1) Gokul.P.R - Thrissur, Kerala
2) Amit Yadav - Delhi
3) Atit Rajpara - Pune
4) Yaksh - Lucknow
5) Suhail - Mumbai
6) Sachit - Delhi
7) D.S.Rao - Kolkata
8) Amol - Pune
9) Aggarwal - Gurgaon

We need to execute this "Maha relay rally for Men's rights(pan-India)" milestone... the media frenzy it could whip up and the resultant public interest would be among last nails in the coffin of misandry in India, so screw it..... lets do it(as goes the title of Richard Branson's .book:

Need more volunteers who can ride and organise a local group from wherever they plan to start the relay rally from(need not ride the full length till Chennai, since its a relay rally one can ride for how muchever kilometers he is comfortable in joining the rally).

At the end of the rally riders can attend the All India Men's rights National meet, conducted in Chennai this year(venue and other confirmed details will be announced later). We can arrange for the bikes to be transported back to the respective locations too, so do not hesitate, we are all here to make this mega events sizzle, just sign up and the rest ... we will all make it happen.

Let me know on gokul (At) , your responses to the groups/forums may not be noticed all the time, so do send your responses to my emailid too. 

Also join this event at , comment, participate and spread the word by inviting your contacts too to this event.

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Phil Collins - You'll Be In My Heart *Lyrics On Screen*

To my children, near and far, wherever you are... you'll be in my heart!.... always.

Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Another man facing legal terrorism takes justice into his hands and then gives up on his own life

Another man facing legal terrorism takes justice into his hands and then gives up on his own life. How many more will have to walk this road before justice prevails.

Pradeep Jain was a victim of legal terrorism(false case of IPC 498a) and was denied access to his child, he broke down and went on a rampage, before he took his own life. This can happen to any man faced with similar situations.... we should act before its late. See the original news in TOI quoted below.

JAIPUR: Pradeep Jain, 32, who shot four members of his in-laws family, including his wife, was on a confrontation with his in-laws since 2006.

After his separation from the family, it was a mutual understanding that the baby would be given to Jain. However, the custody of the child was never given to him.

Addressing a gathering of over 2,000 people after he stepped on to the balcony of his sister's house at Devali town, Jain said: "They have been harassing me since 2006. I was fed up with the way the society including police, women's organizations and relatives responded to my worries and problems."

Pointing a gun on his forehead, he threatened that "if anyone dares to come closer, I will shoot myself." In a high drama that lasted for more than two hours, Jain asked the police to bring media persons to take his viewpoint. "Media se baat karwado nahin to maroonga (Bring media persons for interaction or I will die). Following the threat, reporters of various TV channels gave him the microphone.

'Doston, mein patni, pesha aur zameen se pareshan hum, koi meri nahin sunte (Friends, I am fed up with wife, profession and land and nobody bothers)," he said.
Later, thousands were taken aback when they came to know that he shot himself on the forehead.

**************** Another Victim of Legal Terrorism************

Another depressed father, Syed Makhdoom, had committed suicide on 5th April 09, leaving 4 suicide notes and the video appearing below, which was recorded on his mobile. Here he clearly mentions how he was tortured by his wife & in-laws and that he was not allowed to even see his only son, whom he loved more than his life.

There is also a heart wrenching message to the entire society towards the end. 

It was Syed's suicide which inspired his friend and film maker Mr.Suhaib Ilyasi to make the film "498a - The wedding gift"

When will this end?, when will the system stop cornering men, forcing them to turn desperadoes 

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

IBM illegally fires man for his sexual harassment complaint against woman boss: Bangalore mirror

This man, Anish Vohra, was cash-strapped because of IBM's illegal job termination just because he made a sexual harassment complaint against his woman boss. They did not technically fire him, but he was forced to resign after this woman boss created adverse situations for him at work, all this without recording any misbehaviour or failings on his part, with no notice period complied with, no salary/compensation for not complying with notice period of 90 days, etc.,. 

The legal notice sent by Anish to IBM reads six typed A4 sized pages and the sexual harassment part is a section of that. The main allegations are about the woman boss abusing her authority and harassing him mentally, and professionally, systematically over a period of 5 months until he was FORCED TO TENDER HIS RESIGNATION. They did not fire him, rather she created a set of circumstances that left him with no alternative but to quit. Added to this was her unprofessional behavior and choice of language, which by IBM's own standards, was not acceptable at any level.

There was no record of any misbehavior or failings in Anish's work, but the woman boss, fifteen days after confirming Anish's job on Feb 01, 201,1 called him to a meeting with HR and insisted that he goes on a Personal Improvement Plan [PIP] in order to continue in IBM. A PIP is conducted for those resources(employees) who are below the mark in every way possible - this action was in direct contradiction with her rating 2 given to Anish(solid contributor, consistently meets job responsibilities, etc. - IBM description!) in December 2010 (with a personal statement from her that Anish had, in the short time span of 4 months, managed to win the appreciation of senior management) and also confirming Anish's job 15 days in advance of his confirmation date. These events show the lady boss' bias, obvious victimization and abuse of power. 15 days after this meeting with HR, Anish had to resign.

He is now unable to find enough money to treat his ailing son

See the FB page "Pray For Abhijaat"created for raising money for his son's treatment for Cerebral Palsy, to keep him alive  and also the Website for the same . 

See the various reports in newspapers quoted below(links to the original newspaper reports also appear below) 

************** Report 1***************

Former delivery manager at IT firm demands Rs 88 L compensation; the company terms his charges ‘unfounded’ and ‘without merit’
Sameer Ranjan Bakshi
 Freakin' Awesome! Freakin' Awesome! Freakin' Awesome! Freakin' Awesome! Freakin' Awesome!
Posted On Tuesday, August 30, 2011 at 10:40:42 AM
Anish Vohra
Debunking the common stereotype of a male executive hitting on a female colleague, a male mid-level manager has quit his job at IBM, alleging sexual harassment at the workplace. In a first-of-its-kind case, the man has filed a complaint with the company and has also slapped a legal notice on his former “offensive” woman boss and two others, including the MD of the IT behemoth’s India branch.

In the legal notice, Anish Vohra, who worked as a delivery manager for the company, accused his former woman boss of using abusive language while speaking to him in the office. Vohra alleges that he was forced to resign from the company and has claimed a compensation of Rs 87,91,650, including mental torture of Rs 10,000.

Policy at IBM forbids employees from speaking to the media, unless expressly authorised to do so. Hence, the name of the woman boss is being withheld because her version of the events could not be obtained.

Vohra joined as a delivery manager (proposal and ICAP) on August 16 last year and was on six months probation at IBM’s Global Enablement Center. He began working directly under the supervision of the woman he now accuses of harassing him. He claims he was confirmed 15 days ahead of the stipulated six months by which time professional relationship with his boss had already begun to deteriorate.

A paragraph in the legal notice reads: “Our client states that after giving a rating of 2, indicating excellent performance, suddenly she became hostile and beginning in December 2010, the professional relations deteriorated. She started losing patience and became highly critical without any reason and was abusive at times. On account of this behaviour our client (Vohra) sought a meeting which was held on 10.01.2011 and 14.01.2011, wherein she stated, ‘You are different from other managers in IBM. I need to treat you differently from them. I have been unnecessarily harsh with you I agree. I apologise for this behaviour’.

“In the second meeting our client further states that she also uttered the following words, ‘I do not know what it is between you and me I just cannot get along with you’. And also stated, ‘I get the feeling that you are jacking me of and simply f***ing around with me’ and then stated ‘forgive the words/expression used’.
“Our client states that the use of unparliamentary language was in the least objectionable and if uttered to a senior management would have resulted in termination of services.”

The notice goes on to say, “Our client states that at the time of joining service of IBM our client had signed the Business Conduct Guidelines (BCG) which specifically prohibited use of slang language as well as use of profanity or language which would hurt the sentiments of another. Our client states that the language used also amounted to victimisation of our client, for reasons best known to her and which was never disclosed to our client.”

Vohra also claims that the language used by his former boss amounts to sexual harassment as, “IBM being an Ideal Employer, has framed strict rules for prevention of harassment at the work place, called Recognition & Preventing Workplace Harassment- India Employees Edition. Work place harassment is a violation of human rights.”

Vohra has also alleged, “The employment contract stipulated that the company or the employee may terminate the services at any time by giving 90 days notice or salary in lieu thereof. However, without informing me or recording any misbehaviour, they forced me to resign abruptly without paying me any compensation or salary for the notice period.”

The notice was also served on Shankar Annaswamy, managing director, IBM India Private Limited, and Lynette Clunies Ross, director, Sales Transaction Hub, GMU, IBM Limited.

IBM at first refused to answer phone calls or respond to emails from BM seeking their comments. An IBM spokesperson eventually said, “We have fully investigated this matter. The claims made are unfounded and without merit.”

**************** Report 2***************

Anish Vohra has set up a community in the social network to raise funds for treatment of 2-yr-old Abhijaat, who suffers from cerebral palsy
Sameer Ranjan Bakshi
 Freakin' Awesome! Freakin' Awesome! Freakin' Awesome! Freakin' Awesome! Freakin' Awesome!
Posted On Wednesday, July 13, 2011 at 12:02:02 AM
Facebook has helped Anish and Deepti raise Rs 1.5 lakh of the Rs 56.35 lakh they need for their son’s treatment
It’s every parent’s worst nightmare, but Anish Vohra keeps his chin up. His two-year-old son, Abhijaat, is suffering from cerebral palsy, and the city-based former IBM delivery manager needs funds — $125,000 (Rs 56.35 lakh) to be exact — if his son is to live a healthy life.

Vohra, who has been unemployed for the past three months, is strapped for cash, having already spent all his savings on Abhijaat’s treatment.

At the end of his tether, he has set up a community on Facebook and has launched a portal in the hope of raising money from donors to fund stem cell treatment — Vohra’s last hope — for his son.

Vohra believes that his Facebook forum, ‘Pray for Abhijaat’, and portal ‘For Abhijaat’ have helped him appeal to a wider audience.

He launched his online campaign last year and has raised $3,348 (Rs 1.5 lakh) so far. He keeps donors updated on Abhijaat’s progress with frequent posts on the sites.

“He came into our lives on July 3, 2008, suddenly, unexpectedly and a good four weeks ahead of schedule due to low amniotic fluid,” Vohra posted. “He did not cry right after birth, he had a breathing difficulty due to very bad stridor (obstruction in the air passage). At first, doctors did not give him a chance, but with the help of C-PAP and oxygen, he survived. He was a good healthy baby, no major issues.”

But Abhijaat was afflicted by a number of complications. He continued to suffer from respiratory problems, his right knee was dislocated at birth and he lacked the ability to grasp things, to sit or to smile, walk or talk.

Abhijaat has been in and out of hospitals and has already had three surgeries, the last in Chicago which cost $197,614 (about Rs 89 lakh).

“We got his knee fixed with physiotherapy and splinting,” Vohra posted. “No one told us there was something wrong with him, just that ‘milestones were delayed’. We used to think ‘So what. He would come around’.”

Vohra and his wife Deeti’s world came crashing down when they learnt from a paediatric neurologist that their son had cerebral palsy.

“His motor abilities and speech have been affected. His hands and legs are spastic.

“Maybe Abhi does not pronounce consonants yet to say Mama, but he makes enough sounds for us to hear Mama in there somewhere. He holds objects placed in his hands for a little while, listens to the sound of our voices and responds to rudimentary instructions.

“He shows us there is the possibility of a good healthy life within his reach. He is the sweetest little boy you can imagine.”
Dr Gyanam, one of the paediatric specialists treating Abhijaat at Manipal Hospital, said, “His brain cells were damaged at the time of delivery because of a lack of oxygen to the brain.

“It will take a while for Abhijaat to be discharged as he now has pneumonia triggered by an infection in his lungs.”

What ails AbhijaatCerebral palsy is a non-progressive, non-contagious motor condition that causes physical disability in human development in various parts of the body. Abhijaat needs stem cell treatment available in only a few countries such as China and Germany. There is no guarantee that the treatment would work. The Vohras are in touch with the Wu Stem Cell Medical Centre in Beijing. They would need boarding and lodging for the duration of the treatment - typically three months. It would cost about $125,000.

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Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Man, who complained against CPM local secretary, found dead- Manorama News

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