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Thursday, August 10, 2006

Mumbai Meeting: Save Indian Family Foundation

To The Editors,
National Media Houses


Sub: Request for listing in "Today's Engagements/Events" section in the Sunday's(13th August)edition of your Media/Paper

This is a request for listing out event in your media's Event's for the day section or as appropriate. I also request you to assign a reporter to cover the details of the meeting and report the same(see towards the end of this mail for more details, do ask us if any thing more is needed).

Please list the details below, in your section "Engagements" in Sundays Media/Paper(13th August)

******************** Matter to be included in the Sundays(13th August) "Engagements" Section*****************

At the Press Club of India, Near C.S.T(VT) Station, Fort, Mumbai: 13th Sunday August

Legal awareness seminar(coping with Misuse of Family laws): Conducted by Save Indian Family foundation from 3 P.M to 6 P.M. Laws like IPC 498a is misused and the Husband and his family gets arrested and entangled in long-drawn legal proceedings. Arrests could happen even without any witness, evidence or police investigation, on the basis of just a false complaint by wife. Know how to take precautions and cope with these situations. Call 9224335577, 9820241589.

******************** Matter to be included in the Sundays(13th August) "Engagements" Section*****************

Zee news had covered this issue and telecasted the Crimefile program on misuse of 498a on 30th and 31st July with incredible response and viewership since it shocked many an unaware citizen and family. Please see their program video clips and other details about this menace here: See the audio, video and photo links here: .

Warm Regards
Telefax: +91 22 25614188,
Mobile: +91 9821414336,
Mumbai, India

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************ CAN YOUR REPORTER BE PRESENT FOR THE EVENT?.. read on...************

For your information read:

SIF Group Mumbai's: Legal awareness seminar(coping with Misuse of Family laws): IPC 498a.

**************************Matter you could take for send for Invitations to your contacts who could attend************************

Let me introduce our movement and group.

We are a group of over 1100 victims spread all over the globe, and organised under an umbrella group of Save Indian Family(SIF(, through yahoo group: . We hope that your good office will take the necessary steps to report this growing trend of misusing Marital laws, seemingly at every drop of the hat, by unscrupulous wives and their instigating posse(sometimes these ladies are just impressionable/plain dumb and/or egoistic and just plays into the hands of their so-called advisers!). SIF has individuals, Lawyers, Journalists and registered NGOs like PHSS(all India), Asha-Kiran & Sangyabalya(both Bangalore) and PSS(Delhi).

The potency of misuse in 498a is unfathomable and highly destructive since the Police doesn't need any other supporting evidence or witnesses, other than JUST the wife's statement/complaint, to straight away arrest the Husband and his relatives (and whoever else is named in the wife's complaint), following which is an ordeal of long drawn and wasteful legal proceedings for the Husband and family(in this law the accused is Guilty until proven innocent! & the Burden of Proof is on the accused themselves!(for the acts alleged to have happened inside four walls, what evidence can the accused hope to garner! at best), unlike any other law, anywhere else). See for more details.

See a recent report on how a woman who filed false dowry case was directed(by a lady judge!: Ms Jatinder Kaur Walia, Additional Civil Judge (Senior Division)) to pay the damages, etc. . Moreover this trend is not isolated or rare, its gaining momentum as some money-minded girls see the scope in misusing laws like 498a and DP Act(Dowry prevention Act) which neither needs any evidence to be invoked, nor have any in-built provision to punish the ones who file false complaints using these laws.

*************** Mumbai SIF Group Legal awareness seminar(coping with Misuse of Family laws): IPC 498a *********************

We are arranging a Seminar as mentioned above( in other words, coping with Legal Terrorism(as referred to by Supreme Court itself) by wives:IPC 498a) cum Meeting on 13th August(Venue: The Press club "Conference hall" , near VT station)........... The press club is about 200 meters from V.T station, this is at the back of Times of India building(on the parallel road, to the road on which times of India building is situated), Opposite to BMC building.

The broad agenda of the Seminar+ member Meeting:To spread awareness of this legal misuse, to know the precautions and to cope with these vicious situations

1) Inviting Advocates: to offer advices and precautions to be taken in case of a False 498a or Dowry case, and legal perspectives for some individual cases which is of general interest.
2) Inviting Senior retired police officials and Judges: To share their experiences with 498a cases, answer some typical problems and counsel in general.
3)Journalists, we are confirming the participation of some media houses.
4) Structure will be broadly : (a) To address individual case issues and to provide an opportunity for them to interact with the Legal Intelligentsia and provide possible mentors/guides/counsels (b) to find volunteers to form and manage a registered NGO(non governmental organisation- like our members have already established different NGOs on an All India level, Delhi and Bangalore(2 NGOs here)). For this new NGO, we envisage strong women-victims' presence to effectively convey this movement as a "Justice Vs Injustice" issue rather than a "Man Vs Women" issue. (c) to Invite the 4th estate- the media and spread the awareness of the deadly Legal Terrorism to the common man and let also decide whether he wants to vote to someone who supports this Draconic and Malicious law.

Mumbai meet will held be on 13th Sunday August starting 3PM till 6PM. We, activists, will be available from 2PM at the venue for addressing any individual queries. Though main advices and counseling sessions will be kept on the days following the meet, when members can meet volunteers near their location any time mutually convenient- we need to get the meeting focused though we know that individual concerns are important too.

*************** Mumbai SIF Group Legal awareness seminar(coping with Misuse of Family laws): IPC 498a*********************


Do let us know if you have a press associate in Mumbai who could come and attend the Meeting which will expose a lot of harsh ground-realities which also affects a lot of NRIs along with Indian nationals- see the interviews of two Indian nationals, working in the US for the last decade or more among other TV programs on this misuse: , also browse through the site, especially the promotional section which contains a lot of informative reports and consolidated news articles from all over the world regarding this legal abuse/terrorism by some unscrupulous Indian wives:

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Warm Regards
P.R.Gokul ,
Tele/Fax : +91 22 25614188(Bombay, Res), +91 9821414336
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Anonymous said...

How an NRI in fear of arrest due to misuse of 498A going to attend any meeting in India in first place? Will be like placing the head in the lion's mouth!!! So have such meetings in UK and USA also where people feel many victims are or give some sort of guarantee for NRI's return after the meeting to attend to his duties back in UK and USA. This matter is as bad as that and I am sorry to say this in 2006. With all due respect for India but NRI's life is also valuable. Thanx UK guy.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...
NRI lost interest and respect for the place when recently got into this trap. Previously was visiting India regularly and also contrubuted at places of need. Totally innocent but now even scared to place information here with name and address.....simply because you never know what can happen. My life is valued by me and dont want it ruined by some thugs when such law exists in India. Can we please have more Gandhis from the politicians of India? Gandhi opened this employment.....that is Official Indian Politics. So let us give something in return to HIM please. UK Guy.

Sat Nov 04, 02:20:55 AM 2006

Anonymous said...


There are 3.22 Million Indians in America

38% of Doctors in America are Indians.

12% of Scientists in America are Indians.

36% of NASA employees are Indians.

34% of MICROSOFT employees are Indians

28% of IBM employees are Indians

17% of INTEL employees are Indians

13% of XEROX employees are Indians

23% of Indian Community in America is having Green-Card'

Above information from an email

So why they went to USA in the first place?
Why so many more still want to go to USA and UK in 2006?

Sat Nov 04, 02:21:34 AM 2006

Anonymous said...
Why they left India?..... Because many of them might be children of the leaders and the rich in India and prefer to live in the west.

Sat Nov 04, 02:21:56 AM 2006

Anonymous said...
Reading all this about the misuse of law and in particular misuse of 498A, I have a suggestion for NRI. Go to India for a holiday. Like now, don’t get involved with politics and business there in India. By now after many years abroad, you have got this title of being a NRI. Most likely you are born abroad. So be a NRI. They used to say when you marry a lady, the 2 families also get married. The problems get sorted out by the 2 families. But remember now…..REMEMBER…..NRI guy not only marries an Indian lady from India but also marries the India police, who are the first ones to arrest you before you are found guilty. Why we blame the law? The law is there. The people who put the law in place are the ones to take the responsibility. So why marry a lady from India in the first place? There are plenty of Indian ladies abroad also where you now live. The Indian lady from India will find it difficult to adjust to the life abroad… particular UK and then will blame you and they have the additional police force in India who they can rely on to lock you up next time you are in India or can call you to India by arresting your family member in India, if you have any there. Why marry one and try to see if she adjusts to the life in UK. Why take this risk as she has the Indian police on her side to even ruin your future visits to India. Be safe where you belong and serve that country. You are a NRI and be a NRI. Yes, visit India, see the place, enjoy the Darshans at religious places, enjoy the food and get out after that, back to where you belong. Sorry India this is happening now after personal experience. I am giving my points only about this one problem in India. It is up to others and India herself to address other issues. UK guy.

Sat Nov 04, 02:22:40 AM 2006

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...


Dear Friends,

I am please to blog this on behalf of this 17 Yr Old College going Girl, She Writes

I being a 21st Century Girl doesn’t believe that India is a male dominated country because now-a-days abla’s are sabla’s I mean to say that today’s generation women always want to get something which is new branded and which also has a status symbol that too sitting at home without earning anything. This whole pressure comes on the poor husband who has to listen to his parents, to his in-law, to his boss to his children’s demand too. Irrespective of his demand he has to fulfill his family demand first.

If demand is not fulfilled by him then he has to listen to his wife’s taunts, his children’s frustration to face other problems too. Husbands also have only one person to whom they can talk i.e. to their wife, But dominating nature of wives make them more angry and violent due to which male remove their frustration in form of anger and violence. After that, the spouse or man’s better half do the propaganda of their so called plight without thinking about their husband’s mental status. Thus, adding fuel to fire. They do this with their sure shot and powerful weapon i.e. Tears. Some wives are so great that they directly go to the cops without thinking once about the consequences on their husbands and his family members, Due to which males like (Ram) have to suffer a lot.

This thought of mine can be explained with my personally witnessed experience some days back in my friend’s case. She was genuinely eve teased by some notorious guys in her neighborhood. Her father came to know about this incidence and he called the cops. The guys were taken to question by the police. But to my surprise the police did not even question us at all!!! They took us on face value and the guys were bashed royally by police. And we were not even questioned at all. I could sense the loop hole that I hear many elder married guys stuck in divorce who talks about it, like the one in my neighborhood. Before which I had no whiff about the whole thing.

I asked the police if we could leave and he understood my gesture on face. And he said to us that “You are like our daughters and we have now to be extra cautious about our image too, especially after the rape cases”

And that is where after the NC was lodged I could make out that men are really really vulnerable and women is actually dominating men using men (police) and law to the maximum of their advantage.

No doubt my friends’ grievance was genuine but the statement of the police and the treatment given to the accused at the face value of the whole matter made my conscience prick me to the extent of telling me that thank god I do not have a brother else he could have been victimized and would have been equally vulnerable to this attitude of the police.

“That keeps me pondering on the question that “Is India Really a Male Dominated Country???”

Sneha Kala.
XII Commerce, C-11.
Thakur College

5:51 PM

Anonymous said...

They used to say when you marry a lady, the 2 families also get married. The problems get sorted out by the 2 families. But remember now…..REMEMBER…..NRI guy and and others dont only marry an Indian lady from India but also marries the Indian police, who are the first ones to arrest you before you are found guilty. Why we blame the law? The law is there. The people who put the law in place are the ones to take the responsibility. So why marry an lady from India in the first place

Anonymous said...

Arre...yahin to dhokha kha gaya India..