Fwd: Law, is being turned on its head : EVEN LIVE INs MAY HAVE TO PAY !!!!

Fwd: Law, is being turned on its head : EVEN LIVE INs
MAY HAVE TO PAY !!!!

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> From: Vinayak <e_vinayak@yahoo.com>
> Date: Sat, 26 Aug 2006 23:40:28 -0700 (PDT)
> Subject: [SaveIndianFamily] Law, is being turned on
> its head : EVEN LIVE INs MAY HAVE TO PAY !!!!
>
>
> Law, is being turned on its head
>
======================================================
>
>
> ALL ALONG, It was clear that if one stepped outside
> the pale of
> common law he or she, did NOT have the RIGHT to
> REMEDIES in law
> !!
>
> This is the most established principle
>
> You can't rob a supermarket and then claim the
> products had a
> defect !! You can't steal a car and complain of the
> mileage !
>
> If someone DID NOT have proper marriage, he or she,
> did NOT have
> the RIGHT to REMEDIES under the marriage acts !!
>
> One can't have a live in relationship, flirting
> relationship or
> the myriad other relationships that have sprung up
> outside
> marriage, and come back to claim benefits in law !!
>
> None of these so called "relationships" are legally
> recognized
> form(s) of marriage
>
> In these relationships what is the proof of co
> habitation ? Is a
> one night stand enough ? is illicit procreation the
> end of all
> tests ? Is sex the sine qua non ? what defines a
> live in and
> when does it become a REGULAR accepted, LEGAL
> relationship ?
> what are the boundaries for society to know and
> recognize a live
> in or a flirting or ....... ?
>
> Please find below a report from Tribune India. Look
> how suddenly
> media is trying to show that WOMEN !! in live in
> relationships
> NEED PROTECTION !! and trying to say that family
> courts should
> be involved in split up of live in relationships
>
> Divorce, is truly becoming an industry !!
>
> more at
>
http://o3.indiatimes.com/mera/archive/2006/08/27/1402243.aspx
>
> or
> http://www.blurty.com/users/vinayak/day/2006/08/27
> or
> http://www.bloglines.com/blog/eVinayak?id=11
>
>
>
> regards
>
>
>
> regards
> vinayak
>
>
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Gross misuse of IPC 498/498A and remedies...

Respected Madam/Sir,

Who am I: I am tax(@33.66%) paying law abiding citizen of this country. I am also BTech from IIT and a Computer Scientist currently working for a world renowned MNC. I have taken out precious time out of my daily busy schedule to make you aware of the issue. I hope I can ably convey the issue which has started assuming draconian proportions and expect a favourable response from your side.

498A in Media: 498A, which was conceived with the intent for minimizing dowry related crimes, is a weapon being grossly misused in our urban India for extortion and for settling personal scores. It was also highlighted in a Zee TV program broadcasted in Crime Report section on Sunday, 30 July, 2006 at 11 PM. For clips please see http://www.498a.org/video

Constitutional Arguments: The law which was initially meant to be used as a shield for inhumane atrocities against women is increasingly being used to terrorize honest husbands and families and for large scale extortion. Even honorable Supreme Court has termed such activities of misuse of these one sided laws as “Legal Terrorism”.

A lot of our respected judges privately feel that 498A is perhaps the most misused/abused section of all IPCs in our constitution. Even in our parliament, Honorable minister, Mr Shivraj Patil vehemently opposed introduction of POTA for curbing terrorism on the ground that it may be misused, then how is it that 498A which is the most heavily misused section not being reconsidered by our Parliament for last 20 years since 1983 when it was enacted(http://www.498a.org/498aexplained.htm). Is it that the parliament considers all Indian husbands much more dangerous than terrorists. Why then do they advocate about marriage as sacred institution. Is not it just a face wash.

Myth: Misuse of laws in collusion with lawyers is common so why single out IPC498A: The argument that laws are twisted and misused by lawyers does not stand a ground here, because it is not the lawyers but the people themselves who have started misusing and playing with such ridiculous laws. This law has made Judges out of every "daughter in law" and terrorists" out of every husband. There is a myth in our "urban" educated class that dowry(from bride's to groom's) related atrocities exist. 498A is the rarest breed of law which runs on the principle of "Guilty till proven innocent" instead of the normal course of our Constitution which believes in the "Innocent, Till proven Guilty". Another point to note is that 498A is Cognizable, non-compoundable and non-boilable, which means is you can be arrested and sent behind bars by police without any investigation/proofs. Any proofs, however perceptible they may be, can be disregarded by police.

The argument that why would wife ever try to falsely implicate 498A also does not hold good, because in majority of cases of misuse of these laws it is at the instigation of parents/family that the girl goes for filing of such cases. The role of girl's parents in interfering and destroying their daughter's married life is probably dated older that the concept of dowry itself. Moreover if you look at ground realities it is the incompatibility between girl and husband's family which becomes the real cause of any dispute. This incompatibility,if not corrected earlier, aggravates and takes of the form of either reported dowry or a false dowry case. There have hardly been any cases since the inception of dowry prohibition act in 1961, where a person has been caught for giving dowry even when the number of persons giving and receiving dowry are exactly the same.The matter of dowry comes up only when a relationship has gone sour and is nearing breakup. It clearly shows that society in general is not against dowry as a concept but uses it as a pretext to launch offensive when the relationships grow sour.Even the much proclaimed and media highlighted case of Nisha sharma was a case where the alleged demand was for additional dowry and not dowry which was already being given. So in principle, neither Nisha Sharma nor her parents were against dowry.

I would however oppose dowry because a lot of black money is transacted in the name of dowry in Indian marriages and a lot of extravagant expenditure is incurred in the name of pump and show in a typical indian marriage.

Repercussions: With, 498A ( and other newly introduced but highly skewed in favour of women acts, enacted by our parliament) the daughter in laws(with connivance with her parental family) have started to wreck havoc on the sacred institution of family and marriage. Such highly biased laws violate our fundamental rights to live with dignity as specified in Article 14 and 21 of our Constitution and are breaking families and putting honest husbands, old and elderly people and even kids behind bars making them suffer from ignominy of being imprisoned for the rest of their life.

These laws are framed with just one and only one assumption

“IF and if ever something goes wrong in any marrige, the fault is husband and his family”

No matter how cruel the DIL can be, she has been awarded a strong protection and encouragement from law to continue all her family breaking activities, and in the end to opt for divorce with either a huge extortion amount (settled out of court) or legally by claiming alimonys and false Stridhan.

The husband and family are left at the mercy of the daughter in law and her parent/relatives. The husbands are being maltreated at the hands of wives. If there wishes, whims and fancies are not met then they threaten the entire family of filing a false dowry case . The family is brought to disrepute both by the law and the society at the wish and whim of of daughter in laws.

Daugther is laws are holding entire family to ransom and terrorising families to succumb to her/her parents wishes by blackmailing and threatning to use these one sided laws.

There is absolutely no way that an Indian husband can quit a bad marriage. He has to either shell out huge, hard earned, post tax money as alimony outside court or he and his family has to undergo the ignominy of spending months in jail and years in fighting a crime he had not committed or both.

Parliament’s Apathy: Not even one clause, has been passed by our parliament which protects the rights of husbands and his family, from a dangerous and mischievous daughter in laws. It goes to show the apathy of our society and elected parliament towards the cause of men/women and elderly.Women organisations running on foreign finds are working hard to rip men of even the basic rights to exist and live with dignity, but our parliament is sitting in oblivion discussing 33% reservation for women.

It clearly reflects for the fact, how low our parliament has stooped in the bid to garner votes from Women organizations, that the new Domestic Violence Act has intentionally avoided the mention to husband and his family’s grievances and has cleverly ommited actions against any atrocities commmitted by daughter in law.

A Striking evidence, which comes from the courts, is that, of all such cases lodged only 2% ever have been proven and 98% turned out to be false. This clearly shows that laws like 498A were framed by our parliament under a irreconciliable bias and prejudice. It is like using nuclear weapons to eliminate mosquitoes.

498A is Anti Women: It should not be hidden from people to see that as the result of these women oriented laws the majority of sufferers are the women themselves as in majority of cases the entire family is jailed, without even the faintest of proofs required form DILs. The imprisoned include kids, god fearing mothers and sisters even if they are married in order so settle personal vendetta. It makes me feel strongly, that women organizations in the name of women rights have started spreading hatred towards men in our society and instead for fighting for actual ground cause of women have actually become mere D-I-L(Daughter in Law) organizations.

There are a lot of practical ways of eradicating dowry menace but none has been sincerely pursued by women organizations else it should reflect in the status of our rural women.Please see this article for details.

http://www.indiatogether.org/manushi/issue148/dowry.htm

The universal goal and single ask to eradicate dowry related crimes is to make women self reliant, aware.

Today a lot of self reliant and aware women exist on our urban areas in copious quatities and hence there is no need for us to thrust them with these biased and one sided laws and unleash injustice, terror and threat to our social fabric. In fact, I would not be surprised to consider that once we relax usage of these laws by educated, aware and self reliant women then more and more people will be willing to get their daughters educated, aware and self reliant right from child hood.

What I mean is

1) Relax usage of women oriented and women biased laws for women who are self reliant, educated, aware. They will have to fetch justice (in case of any untoward incidence) as any other normal individual/citizen in our country. We all know that the moment an individual is financially independent and is aware it is very difficult to coerce and cause any anguish to her as she will have full right to revolt and quit the relation as soon as she realizes any wrongs being planned against her. Any kind of abuse against these women is only as probable as it is against a common man and they have same recourse to laws, judiciary and govt machinery as a command man has. In fact women would still be in an advantageous position given the public sympathy they enjoy over any other male in our judicial system and society in general.

2) Seeing the gross misuse of these laws every groom would want to marry educated and self reliant woman, and you will see the demand for educated, self reliant women sky rocket.

3) With educated and self reliant women in demand the parents of any girl would see that instead of dowry, the education and means of self reliance they provide to their girl child will come in much more handy to her in her future life. They would want her to educate her further and further. Thus this will result into a ripple effect in which women can be brought forth and elevated in our social strata.

4) Even for a married but subsequently divorced girl, because she can choose to quit marriage anytime (in case she feels she is being treated badly), she would be in high demand because of fear of current set of stringent laws and hence remarriage will become less of an issue or an insignificant issue.

5) The only question that remains is to isolate educated, aware and self reliant from remaining ones. I would suggest if you propose a law whereby a woman has an option to declare her financial status/ her dependent status before marriage(and if possible after marriage) before a magistrate, then It will go a long way in helping us in this categorization. The magistrate can take current factors into account (which include her source of income, education, wealth and property in her name e.t.c) and pronounce her self reliant. This can be done at the time of registration of marriage or time prior to that. We as Govt are already looking for making marriage registrations mandatory. This would also act as an incentive to get marriages registered.

In order to save women in remote areas e.g. villages we could add a default clause to this law such that till the time/IF the certificate is not made the women will treated dependent in man. Hence for such marriages, where there is no registration, society would treat wives as dependent on husbands in all cases and she will be privileged to use these women laws as may be required and no relaxation with respect to these laws would be applicable to those poor women and their marital family.

This will also put pressure on Girls parent so that they give their daughter her due share in parental property such that she is made self reliant. To strengthen this you may add additional clause such that any transfer to any property/parental wealth from Girl to others in her marital family can not take place before certain period of marriage has elapsed.

498A Attack on Institution of marriage: The definition of economical abuse and mental abuse (which is some what blurred even in our laws) is often being stretched to hilarious extents.

It has been observed that a high number of divorce cases in urban India are increasingly talking form of cruelties by wives on husband and family in form of draconian 498A.

The law which was meant to be used to protect the highly sacred institution of marriage, is being leashed as a tool to break them. Given the non bailable and non compoundable nature of the law, once a false complaint is filed, andeven one family member goes to jail, there is no scope left for any reconciliation and the marriage is bound to end in divorce. 498A is thus turning out to be a marriage breaker.

A lot of people(no matter how honest and value oriented they were before) coming out of 498A vow never to marry again and opt for live in relation ships, which is making us traverse back towards where west is in terms of culture and values.

If you ask men who have undergone 498A trauma, they will say they have lost total faith in marriage as institution. Some of them vow never to marry even again in life and most of them vow never ever to marry.

As for the girls who initially file 498A in order to settle personal vendetta or for personal revenge, do not realise that in long run it will come to haunt them as no body will ever marry them ever again if he comes to know if their cruel family breaking deeds. But a lot of women who are so selfish, greedy and cruel do not even bother about that as they enjoy luxuries on huge alimony from husband.

Media at Fault: The media (both print and TV) is one responsible for projecting bad image of men and for the apathy of men at the hands of wives. How many of us see the news where a husband commits suicide due to atrocities of wife. Whenever it happens it is termed as his inability towards not being able to manage enough money for his home.

On other hand any atrocities if ever committed against married women by anti social people are highlighted in one and just one cause “Dowry”. The parents of the girl hide behind dowry as it is the most convenient way to take blame away from themselves and put it on husband and his family. Filing a dowry complaint has become a trend and is more easy than ordering for food on platter, if you are aware of laws. This brings us to the fact that all that is required to fight any social maladies is awareness among people and not totally one sided laws like 498A.

This extortion racket in the name is dowry prohibition is gaining more grounds than ever before because of connivance and nexus of greedy girl(and her family), the police and the lawyers. Police gets its share in the final settlement and lawyer either wants to stretch the case or threaten the husband’s family if they do not shell out an exorbitant amount.

Request: I would request media, lawmakers, political class and buerocrats of these to please organize a serious debate about rampant misuse of these ridiculous laws, which is striking hard on the basic fabric of our society, The Institution of Marriage. I would also request newspaper editors to please have a re-look into this growing menace and make people aware of groud realities in our urban areas vis a vis our rural areas and clear any public illusions about dowry and its menace.

As a responsible and dutiful journalist and editor, I would reqest you to investigate any martial dispute/issue you see happening around, highlight the actual truth and not issue a blanket statement in the name of dowry abuse.

I certainly am in favour of highlighting any atrocities(dowry or otherwise) aganist any section in media, but wrapping all other issues in the name of dowry is indeed a bad precedent being set up by media against Indian males in general. Please report dowry only if after your investigation you find the case to be a dowry case indeed. It has become a norm of the day to attach 498A angle to every marital dispute in order to garner undue mileage from both law and the media, which is projecting an indian male in very bad light in the eye of general public and which eventually gets translated into rediculous one sided laws like 498A at the hands of beurocrats and political class who devise such biased laws.

Sincere Regards,

For further apathies arising out of 498A See http://www.saveindianfamily.org

Together we can and together we will.

Legal Awareness Seminar
(coping with Misuse of Laws concerning Families):IPC 498a

by


Save Indian Family Foundation(SIF)

Mumbai Chapter
( Yahoogroup: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai )





13th August, 2006(3 to 6 p.m)





SIF: For Indian Family, Against Misuse of Marital Laws(Indian Penal Code Section:498a, D.P Act, etc.)





Our sites: www.saveindianfamily.org ; www.mynation.net ; www.498a.org
emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com


P R Gokul : 9821414336 ; Contact: Jinesh Zaveri : 98 202 41589 ; Mumbai Helpline : 9224 33 55 77

______________________________________________________

Innocent Victims of IPC 498a & Marital Laws: Standing up for their Rights.

Seminar cum meeting on 13th August 2006 between 3.00pm-6.pm- At the Press Club of India (Near C.S.T(VT) Station), Glass House, Mahanagar Palika Marg, Mumbai –1.

Legal awareness seminar(coping with Misuse of Marital/Family laws): Conducted by Save Indian Family foundation(SIF). Laws like IPC 498a are misused and the Husband and his family get arrested and entangled in long-drawn legal proceedings. Arrests could happen even without any witness, evidence or police investigation, on the basis of just a false complaint by wife. Know how to take precautions and cope with these situations.

We have invited victims from all over India, who will be discussing their problems and would share their harrowing experiences with this law of 498a. Lawyers, Retired senior Judges and Police Officers have expressed their interest in attending this meeting and addressing the concerns of the innocent affected families. We Invite your representative to be present to know more about our movement called “SAVE INDIAN FAMILY”. A rapidly growing internet yahoogroup of 1100+ families. The regional teams in different states of India, have launched self-funded phone help-lines. The guys next door, who happen to be innocent victims of this Legal Terrorism, manage these teams.

A Brief about the Misuse of Section 498a by law-misusing Wives

23 yrs old section 498a of IPC was introduced to tackle the Dowry menace at large. But the trend over the years have proven this section as a failure. Observation of even Supreme Court of India is that these laws(intended to save a family) have been misused rather than used for genuine reasons.

The potency of misuse in 498a is unfathomable and highly destructive since the Police doesn't need any other supporting evidence or witnesses, other than JUST the wife's statement/complaint, to straight away arrest the Husband and his relatives
Major reason of misuse is that the “burden of proof is on the accused” and the “accused is considered guilty, till proven innocent”(opposite to the general legal Maxim which presumes “Innocent till proven Guilty”, as in all other crimes). This involves the mandatory arrests of all the accused without investigation on a mere complaint of an inconsiderate or cunning wife, against the innocent husband and his family members. Thus damage is already done without crosschecking the verity of the complaint. Generally this tool is effectively misused or threatened to be misused, by the divorcing wives to extract a huge alimony amount from the husband. This Non-bailable, Non Compoundable and Cognizable offence has had a conviction rate of just 2% over the years, which itself speak volumes about its low efficacy and usefulness. We are only trying to amend these laws in such a way that its genuine use will protect families, but its misuse does not break families apart like its happening now.


Even with so much of misuse and appeals the government is pretending sleep. The general opinion on this law is as follows:

1: Supreme Court of India on 498A stated, "The object is to strike at the root of dowry menace. But by misuse of the provision a new legal terrorism can be unleashed. The provision is intended to be used as a shield and not as assassin's weapon. If [the] cry of "wolf" is made too often as a prank, assistance and protection may not be available when the actual wolf appears."-it has unleashed a new form of Legal Terrorism as per Supreme Court

2. Kiran Bedi says: "Laws had been provided for the welfare of women. The police need not assist those who misuse or abuse the law meant for the protection of women."

3. Justice J D Kapoor Says: ‘‘There is a growing tendency among women, which is further perpetuated by their parents and relatives, to rope in each and every relative, including minors and even school going children of distant relatives.’’

4. Kolkatta High Court Justice S.P. Talukdar said the “dangerous” practice of misusing Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code (cruelty on housewives by husbands and in-laws) should be immediately stopped.

5. NRI Journalist Kulbhushan stated "Filing a non-bailable dowry case under IPC 498A is easier than ordering a meal. But while a restaurant can refuse service, the police normally arrest the groom and the in-laws. While the Indian media is flooded with reports of dowry-related bride torture, it hardly mentions the horrific cases of suffering husbands at the hands of unscrupulous wives."

Our sites: www.saveindianfamily.org ; www.mynation.net ; www.498a.org ; www.forgottenwomen.org

emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com, help@asha-kiran.com

Our Blogs: http://at498a.blogspot.com (all our awareness campaigns updated here),

We store/post all SIF Press Releases here, we request personnel from the Media to keep checking back at this blog: http://pr498a.blogspot.com , to be updated with all major press releases around the globe, released on behalf of respective SIF local chapters.

We request your active participation in this Seminar cum Member meeting, and to help us to spread the word to the world. Our Movement called “Save Indian Family or SIF”.

Contact: Jinesh Zaveri. Ph: 98 202 41589; P R Gokul: 9821414336; Mumbai Helpline: 9224 33 55 77.

Agenda

Internal Group members Meeting(identifying volunteers to share the work content in forming, registering and sustaining a Mumbai based NGO for representing our concerns)- 2 to 3PM
Seminar(3 to 5 PM)

1.. Introduction of the Guests, the Issues involved in 498a, Objectives and Structure of the meeting - Mr.P.R.Gokul- 5 Mins

Guest Speakers are requested to share their experiences in dealing with 498a and DP(Dowry Prohibition) law misuse cases, precautions, defense/offence steps that victims could take, what is the alternative for 498a or how it should be amended to prevent misuse and victimization of innocent families

Member Speakers would Compliment/clarify what the previous speaker had mentioned, shares glaring instances where misuse of law is blatant and obvious in his own case, some points on 498a(prevention, defense, offence) and what we could be aiming to do as a group

2. First Guest speaker: Mrs.Anamika V.Vichare-Sarang (Advocate High Court and Family court, Mumbai, Editor: Purushmukti, Legal Advisor to PHSS(Purush Hakka Saurakshan Samittee) - 10 mins

3.. First member speaker: - Mr.M.R.Gupta - 5 mins

4.. Second Guest speaker(to be announced later): 10 mins

5.. Second member speaker - 5 mins

6.. Third member speaker: Mr.Kuldeep Singh Thind , PHSS(Purush Hakka Saurakshan Samittee)- 10 mins

7.. Third member speaker: Compliments/clarifies what the third speaker has said, mentions salient points of some 498a cases he has counseled as a helpline volunteer, and to bring out the "Anatomy of a Typical 498a case"(the typical psychology of the misusing wives& relatives(single daughter, not used to caring and sharing, pampered, tantrums, etc.), their motives(get-rich-fast, plain sadism, pressure tactics to establish upper hand in future family life!), family situation(negative influence of a lot of divorcees/sinister minds in family/friends circle, money-minded, rogue-politician(or such occupations!) type family background, old-wives techniques imparted by girl's mother to get husband under 'control') etc. which drives a girl to falsely implicate her husband & some points on 498a(this section to be split between question answer sessions as appropriate to maintain a coherent flow)- Mr.Jinesh Zaveri - 5 mins initially and continued later as the situation demands, complimenting the flow of the interactive session.

8.. Q&A , Interactive session - 1 hour

9.. Some expert members may speak in between the Q&A Session capturing the missed-out points until then, new directions to be considered etc.- a few minutes to compliment the discussions.

5 to 6 P.M is kept for interactions(including Q & A) between members, the guests may choose to leave or not, as per their convenience.

Any suggestions may be sent to drmura @ hotmail.com , to make the most out of this event.

Join SIF Mumbai Chapter: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/join

For more Links and Resources to fight against Misuse of Marital Laws like 498a: Go to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/links , and access the folder “Resources and Links” (this is updated continually, join SIF-mumbai yahoogroup for access to this link)

Sites
http://mynation.net, http://www.498a.org, http://forgottenwomen.org

http://www.saveindianfamily.org,
Main Yahoogroup: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily

24-hour All India Helpline Number:+91-9243473794

Volunteer Helpline Numbers(limited contact hours,send SMS if unavailable)

Delhi : 9871734980, 9810611534, 9911119113, Bangalore : 80-55334135
Mumbai : 9224335577, Jaipur : 9352562456, Calcutta: 033 25217318/25347398
emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com, help@asha-kiran.com


See Ongoing Awareness Campaigns: http://at498a.blogspot.com

SIF Press Releases updated here: http://pr498a.blogspot.com

Thank YOU…….. SIF: Lets make families happier, and hence the Nation Greater


Feedback and Suggestions

General

1. Name (Assumed name is fine, for privacy):

2. E-mail address (must be reachable, authentic):

3. Contact numbers and Location(Country too, if NRI, so that we can link you to a local SIF chapter):



4. 498a registered (Yes/No, if yes, please provide month and year, remarks):


5. Case in court (Criminal or Divorce: If yes, how long, month and yea, remarkrs):


6. Your Website or any links or Resource , Person you want to share so that we can utilise the same to better our own situations as a group:

7. Any other Suggestions/Inputs for improving SIF activities and results:


For the Media Personnel

Your Company name, nature of Media and Role/Designation:

The Direct contact of any Person or Cell(in your company) which is appropriate and could be interested in associating with SIF:

Any other Suggestions to improve our visibility and to convey our messages and activities better to the Public, and to make these efforts materialize as actual results:

Legal Awareness Seminar
(coping with Misuse of Laws concerning Families):IPC 498a

by


Save Indian Family Foundation(SIF)

Mumbai Chapter
( Yahoogroup: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai )





13th August, 2006(3 to 6 p.m)





SIF: For Indian Family, Against Misuse of Marital Laws(Indian Penal Code Section:498a, D.P Act, etc.)





Our sites: www.saveindianfamily.org ; www.mynation.net ; www.498a.org
emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com


P R Gokul : 9821414336 ; Contact: Jinesh Zaveri : 98 202 41589 ; Mumbai Helpline : 9224 33 55 77

______________________________________________________

Innocent Victims of IPC 498a & Marital Laws: Standing up for their Rights.

Seminar cum meeting on 13th August 2006 between 3.00pm-6.pm- At the Press Club of India (Near C.S.T(VT) Station), Glass House, Mahanagar Palika Marg, Mumbai –1.

Legal awareness seminar(coping with Misuse of Marital/Family laws): Conducted by Save Indian Family foundation(SIF). Laws like IPC 498a are misused and the Husband and his family get arrested and entangled in long-drawn legal proceedings. Arrests could happen even without any witness, evidence or police investigation, on the basis of just a false complaint by wife. Know how to take precautions and cope with these situations.

We have invited victims from all over India, who will be discussing their problems and would share their harrowing experiences with this law of 498a. Lawyers, Retired senior Judges and Police Officers have expressed their interest in attending this meeting and addressing the concerns of the innocent affected families. We Invite your representative to be present to know more about our movement called “SAVE INDIAN FAMILY”. A rapidly growing internet yahoogroup of 1100+ families. The regional teams in different states of India, have launched self-funded phone help-lines. The guys next door, who happen to be innocent victims of this Legal Terrorism, manage these teams.

A Brief about the Misuse of Section 498a by law-misusing Wives
23 yrs old section 498a of IPC was introduced to tackle the Dowry menace at large. But the trend over the years have proven this section as a failure. Observation of even Supreme Court of India is that these laws(intended to save a family) have been misused rather than used for genuine reasons.

The potency of misuse in 498a is unfathomable and highly destructive since the Police doesn't need any other supporting evidence or witnesses, other than JUST the wife's statement/complaint, to straight away arrest the Husband and his relatives
Major reason of misuse is that the “burden of proof is on the accused” and the “accused is considered guilty, till proven innocent”(opposite to the general legal Maxim which presumes “Innocent till proven Guilty”, as in all other crimes). This involves the mandatory arrests of all the accused without investigation on a mere complaint of an inconsiderate or cunning wife, against the innocent husband and his family members. Thus damage is already done without crosschecking the verity of the complaint. Generally this tool is effectively misused or threatened to be misused, by the divorcing wives to extract a huge alimony amount from the husband. This Non-bailable, Non Compoundable and Cognizable offence has had a conviction rate of just 2% over the years, which itself speak volumes about its low efficacy and usefulness. We are only trying to amend these laws in such a way that its genuine use will protect families, but its misuse does not break families apart like its happening now.


Even with so much of misuse and appeals the government is pretending sleep. The general opinion on this law is as follows:

1: Supreme Court of India on 498A stated, "The object is to strike at the root of dowry menace. But by misuse of the provision a new legal terrorism can be unleashed. The provision is intended to be used as a shield and not as assassin's weapon. If [the] cry of "wolf" is made too often as a prank, assistance and protection may not be available when the actual wolf appears."-it has unleashed a new form of Legal Terrorism as per the Supreme Court

2. Kiran Bedi says: "Laws had been provided for the welfare of women. The police need not assist those who misuse or abuse the law meant for the protection of women."

3. Justice J D Kapoor Says: ‘‘There is a growing tendency among women, which is further perpetuated by their parents and relatives, to rope in each and every relative, including minors and even school going children of distant relatives.’’

4. Kolkatta High Court Justice S.P. Talukdar said the “dangerous” practice of misusing Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code (cruelty on housewives by husbands and in-laws) should be immediately stopped.

5. NRI Journalist Kulbhushan stated "Filing a non-bailable dowry case under IPC 498A is easier than ordering a meal. But while a restaurant can refuse service, the police normally arrest the groom and the in-laws. While the Indian media is flooded with reports of dowry-related bride torture, it hardly mentions the horrific cases of suffering husbands at the hands of unscrupulous wives."

Our sites: www.saveindianfamily.org ; www.mynation.net ; www.498a.org ; www.forgottenwomen.org

emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com, help@asha-kiran.com

Our Blogs: http://at498a.blogspot.com (all our awareness campaigns updated here),

We store/post all SIF Press Releases here, we request personnel from the Media to keep checking back at this blog: http://pr498a.blogspot.com , to be updated with all major press releases around the globe, released on behalf of respective SIF local chapters.

We request your active participation in this Seminar cum Member meeting, and to help us to spread the word to the world. Our Movement called “Save Indian Family or SIF”.

Contact: Jinesh Zaveri. Ph: 98 202 41589; P R Gokul: 9821414336; Mumbai Helpline: 9224 33 55 77.


Agenda

Internal Group members Meeting(identifying volunteers to share the work content in forming, registering and sustaining a Mumbai based NGO for representing our concerns)- 2 to 3PM
Seminar(3 to 5 PM)

1.. Introduction of the Guests, the Issues involved in 498a, Objectives and Structure of the meeting - Mr.P.R.Gokul- 5 Mins

Guest Speakers are requested to share their experiences in dealing with 498a and DP(Dowry Prohibition) law misuse cases, precautions, defense/offence steps that victims could take, what is the alternative for 498a or how it should be amended to prevent misuse and victimization of innocent families

Member Speakers would Compliment/clarify what the previous speaker had mentioned, shares glaring instances where misuse of law is blatant and obvious in his own case, some points on 498a(prevention, defense, offence) and what we could be aiming to do as a group

2. First Guest speaker: Mrs.Anamika V.Vichare-Sarang (Advocate High Court and Family court, Mumbai, Editor: Purushmukti, Legal Advisor to PHSS(Purush Hakka Saurakshan Samittee) - 10 mins

3.. First member speaker: - Mr.M.R.Gupta - 5 mins

4.. Second Guest speaker(to be announced later): 10 mins

5.. Second member speaker - 5 mins

6.. Third member speaker: Mr.Kuldeep Singh Thind , PHSS(Purush Hakka Saurakshan Samittee)- 10 mins

7.. Third member speaker: Compliments/clarifies what the third speaker has said, mentions salient points of some 498a cases he has counseled as a helpline volunteer, and to bring out the "Anatomy of a Typical 498a case"(the typical psychology of the misusing wives& relatives(single daughter, not used to caring and sharing, pampered, tantrums, etc.), their motives(get-rich-fast, plain sadism, pressure tactics to establish upper hand in future family life!), family situation(negative influence of a lot of divorcees/sinister minds in family/friends circle, money-minded, rogue-politician(or such occupations!) type family background, old-wives techniques imparted by girl's mother to get husband under 'control') etc. which drives a girl to falsely implicate her husband & some points on 498a(this section to be split between question answer sessions as appropriate to maintain a coherent flow)- Mr.Jinesh Zaveri - 5 mins initially and continued later as the situation demands, complimenting the flow of the interactive session.

8.. Q&A , Interactive session - 1 hour

9.. Some expert members may speak in between the Q&A Session capturing the missed-out points until then, new directions to be considered etc.- a few minutes to compliment the discussions.

5 to 6 P.M is kept for interactions(including Q & A) between members, the guests may choose to leave or not, as per their convenience.Any suggestions may be sent to drmura @ hotmail.com , to make the most out of this event.

Join SIF Mumbai Chapter: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/join

For more Links and Resources to fight against Misuse of Marital Laws like 498a: Go to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/links , and access the folder “Resources and Links” (this is updated continually, join SIF-mumbai yahoogroup for access to this link)

Sites
http://mynation.net, http://www.498a.org, http://forgottenwomen.org
http://www.saveindianfamily.org,
Main Yahoogroup: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily
24-hour All India Helpline Number:+91-9243473794
Volunteer Helpline Numbers(limited contact hours,send SMS if unavailable)
Delhi : 9871734980, 9810611534, 9911119113, Bangalore : 80-55334135
Mumbai : 9224335577, Jaipur : 9352562456, Calcutta: 033 25217318/25347398
emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com, help@asha-kiran.com
See Ongoing Awareness Campaigns: http://at498a.blogspot.com

SIF Press Releases updated here: http://pr498a.blogspot.com

Thank YOU…….. SIF: Lets make families happier, and hence the Nation Greater


Feedback and Suggestions

General

1. Name (Assumed name is fine, for privacy):

2. E-mail address (must be reachable, authentic):

3. Contact numbers and Location(Country too, if NRI, so that we can link you to a local SIF chapter):



4. 498a registered (Yes/No, if yes, please provide month and year, remarks):


5. Case in court (Criminal or Divorce: If yes, how long, month and yea, remarkrs):


6. Your Website or any links or Resource , Person you want to share so that we can utilise the same to better our own situations as a group:

7. Any other Suggestions/Inputs for improving SIF activities and results:


For the Media Personnel

Your Company name, nature of Media and Role/Designation:

The Direct contact of any Person or Cell(in your company) which is appropriate and could be interested in associating with SIF:

Any other Suggestions to improve our visibility and to convey our messages and activities better to the Public, and to make these efforts materialize as actual results:

Reading Material&Resources 4NGO formation,Governance,Direction&Structure

Hi All,


I have uploaded some files which our team members have sent me as the part of their homework and research, which was required to be done before the Meeting on Sunday, 20th August: to decide the particulars of the Mumbai NGO(name, vision, mission, bylaws, governance, official structure, etc.)

1) FAQs about the NGO Sector.doc :Frequently asked Questions: How,What,When,Why,Who of NGO Formation, Governance and Execution for Results--> http://f1.grp.yahoofs.com/v1/QFrkRE2yEecKQmaqSFkk6g80iXumJmWXO1OmTF55xJIGymFp6gggIqVsS2JeV3KGKS58Lszqyhle8dXwUEYnpg/NGO%20Resources/FAQs%20about%20the%20NGO%20Sector.doc


2) Indian_NGO_History.pdf: Defining the Non-Profit Sector: India-A Good read about India's history with NGOs--> http://f1.grp.yahoofs.com/v1/QFrkRNLpFr8KQmaqDvvbYU0DPlhVEkD7Q1aHk78M62dVChypnl5emsajpi8TVPwqPCt0j8PrzH2McMgHsG_g8A/NGO%20Resources/Indian_NGO_History.pdf


Other files(Readings on formation of Mumbai, including the files mentioned above) are also accessible at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/files


Check these files out and lets put your thoughts into discussion with an aim to Freeze matters quickly and comprehensively- we need not spend months in discussing matters which are already pondered upon by eminent predecessors ahead of Mumba-NGO(like Chirag etc. uploaded at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/files - Chirag's By-laws and Charter of NGO "Chirag": Enabling a Generation, one child at a time ).


Guys do confirm that we can meet at 3 P.M, Galleria shopping mall, Hiranandhani Gradens, Powai on 20th, Sunday, August.

Jinesh, do forward this mail to anyone who has attended our meeting and had expressed willingness to contribute in the making and functioning of the mumbai based NGO(if their emails do not appear in the recepient list of this email)


Regards


Gokul
Join SIF Mumbai Chapter: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/join
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-kerala
http://mynation.net, http://www.498a.org, http://forgottenwomen.org
http://www.saveindianfamily.org, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily
24-hour All India Helpline Number:+91-9243473794
Volunteer Helpline Numbers(limited contact hours,send SMS if unavailable)
Delhi : 9871734980, 9810611534, 9911119113
Bangalore : 80-55334135
Mumbai : 9224335577, Jaipur : 9352562456, Calcutta: 033 25217318/25347398
emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com, help@asha-kiran.com
See ongoing awareness campaigns: http://at498a.blogspot.com/








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From: "Gokul P.R"
Subject: Can you send the Bylaws, Articles&Memorandum of association of Asha-Kiran
Date: Thu, 17 Aug 2006 02:11:02 -0700 (PDT)



Hi Gorky,



Do send me these documents by email so that we can deal with these a bit more easier, we could even put a draft of these documents for discussion in the Sunday's(20th august) meeting, else we will have big long-drawn discussions on these matters, while we can just model them on Asha-kiran's well thought-out frameworks.



Why re-invent the wheel, when we can "Touch-down, UP and Running" in mumbai.



Do send the 3 documents(Bylaws, Articles&Memorandum of association of Asha-Kiran) asap.



regards

Gokul



Posted by: gorky_maksim

Wed Aug 16, 2006 11:35 am (PST)

Hi Gokul,

Asha Kiran's bylaws etc can work for you. We have a chartered
accountant who knows all the procedures.

As more and more NGOs get created in India and Abroad, we can
fight against the unscrupulous women, their parents, pseudo-liberals
and anti-socials in a big way.

Best Regards
Gorky

--- In saveindianfamily@yahoogroups.com, "Gokul"
wrote:
>
> Hi All,
>
> I wanted to share with you that after the very satisfying
> Seminar+meet in the Press club on 13th, Sunday, 6 of us met at
> Mulund and walked-through
the procedures which had been compiled
> from the internet about the formation of an NGO.
>

NGO formation Small group interaction

I wanted to share with you that after the very satisfying Seminar+meet in the Press club on 13th, Sunday, 6 of us met at Mulund and walked-through the procedures which had been compiled from the internet about the formation of an NGO.

Most info was picked from the site: www.indianngo.com , see the FAQs: http://www.indianngos.com/ngosection/faqs.htm .

We have(the 6 members) divided some home-work, w.r.t the NGO procedures among ourselves, so that we can have a very focused discussion when we all meet on Sunday, to have consensus on:
1)What should be the name(important, since the applications for any NGO start with some proposed names, out of which we will be allotted an available name) 2) What should be the Mission and long-term vision of our NGO(apart from our main thrust of rationalizing unjust laws like 498a(or against any law which has gender bias built into it, since tomorrow 498a could be called come other name, example domestic violence law will be a much more bigger threat to husbands and families when it finally gets implemented(which is not so ahead in future , as seen from the scorching pace with which its getting “readied”!), etc., where gender-bias and corruption in execution(police and judicial) is rife. 3) to identify the volunteers who are willing for active participation & to assume formal office bearing responsibilities(like director, committee members, ordinary members or whatever posts/roles we come up as a consensus(note that the designations in an NGO could be just like those in any limited liability company, since an NGO is essentially a limited liability company, which just doesn’t have to use the term “ltd.” at the end of its name, moreover, it is governed by the same companies act(1956) like any other ltd. company, to put it briefly).

Once we decide/have consensus on the above 3, we can further decide what all cells we can form among the willing volunteers, according to their individual tastes/interests/skill-sets (like for example: a cell for promotion(making presentation material in software, physical media street plays, rallies, news conferences, panel discussion involving judges to start interfacing with judges and police officials)).

These cells would be so designed, so that we fulfill our multi-dimensional strategy of 1)Judicial Campaigns 2) Media Campaigns and 3) Political Campaigns, etc., to bring about the lobbying power with which we would finally be able to amend or rationalise these draconic laws.

Do send your thoughts and suggestions and make sure that you all turn up for the meeting on Sunday 20th August at 3 P.M, tentatively at “Galleria” Shopping mall(center space of galleria), Hiranandhani , Powai(Near Kanjur Marg Railway Station:3-4 km away).

I would take this opportunity to urge other city members also to start NGOs in Different names, since only if we are represented by a lot of NGOs against the misuse of laws and hence against Family and Legal terrorists, we would be able to lobby and make any impact which can get an amendment in laws like 498a. This is in line with our multi-dimensional strategy too(don't think that too many NGOs are not desirable or needed- its very much needed and all of the NGOs must be in different names, but attached to the umbrella group of SIF, so that this ensures a fault tolerant system, which is both person & location independent)



Regards

Gokul
PS: I have the CD of the video footage of the meeting held on 13th, but need some more editing, so will be ready in a couple of days more. Gorky is sending us a sample Memorandum and Articles of association , so that we can refer the same while preparing the ones for the Mumbai-NGO.

Mumbai Meeting Pre-release summary

Summary and salient milestones of the Mumbai meet will be posted soon here in this post itself, so check back by tomorrow Evening by 5 P.M to read more at this same link (will be adding those details as a link here, in this same post itself).

First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, and then they fight you, then you win- Mahatma Gandhi.

SIF-Mumbai as a group was in the first two stages as mentioned above, from the time we started as a small group around 2 years back. Examples: 1) Times and Hindustan Times and various other media who we had requested for putting a small ‘news item’ announcing about the Mumbai seminar + meeting in their respective "Today's Events" section, totally ignored us (and may have laughed at our request from the comfort of their offices) –Result, No news came in the dailies (except in one Marathi paper, thanks to a dedicated member’s efforts). 2) When a member tried to get the meeting covered, by using his personal contacts with a reporter in a TV channel, he was told that the TV channel won't be interested in reporting such an event, since they will be fearing an onslaught of rebuke slander from women’s lobby- may be the guys was timid and didn’t even check with his Channel in the first place, but this is not an isolated reaction towards a group of harassed men in media

But despite the apathy from media, the Mumbai Meeting was a worthwhile effort, we could 1) Get volunteers for forming and running an NGO- 20 odd willing members by the show-of-hands way. We will decide on the structure(this would either have a prominent women presence, or an “all woman wing”, all this will be brainstormed when the volunteers meet or chat on a later date) and procedures to actually commission this NGO when we meet together in a small group of volunteers(out of the 20 members who have showed their willingness) 2) Could get a crowd of 40 plus(and a few representatives of the media like All India Radio, Asian Age and UNA) for the first time in a meeting, this should be enough to set the ball rolling in the times to come.


Summary will be Posted here soon, as mentioned before. But my assessment about the first issue to be addressed, to get SIF-mumbai members ‘self-enabled’, is that they need to be brought to a more calm and composed state of mind(since many were appearing very stressed, wary, dejected and harried, in their speech and general outlook, etc.).

So I would request the motivational and mind control experts in our group to post articles and other resources , which will help our members to acquire a better and positive frame of mind, so that they can actually think clear and solve their issues with a problem-solving approach. If anyone deoesn’t have this attitude, and just starts to run from pillar to post, out of frustration & pulling their own hair out while doing so, it’s a tell tale sign of impending failure- “Jo Dar gaya, who Mar gaya” as Gabbar singh said years back… its so true.

Friends, this is the only issue u need to consciously address, and after you address this issue of unnecessary and worthless fear and anxiety, you can have a smooth cruise with your legal issues(since we have all the data you would need to fight any possible 498a scenario- we, in SIF, have collective wisdom of more than 1000 man days in Law related to 498a/dowry cases, considering at least 20-30 members(at any give day) browsing the net and acquiring knowledge from other legal sources about how to fight misuse of 498a cases, for an average of 1 hour for 2-3 years till now(After SIF yahoogroup was formed). If you tap into to the collective wisdom of SIF group and then use your own judgment and ratify the emerging ideas with your lawyer, I don’t know why anything would go wrong.

But for all this a composed frame of mind is essential, and you need to control ur mind from being ruthless on yourselves, draining a lot of positive energy out of your system- I say this, because this is the major aspect I always find lacking in any new victim(just as I was 3 years back- but I had strong emotional support from my parents which bailed me out from depression and negativity quick enough- I hope the same for all of you).

For alleviating this lacuna in your confidence, we need to organize more meetings which first addresses stress and mind control techniques(like Yoga, morning/evening walks, or just even shopping(works better than any, for some J ), do whatever you get happiness and peace from, but just don’t stay depressed and stressful- since this negativity hampers your inherent ability to think and hence defend or stand up for your rights.

So pick up your wits and start making amends, with your own mind first.

Mumbai Meeting: Structure

Hi All,

The following has been planned as the structure of the meeting:

Internal Group members Meeting(finding volunteers to divide the work content in forming and running an NGO for representing our concerns) 2 to 3PM

Seminar(3 to 5 PM)

1. Introduction of the Guests, the Issues involved in 498a, Objectives and Structure of the meeting - Mr.P.R.Gokul(Introduces each speaker individually too before their speeches, adding remarks about what has already been said and what needs to be still addressed - in an interactive way so that audience is involved early in the session- before the star segment of Q&A(Question and Answer session)) - 5 Mins
2. First Guest speaker: Speaks about his experiences in dealing with 498a and DP(Dowry Prohibition) law misuse cases, precautions, defense/offence steps victims could take, whats the alternative for 498a or how it should be amended to prevent misuse- Mr.S.S.Palnitkar(Ex-Judge, Family and District court)- 10 mins
3. First member speaker: Compliments/clarifies what the first speaker has said, mentions glaring instances where misuse is obvious in his own case(for the Media to feed on), some points on 498a(prevention, defense, offence) and what we could be aiming to do as a group - Mr.M.R.Gupta - 5 mins
4. Second Guest speaker: Speaks about her experiences in dealing with cases of 498a and DP law misuse, precautions, defense/offence steps victims could take, whats the alternative for 498a or how it should be amended to prevent misuse- Mrs.Anamika V.Vichare-Sarang(Advocate High Court and Family court, Mumbai, Editor: Purushmukti, Legal Advisor to PHSS(Purush Hakka Saurakshan Samittee) - 10 mins
5. Second member speaker: Compliments/clarifies what the second speaker has said, mentions glaring instances where misuse is obvious in his own case(for the Media to feed on), some points on 498a(prevention, defense, offence) and what we could be aiming to do as a group - Mr.Jaspal Singh - 5 mins
6. Third Guest speaker: In the same lines as other guest speaker, adding his own observations during his career- Ex-DGP(to be confirmed by tomorrow evening)- 10 mins
7. Third member speaker: Compliments/clarifies what the third speaker has said, mentions salient points of some 498a cases he has counseled as a helpline volunteer, and to bring out the "Anatomy of a Typical 498a case"(the typical psychology of the misusing wives& relatives(single daughter, not used to caring and sharing, pampered, tantrums, etc.), their motives(get-rich-fast, plain sadism, pressure tactics to establish upper hand in future family life!), family situation(negative influence of a lot of divorcees/sinister minds in family/friends circle, money-minded, rogue-politician(or such occupations!) type family background, old-wives techniques imparted by girl's mother to get husband under 'control') etc. which drives a girl to falsely implicate her husband & some points on 498a(this section to be split between question answer sessions as appropriate to maintain a coherent flow)- Mr.Jinesh Zaveri - 5 mins initially and continued later as the situation demands, complimenting the flow of the interactive session.
8. Q&A , Interactive session - 1 hour
9. Some expert members may speak in between the Q&A Session capturing the missed-out points until then, new directions to be considered etc.- a few minutes to compliment the discussions.

5 to 6 P.M is kept for interactions(including Q & A) between members, the guests may choose to leave or not, as per their convenience.

Any suggestions may be sent to drmura @ hotmail.com , to make the most out of this event.

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Brief Details of the Meeting..........

To be held at the Press Club of India, Near C.S.T(VT) Station, Fort, Mumbai: 13th Sunday August.

Legal awareness seminar(coping with Misuse of Family laws):IPC 498a.

Conducted by Save Indian Family foundation from 3 P.M to 6 P.M. Laws like IPC 498a are misused and the Husband and his family get arrested and entangled in long-drawn legal proceedings. Arrests could happen even without any witness, evidence or police investigation, on the basis of just a false complaint by wife. Know how to take precautions and cope with these situations. Call 9224335577, 9820241589.
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Do note that we have to share the expenses of the event, for this we have decided on a registration fee of Rs.100 per person. If the expenses overshoots the collection, you are free to contribute more, but no compulsion :).

Do confirm your participation, email to drmura @ hotmail.com , lets make this a big success and help ourselves. See http://at498a.blogspot.com/2006/08/promote-mumbai-meetingdetails-mumbai.html for more details on the meeting.


Warm Regards

P.R.Gokul
http://gokul.go.to , http://cruiserdeep.blogspot.com/
Tele/Fax : +91 22 25614188(Bombay, Res), +91 9821414336
Join SIF Mumbai Chapter: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/join
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-kerala
http://mynation.net, http://www.498a.org, http://forgottenwomen.org
http://www.saveindianfamily.org, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily
24-hour All India Helpline Number:+91-9243473794
Volunteer Helpline Numbers(limited contact hours,send SMS if unavailable)
Delhi : 9871734980, 9810611534, 9911119113
Chandigarh: 9888562582, Bangalore : 80-55334135
Mumbai : 9224335577, Jaipur : 9352562456, Calcutta: 033 25217318/25347398
emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com, help@asha-kiran.com
See ongoing awareness campaigns: http://at498a.blogspot.com/, to post to this blog send email to cruiserdeep.498a@blogger.com


PS:If the weblinks are not working, you can copy&paste the link on to your browser

Thanks for all your efforts to promote Mumbai meet-Together we will prevail

Hello Comrades,

If v work together for our cause like your efforts below, (these are from our members who used the email:cruiserdeep.498a@blogger.com to blog the matter in the email directly at: http://at498a.blogspot.com/ ), "Impossible is really Nothing"

http://at498a.blogspot.com/2006/08/dharmo-rakshati-rakshitaha.html - Contributed by Pendyala

http://at498a.blogspot.com/2006/08/seminar-on-ipc498a-dowry-law-awareness.html - Contributed by illangoj

http://at498a.blogspot.com/2006/08/dear-indian-citizen-this-mail-comes-to.html - bby Sachit

http://at498a.blogspot.com/2006/08/invitation-seminar-cum-meeting-on-13th.html - by Sachit

http://at498a.blogspot.com/2006/08/thanks-from-sif-group-mr-kulbhushan.html - By Sachit

I am sure others have done their bit of promotion too, without posting it to this blog- every effort counts and we, at SIF-Mumbai, bow down to them. Since 2 or 3 members in Mumbai can't move this Juggernaut, "it takes a mass uprising to raze evil, just as it takes healthy families to build a Great Nation".

Our Salutes to all your efforts, lets all see the rising of the Truth soon


Warm Regards

P.R.Gokul
http://gokul.go.to , http://cruiserdeep.blogspot.com/
Tele/Fax : +91 22 25614188(Bombay, Res), +91 9821414336
Join SIF Mumbai Chapter: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/join
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-kerala
http://mynation.net, http://www.498a.org, http://forgottenwomen.org
http://www.saveindianfamily.org, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily
24-hour All India Helpline Number:+91-9243473794
Volunteer Helpline Numbers(limited contact hours,send SMS if unavailable)
Delhi : 9871734980, 9810611534, 9911119113
Chandigarh: 9888562582, Bangalore : 80-55334135
Mumbai : 9224335577, Jaipur : 9352562456, Calcutta: 033 25217318/25347398
emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com, help@asha-kiran.com
See ongoing awareness campaigns: http://at498a.blogspot.com/, to post to this blog send email to cruiserdeep.498a@blogger.com

PS: If any of the weblinks are not working when you click on them, you may have to copy paste the full weblink on to ur browser/explorer(if clicking is not working- it may be because the hyperlinks(Weblinks) are getting truncated or so... so just copy & paste the full link on to ur browser).

Seminar on IPC498a (dowry law) awareness - Media invitation

Mumbai SIF(Save Indian Family) Group's Legal awareness seminar:

Coping with Misuse of Family Laws: Indian Penal Code, Section 498a

To The Editors

National Media Houses

Messers,

Sub: Request for listing in "Today's Engagements/Events" section in the Sunday's(13th August)edition of your Media/Paper.

This is a request for listing our event in your media's "Event's of the day" section or as appropriate. I also request you to assign a reporter to cover the details of the meeting and report the same(see towards the end of this mail for more details, do ask us if any thing more is needed).

Please list the details below, in your section "Events" in the Sunday’s Media/Paper(13thAugust)

**** Matter to be included in the Sundays(13th August) "Events" Section****

At the Press Club of India, Near C.S.T(VT) Station, Fort, Mumbai: 13th Sunday August.

Legal awareness seminar(coping with Misuse of Family laws):IPC 498a.

Conducted by Save Indian Family foundation from 3 P.M to 6 P.M. Laws like IPC 498a are misused and the Husband and his family get arrested and entangled in long-drawn legal proceedings. Arrests could happen even without any witness, evidence or police investigation, on the basis of just a false complaint by wife. Know how to take precautions and cope with these situations. Call 9224335577, 9820241589.

**** Matter to be included in the Sundays(13th August) "Events" Section****

Warm Regards,

illangoj

Contact:

P.R.Gokul
http://gokul.go.to , http://cruiserdeep.blogspot.com/
Tele/Fax : +91 22 25614188(Bombay, Res), +91 9821414336
Join SIF Mumbai Chapter: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/join
http://mynation.net
http://www.498a.org
http://forgottenwomen.org/
http://www.saveindianfamily.org/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily
24-hour All India Helpline Number:+91-9243473794

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-6080556430751348760

http://www.dailyindia.com/show/44895.php/NRI_grooms_tortured_and_fleeced_by_Indian_brides(SPECIAL)

http://humanitarianhelp.sulekha.com/blogs/blogdisplay.aspx?cid=50111

Volunteer Helpline Numbers(limited contact hours,send SMS if unavailable)
Delhi : 9871734980, 9810611534, 9911119113
Chandigarh: 9888562582
Bangalore : 80-55334135
Mumbai : 9224335577
Jaipur : 9352562456
Calcutta: 033 25217318/25347398
emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com, help@asha-kiran.com
See ongoing awareness campaigns: http://at498a.blogspot.com/,

Promote Mumbai Meeting:Details &Invitations which can be sent

Hello All,

Please see the invitation we have sent the press/media as below, to
have all the details. You can have a question answer session with the
guests and invited dignitaries, so note down your burning issues and
come with a positive view, together we will prevail with the Truth.

Do note that we have to share the expenses of the event, for this we
have decided on a registration fee of Rs.100. If the expenses/costs
overshoots the collection, you are free to contribute more, but no
compulsion :).

Do confirm your participation, email to drmura @ hotmail.com , lets
make this a big success and help ourselves.

Regards
Gokul
9821414336
**********Promote the Mumbai Meeting************I have uploaded 3 files at : http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sif-mumbai/files/Meeting/ , which you can use to spread the news aboutour meeting and make it a success, forward this mail to anyone whocould use this:Or see http://www.geocities.com/gokul_p_r/MumbaiMeetInvitationsAndPressRelease/Invitation-of-Dignitaries.doc

http://www.geocities.com/gokul_p_r/MumbaiMeetInvitationsAndPressRelease/InvitationAndPressReleaseSentToMedia.doc

http://www.geocities.com/gokul_p_r/MumbaiMeetInvitationsAndPressRelease/TodaysEventsListingInPapers.doc
**********Promote the Mumbai Meeting************
********* Brief Details of the Meeting***********
At the Press Club of India, Near C.S.T(VT) Station, Fort, Mumbai:13th Sunday August.
Legal awareness seminar(coping with Misuse of Family laws):IPC 498a.

Conducted by Save Indian Family foundation from 3 P.M to 6 P.M. Lawslike IPC 498a are misused and the Husband and his family getarrested and entangled in long-drawn legal proceedings. Arrestscould happen even without any witness, evidence or policeinvestigation, on the basis of just a false complaint by wife. Knowhow to take precautions and cope with these situations. Call9224335577, 9820241589.

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1st File: "Invitation of Dignitaries": You can send this to inviteLegal Experts to be guests for the meeting(Experienced Advocates,retired Police officers, Judges, Sociologists, Psychologists, or anyone who can add value in this seminar, etc.)

2nd File:"Innocent Victims of 498a-Standing up for their rights":You can send this to any of your media/press contacts to invitethem, and can have the details to write about us.

3rd File: "Request for listing in Today's events in papersm media"-self-explanatory, u can send this to papers u know and get the briefnews about the meeting annouced in their media.
********************* More Details: Invitation and Press release sent
to Media*****************
Innocent Victims of IPC 498a & Marital Laws: Standing up for their
Rights.
Inviting you for a Seminar cum meeting on 13th August 2006 between
3.00pm-6.pm- At the Press Club of India (Near C.S.T(VT) Station), Glass
House, Mahanagar Palika Marg, Mumbai –1.
Legal awareness seminar(coping with Misuse of Family laws): Conducted
by Save Indian Family foundation(SIF). Laws like IPC 498a are misused
and the Husband and his family get arrested and entangled in long-drawn
legal proceedings. Arrests could happen even without any witness,
evidence or police investigation, on the basis of just a false
complaint by wife. Know how to take precautions and cope with these
situations.
We have invited victims from all over India, who will be discussing
their problems and would share their harrowing experiences with this
law of 498a. Lawyers, Retired senior Judges and Police Officers have
expressed their interest in attending this meeting and addressing the
concerns of the innocent affected families. We Invite your
representative to be present to know more about our movement called
“SAVE INDIAN FAMILY”. A rapidly growing internet yahoogroup of 1100+
families. The regional teams in different states of India, have
launched self-funded phone help-lines. The guys next door, who happen
to be innocent victims of this Legal Terrorism, manage these teams.
A Brief about the Misuse of Section 498a by law-misusing Wives
23 yrs old section 498a of IPC was introduced to tackle the Dowry
menace at large. But the trend over the years have proven this section
as a failure. Observation of even Supreme Court of India is that these
laws(intended to save a family) have been misused rather than used for
genuine reasons.
The potency of misuse in 498a is unfathomable and highly destructive
since the Police doesn't need any other supporting evidence or
witnesses, other than JUST the wife's statement/complaint, to straight
away arrest the Husband and his relativesMajor reason of misuse is that the “burden of proof is on the accused”
and the “accused is considered guilty, till proven innocent”(opposite
to the general legal Maxim which presumes “Innocent till proven
Guilty”, as in all other crimes). This involves the mandatory arrests
of all the accused without investigation on a mere complaint of an
inconsiderate or cunning wife, against the innocent husband and his
family members. Thus damage is already done without crosschecking the
verity of the complaint. Generally this tool is effectively misused or
threatened to be misused, by the divorcing wives to extract a huge
alimony amount from the husband. This Nonbailable, Non Compoundable and
Cognizable offence has had a conviction rate of just 2% over the years,
which itself speak volumes about its low efficacy and usefulness. We
are only trying to amend these laws in such a way that its genuine use
will protect families, but its misuse does not break families apart
like its happening now.
Even with so much of misuse and appeals the government is pretending
sleep. The general opinion on this law is as follows:
1: Supreme Court of India on 498A stated, "The object is to strike at
the root of dowry menace. But by misuse of the provision a new legal
terrorism can be unleashed. The provision is intended to be used as a
shield and not as assassin's weapon. If [the] cry of "wolf" is made too
often as a prank, assistance and protection may not be available when
the actual wolf appears."-it has unleashed a new form of Legal
Terrorism as per Supreme Court 2. Kiran Bedi says: "Laws had been provided for the welfare of women.
The police need not assist those who misuse or abuse the law meant for
the protection of women."3. Justice J D Kapoor Says: ‘‘There is a growing tendency among women,
which is further perpetuated by their parents and relatives, to rope in
each and every relative, including minors and even school going
children of distant relatives.’’4. Kolkatta High Court Justice S.P. Talukdar said the “dangerous”
practice of misusing Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code (cruelty on
housewives by husbands and in-laws) should be immediately stopped. 5. NRI Journalist Kulbhushan stated "Filing a non-bailable dowry case
under IPC 498A is easier than ordering a meal. But while a restaurant
can refuse service, the police normally arrest the groom and the
in-laws. While the Indian media is flooded with reports of
dowry-related bride torture, it hardly mentions the horrific cases of
suffering husbands at the hands of unscrupulous wives."
Our sites: www.saveindianfamily.org ; www.mynation.net ; www.498a.org ;
http://forgottenwomen.org
emails: help@498a.org , info@mynation.net , mail@saveindianfamily.com,
help@asha-kiran.com
Our Blogs:
http://at498a.blogspot.com/2006/08/mumbai-meeting-save-indian-family.ht
ml , http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com
We request your august presence in this Seminar cum Member meeting, and
to help us to spread the word to the world. Our Movement is called
“Save Indian Family or SIF”.
Contact: Jinesh Zaveri. Ph: 98 202 41589; P R Gokul: 9821414336; Mumbai
Helpline: 9224 33 55 77.