Word of thought over DV Law from a common man !!

Word of thought over DV Law from a common man !!

• I would like to extend a word of thanks to Mr. Rajat Sharma & his entire team of India Bole for doing wonderful program on 498A & DV law’s in view of public awareness. I wish all people in Media take the ownership to spread facts & real understanding on the topic and get encouraged by taking inspiration from such creations.
  
  There are couple points I would like to raise here in view of New DV law and 498A in order to sensitize the subject’s real impression which is going to change of life in India in days to come.
  
  
• Word of Thought for General Public & Ladies in India :
  
  Ladies ( Wives, Mothers, Sisters, Girlfriends & colleagues ), They are very important & essential part of our society and for that matter this is for the survival of this human existence. Without a Woman & a Man, there can’t be any living World, which I guess is know to all. Coming to the topic straight, then why Women Organizations, feels that providing such refuge ( DV Law, 498A – Laws in there current version ) are needed in our society to safeguard them. In our history, we were divided & others ruled us, and now we in our selves doing the same among us.
  
  Any LAW which is not balance can never give results and no good for anyone in the society. If for future, we want to make things look good and bright, we got to design our LAWs, processes of way of life in such a manner that present flaws are corrected rather than generating more options for those who have already done the enough damage.
  IS THIS CORRECT?? Please THINK…THINK….as if we do not think now, time will not give us next chance.
  
  
• Word of Thought for Media channels of India :
  
  This country need lot many Rajat Sharma’s who can drive the show and work for Public service. If one can make such a big impact, imagine having uncounted such numbers are bound to make us best in the world.Reporters like Ms Anita Sharma Bisth from India TV, Mr. Vatsal Srivastav & Mr. Promod Sharma from Zee TV and many others who are working for spreading the right information to public are the assets for our country and future generations of India will always be credible for their work done today. I would like to request to Media personnel that more and more should join their gang so that reality is reflected to the public. Media is a very strong medium to reach to deep in the public and people like them can really make the difference.
  
  
• Word of Thought for Mr. Rajat Sharma of India TV :
  
  Sir, you by your expressions & sources is doing good for the common man and I request that you keep this going for ever without any fear & pressures which you may have. Please make sure there is no new Manchanda ( Inspector – Delhi police) event may happen as this is a common practice in our country that if someone try to follow the truth, finally have to scum to the frustrations and give-up the life. Please keep your activities ON, in spreading Good & Bad part of these social evils of misuse of 498A & DV Laws. These LAWs are to be there for the benefit of those who need it but not for those who misuse it.
  
  
• Word of Thought for Our Esteemed Govt. Organizations of India :
  
  NCW & Other women organizations, please work for the welfare of women in India but the method which you have currently adopted is going to ruin family structure in India. Men who are abusive & bad must never be spared but all Men should not be assumed to be Bad. Likewise, all women can never be assumed to be Bad. If a wife is important to make this world, with out being mother, she can never be complete. And when this wife is mother the next day, how can she become a criminal as is made in 498A in false allegations. Please work towards the improvements to be proposed to identify Good & Bad elements in the issues which crop-up in family matters and then only you will be able to justify your work being done for welfare of women. Promoting blindly such LAWs which are unbalance & can give suicidal results in our future to come, will not do any good for the women. People working in NCW & other women organizations must also have a family. They may also have wives, mothers, sisters, girlfriends……misuse & misshape can happen with anyone……Please THINK what you are doing, is RIGHT or WRONG……
  Please THINK…THINK….as if you do not think now, time will not give you next chance.
  
  
• Word of Thought for Young couples & youth of India :
  
  Marriage, friendship, relationship is our PERSONAL MATTER….please try to solve all your issues within yourselves and if things can’t be sorted out, use correct path. Please do not get carried way with what is told by others to solve your problem and apply your own mind. Marriage is an institution which needs compromises & better understanding to lead a common life with your partner. If someone is not ready for doing compromises, should never think about going for a relation but if in relation, then all needed to make that relation a success, must be done. Non of such LAWs like 498A & DV, can solve our domestic problems. These are meant for those, who really need it but not for those who just want to get ride of spoiled relation. Money can never compensated what is lost and so, please THINK …THINK….can asking money as compensation, will compensate the time, year & youth you will loose in fighting cases in court?? Life is beautiful, please enjoy every bit of it and go apart smoothly if things can’t be sorted out and create a new world for yourselves and for others where there is no pain. EGO can never give satisfaction & calm and so, get over with it and look for brighter days tomorrow.
  
  
• Word of Thought for Law Makers/Judges/Lawyers of India :
  
  Having LAWs for protection & safeguard of weaker sections is good and are always welcomed by society but supporting LAWs like DV , 498A in current version, makes us feel as a common man that Woman of India is very much fragile and helpless. Woman is the creator of this world when in union with Man but Laws like DV, 498-A Misuse is going to destroy this Family structure in India and thus as LAW makers, this is a humble request to all you people who define the way of life for a common man that please work on the improvement plan for existing errors & flaws/loopholes, we have in our LAW system, using which BAD people try to take advantage and fresh LAWs which may be created should be created in a balance form.Lawyers like Mr. Mahesh Tiwari, Mr. R.P. Chug and many women lawyers & women activists who are keeping balance view on the Law and it’s use and misuse, should come out and work for people’s voice. These Misuses can only be countered if people like these can join the hands with suffers like us along with common man, who is finally looking and living to have a better life, to live.This is a big shame for us to have such a week impression on Woman of India in the eyes of rest of the World. Woman is created soft & physically weak by nature and that’s done with a purpose so that opposite sex will have attraction for it. But such dividing laws one day will spoil this nature’s principle and what will be left is Hate, dissatisfaction & frustration in future generations. Law makers, please …….THINK…THINK…..is this what we all want to have in our future…..…
  Please THINK…THINK….as if you do not think now, time will not give you next chance.
  
  
• Word of Thought for SIF & Other voluntary organizations & individuals working for good cause of 498-A, DV Misuses :
  
  Swarup Sarkar, Ashish Mukhi, Gurdarshan, Mahesh Tiwari, Bharti, Gorky, Sachit Dalal, Satya, De’souza, Gookul, Jinesh Zaveri, jogeshwarmahanta… and this chain is never ending as there are lot of people who’s name is not known but they are working silently…..Heads-off to all of you for your wonderful work being done in order to spread knowledge about how to save people who are suffering from Misuse of 498A and other domestic problems.Keep working and keep your sprits high and let any 498-A,DV Bill to come, we shall not stop & get horrified by such LAWS. Fight for truth, fight for justice, will always be kept ON …..…….WE SHALL OVER COME …..WE SHALL OVER COME, ONE DAYS……DEEP IN MY HEART, I DO BELIEVE, WE SHALL OVER COME ONE DAY…….Thanks for all what you are doing and keep doing without expecting results as the Hole Geeta says…..results will be always GOOD, if the intensions are clear & pure.
  
  
• Word of Thought from Raj Kaushal on his special Day :
  
  34 Years before, I came in to existence this day and today my whole day I spent in one court or the other and what I got in the form of gift, is NEXT DATE. Thanks to my beloved wife for letting me celebrate my B’day in the courts. I wish we all should make collated efforts to generate better ways to celebrate our special days and court should only be the place where real criminals and aggrieved people should go to get justice. People like me who have spent their life by following Laws and tried to lead simple and honest life should not be forced to such cruelties. Laws like 498-A, DV are bound to make sure that people like me will have more and more people in chain to face these cruelties in days to come.
  We need good Dr., Engg, Lawyers, Judges, Administrators and other professionals to make our country more and more better place to live. If people like us are the CRIMINALS of this country, please …THINK….THINK….
  whom we should bang for making our future better. … Please THINK…THINK….as if you do not think now, time will not give you next chance.
  
  STOP LEGAL TERRORISM !!
  Save Your Families today to have Indian Society Tomorrow !!
  
  Thanks & Best Regards
  Raj Kaushal
  Ph.No: +919810049917
  raj_k_kaushal@yahoo.com;
  rajkaushal@gmail.com
  
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Missing facts about DV Act and Anti Dowry Law : Statistics about indian men

Missing facts about DV Act and Anti Dowry Law : Statistics about indian men

Dear Sir(s)/Madam(s)

FACTS AND FIGURES

Whenever women organist ions are talking about number of FIR’s u/s 498a (Anti Dowry Law), these organizations very ‘smartly HIDE” the fact about the FALSE CASES. A report said that ONLY 2% cases are genuine under this section and 98% cases are FALSE. Here we need to understand and accept the truth about DOWRY LAW MISUSE.

1. (Pls refer : http://pib.nic.in/release/release.asp?relid=12157)

It mentions: “Close to five crore women in India suffer from violence in their homes and only 0.1 per cent of them ever pick up the courage to report the abuse, reveals a new study, Section 498A, IPC : “Used or Misused?” conducted by the Delhi-based Centre for Social Research.

The study released here on August 30, 2005 sought to analyze whether 498A – a section that aims to protect women from being subjected to cruelty from husband or other relatives – is being used or misused. It found that out of 100 cases ordered for investigation under 498A, only in two cases the accused got convicted.”

2. (Pls refer http://cities.expressindia.com/fullstory.php?newsid=170603)

It mentions: Ajaib Singh, head of the Women and Child Support Unit, says 70 per cent of the 1,000-odd cases that they receive every year pertain to dowry, but only 20 per cent of these are genuine. ‘‘It is unfortunate that more and more people are misusing the stringent provisions of the law out of sheer spite.’’

‘‘People generally make use this law to facilitate a divorce. And often, it’s the lawyers who advise the women to implicate their in-laws under the provisions of this Act,’’ says Shantosh Singh, chairperson of Women Welfare Counselling Cell at Sector 17.

A police officer narrated the case of a woman who had slapped a dowry case against her husband and in-laws only because she wanted the family house to be in her name.

Lawyers also admit that the stringent laws against the dowry are misused to a great extent,‘‘There are only 10 per cent cases based on truth, and people usually come to us and ask specifically to mention the element of dowry in their divorce petitions,’’ says Amrikh Singh Kalra, advocate at Punjab and Haryana High Court.

‘‘Most of the cases are fabricated and the element of dowry is exaggerated in them. Basically women want to have a quick solution to their problems and the laws against dowry provide the easiest way out,’’ says advocate Amarjit Singh Jattana.

3. (Pls refer: http://cities.expressindia.com/fullstory.php?newsid=169738)

It mentions: Mahila Thana Station Officer Vijay Laxmi Pandey says, ‘‘In most cases, it begins with an ego problem which finally leads to a threat of dowry complaint. We try our best to solve these cases by providing a non-police station like atmosphere to counsel the couples.’’

According to lawyer Rohit Kant, ‘‘The Section 498 A (3/4) Dowry Protection Act and 406 of Indian Penal Code are the two Sections which come handy in filing complaints against husbands. The vice-a-versa doesn’t work.’’

INDIAN JUDICIARY WARNS ABOUT THIS MISUSE

Hon’ble Supreme Court of India, has already warned Indian society about this misuse and termed it as “LEGAL TERRORISM”.

(Pls refer: (http://www.telegraphindia.com/1050722/asp/nation/story_5020229.asp)

It mentions: The Supreme Court today warned that misuse of anti-dowry laws could unleash a “new legal terrorism”.

“Merely because the provisions are constitutional? that does not give a licence to unscrupulous persons to wreck personal vendetta or unleash harassment,” the bench said.

The object of the laws are “to strike at the root of the dowry menace” and the “provision is intended to be used as a shield and not an assassin’s weapon, it said. If people cry “wolf” too often as a prank, assistance and protection may not be available when the actual “wolf” appears”, the court cautioned.

“The object of the provision is prevention of the dowry menace. But many instances have come to light where the complaints are not bonafide and have been filed with an oblique motive. In such cases, acquittal of the accused does not in all cases wipe out the ignominy suffered during and prior to trial. Some times, adverse media coverage adds to the misery,” the judges said

Hon’ble High Court also looked worried about this misuse

(Pls refer : http://www.delhidistrictcourts.nic.in/jan/3875.htm)

It mentions:

(Para 23) For instance it is the experience of this court that in offences under Sections 498A/406 IPC which are much abused provisions and exploited by the police and the victims to the level of absurdity and are of such nature which can be investigated without arrest and do not fall under the aforesaid category viz. being of highest magnitude and prescribing severest punishment or minimum punishment, every relative of husband, close or distant, old or minor is arrested by the police. By arresting such relatives whose arrest may not be necessary for completing the investigation as it can be completed by recording the statement of victim, her parents and other witnesses, police assumes the role of breaker of homes and not the maker as once any relative of the husband is sent to jail, the marriage ends for all practical purposes and divorce and other miseries are bound to follow. Unless the allegations are of very serious nature and highest magnitude arrest should always be avoided.

(Para 24) In this court everyday ten to twenty matters for quashing the FIRs under Sections 498A/406 IPC are taken up as all marriages end in divorce where relatives of husband or other are sent to jail. Unfortunately, sufferers are young girls between the ages 20 to 28 years. Very few cases end up in full trial and conviction. These are the offences whose deterrence has proved worse than remedy.

(Para 25) It was in view of this malady that this Court had strongly recommended to make the offence under Section 498A IPC bailable and compoundable if society wants to salvage and save the institution of marriage. This Court again reiterate its recommendations to the Government.

World Health Organization (WHO) WARNS

The World Health Organization (WHO) mentioned ELDER ABUSE by MISUSE of Dowry law.

(Pls refer: http://www.saveindianfamily.org/blogs/2005/06/26/elder-abuse-in-india 

And 

http://www.who.int/hpr/ageing/MissingVoices.pdf)

It mentions: "In india there is a law that in intended to protect the daughter-in-law from abusive in-laws. A daughter in law can go to the police station and lay a complaint that she is being abused by her in-laws, and the in-laws are arrested on her word alone. However the focus group participants reported that some daughters-in-law are using this law as a form of elder abuse,by making false police reports. In general, participants stressed that the lack of caring attitude by daughters-in-law was a major problem. (India)"

MEDIA WARNS

For your reference: Various TV Programmes aired by various reputed TV channels are available at http://www.498a.org/video.htm

(Pls refer: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/msid-1539997,curpg-1.cms)

it mentions: Marital disputes are fast becoming a popular way to rake in the moolah and legally at that. Legal eagles in the city claim that the abla nari now is the one laughing all the way to the bank.

Confirming the trend, lawyers at family courts say they are seeing a rise in cases where economically independent women are exploring ways to make the most of their failed marriages.

Says Ranjana Dixit, advocate and president of the American Library Bar Association (Family Courts), "A large number of cases coming to us are of women seeking maintenance despite not being entitled to the same.

The law clearly states that if a woman is economically independent, she cannot demand financial help from her husband. But that does not deter women from making quick money through marital disputes.

With marriage laws titled in the women's favour, it's not difficult either. An added advantage is the ignorance of the husband and his family about their own rights."...

(Pls Refer: http://www.dailyexcelsior.com/web1/03june06/national.htm#2)

Is says: The participants, while decrying the demand or acceptance of dowry, pointed out recent instances where sections 498A, 406 and 304B of the Indian Penal Code were abused by the brides’ relatives to harass the entire family of the groom.

Once a complaint is lodged under section 498A/406 IPC, whether with vague, unspecific or exaggerated allegations, it becomes an easy tool for harassment of the other party. "Make section 498A bailable", read a placard while another said: "Rishton ko Tootne Se Bachao, Dahej Kanoon Mein Badlav Lao (save relationships from breaking, change dowry laws)."

(Pls Refer: http://www.india-today.com/itoday/18051998/law.html)

It mentions: A growing number of women are misusing anti-dowry provisions to harass their husbands.

The law has rebounded in a way never anticipated by legislators. Says K.C. Jain, an advocate who's dealt with over 300 matrimonial cases: "It's supposed to protect women, but nowadays, the law is being used against the husband and his family."

Women's organisations feel that a woman resorts to 498A only when she finds all avenues of justice closed. "Sometimes," says Padma Seth, adviser to the National Commission for Women, "a woman is left with no other way to make her appeal heard." By law, Priya is entitled to half her husband's estate. It's a claim that could take a couple of decades to settle in the normal course. Whisper "dowry harassment" and things move fast: arrests are made, summons are sent by the police and reputations torn apart. If the complaint is dismissed, the woman is back to square one. She has nothing to lose. Often, lawyers egg on their clients to use this section to get a better settlement; fix errant husbands; send taunting mothers-in-law scurrying for cover; get leverage for the custody of children; demand property rights. "You have to bolster laws relating to women to avoid this," says Geeta Luthra, another advocate.

Advocate Kamini Jaiswal warns that with cases such as these surfacing, the patience of the judges is running out, and it is the genuine victims who will suffer eventually. But then, adultery laws too are discriminatory. Adultery is punishable by imprisonment but only when the husband files a complaint. The wife has no corresponding right -- not surprising, since most laws on matrimonial matters were framed in the 19th century and no one has bothered to update them. Maintenance is another matter that has women activists grinding their teeth. Under Section 125 of the CRPC, a Hindu woman is entitled to a maximum of Rs 500 a month. Custody of children often goes to the father. The concept of marital rape is non-existent and often even reports of domestic violence, which come under the general provisions of the IPC, are not taken seriously. Says Nivedita M.V. Monga, project officer with the Multiple Action Research Group: "Even the police tend to say, 'Yeh to ghar ki baat hai (This is a family matter)'."

(Pls refer: http://crm.ncmonline.com/news/view_article.html?article_id=99efd9853a5a5168e4dadb8b633bf1a7)

It mentions: It is a simple procedure to file a 498A complaint, and the police must follow up on the complaint, notes Peco Chakravatru, an NRI online columnist, “Filing a 498A is as easy as ordering an idli sambar. Actually, it is easier — the proprietor could refuse to give you an idli sambar but the police cannot refuse.”

Abuse of anti-dowry laws has become serious enough that the United States Department of State has published the following travel warning on its Web site, http://travel.state.gov, about “Dowry/Visa Demands” for travelers to India:

(Pls refer: http://www.indiaenews.com/india/20060319/1059.htm)

It mentions: According to K.C. Dwivedi, deputy commissioner of police of the Crime Against Women Cell, some married couples hatch a plan to harass and threaten the husband's parents in order to get a share of the wealth and also to force the elderly parents to live separately.

Kiran Walia, chairperson of the Delhi Commission of Women, a government body, said: 'It is shameful and disgraceful that children are using the anti-dowry law against their own parents.'

Sachit Dalal of the Save Indian Family Foundation, an NGO, said there were many cases of the anti-dowry law being misused by people. 'These cases are just some more examples.'

(Pls refer: http://www.mynation.net/mynews/ )

The list of the news and articles lists are endless.

A couple of such links are also available at www.498a.org/news

SUICIDE RATES ARE HIGH AMONG MEN

The news magazine ‘Frontline express’ published Suicide Statistics.

(Pls Ref: http://www.498a.org/contents/general/frontline_suicide.pdf)

Whenever women organist ions and Indian society talking about suicide by women, they HIDE the suicide rate of men. SUICIDE RATE OF MEN IS QUITE HIGH AS COMPARED TO WOMEN, Then how come EVERY WOMEN SUICIDE IS ASSUMED AS “DOWRY DEATH” and all the family members are arrested WITHOUT ANY INVESTIGATION and EVERY MEN SUICIDE IS NOT EVEN PROSECUTED. Why don’t we arrest the in-laws of husband if they harass the husband?

US GOVT WARNS

1. Whenever we talk about NRI marriage fraud, why DON’T WE TALK ABOUT Dowry law misuse? Even the US govt. realized the problem of Dowry law misuse in India and they have also displayed a travel warning on their website, then why don’t we Indians accept it. (for details pls read: http://travel.state.gov/travel/cis_pa_tw/cis/cis_1139.html)

It mentions: A number of U.S.-citizen men who have come to India to marry Indian nationals have been arrested and charged with crimes related to dowry extraction. Many of the charges stem from the U.S. citizen's inability to provide an immigrant visa for his prospective spouse to travel immediately to the United States. The courts sometimes order the U.S. citizen to pay large sums of money to his spouse in exchange for the dismissal of charges. The courts normally confiscate the American’s passport, and he must remain in India until the case has been settled. There are also cases of U.S.-citizen women of Indian descent whose families force them against their will into marriages to Indian nationals.

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5 Some of the top police officers of india

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DV Act - Diwali gift

--For a feminists person --

you mean this dv/dp/498a act in its form is good for the country, unless you are thinking of your children or you are married and aged..

My mother never; uprightly throw it away. Reasons ==>

In Western nations, women are not supported by husband or anyone. It goes by give and take policy in marriage. In 2005 as per USA census it is said Marriage is getting extinct in USA.

do you think any man on the land of india will accept someone he is feeding can control him meaninglessly? by criminal terror fear. Marriage will 100% destroy in a year or 10 yrs, But certainly it will. I guess, outsiders of india is involved for this.

Those women, who are not thinking and running fastly behind feminist organisations are not thinking in a dimension calmly whether it really helps preserve our culture and soul.

These laws will be used sprucely by manipulative women largely. If any sita using it, her mind will be slowly spoiled by other bad women to misuse it and "umbrella of control" starts in her family. Marriage closes shortly.

How can a love/trust/attachment relationship runs with police, using economic/emotional abuse?

In otherwords, we are getting pulled by western nations for their form of life style. no one is thinking about this.

un married women age grows and they will be more burdened like western women to manage herself or her father less(if) family. No man will come forward to marry her or to live with her in fear of 498a or DV act. what will be the fate of the country?

If you see urban women look healthy and ready for beauty contest, but even higher position men or a bureacrat look dry face, peechy personality or dull/pale structure. Am I wrong in not making this research properly? though we call india, male-dominated, it is never. These men are attached and running their families blindly with no expectation. Such highly position kinda men never take care of their women such way in any part of western life. This happens only in India. Now these men start thinking seriously. These men learn theri sons to stay away from urban women for marriages.

Laws when designed in bias to women should have been designed bias towards education and literacy as well. Govt must had designed DVact or
498a differently for educated women after intermediate atleast, so that misuse gets stopped and country would have flourished infrastructurally. Urban educated ill-women is as cruel as a urban educated ill-men. dont you agree? In that case, how do you agree to keep such laws in the hands of such women? dont you think such women crime increases in society and go unnoticed as there is no law for bad married women to get arrested.

I came to know about this after looking life in the west for several years. Western nations are male dominated but not India.

Infrastructure of India will further deteriorate because all significant thinkers loose balance of their mind to perfectly. 5% intellectuals responsible for 70% infrastructure setup of the country, anyone thought about this. and this 5% disturbed for 5 to 20 yrs due to 498a or dv act!! what happens? present fate of situation.

Because of blackmail, by-controll, implicit marital conflicts and years together fight inside courts JUST for finance distribution among couple. Bureacrats and intellectuals mind this way gets ruptured and can't contribute well or time for the infrastructure better for the country. Intellectuals continue to leave the country.

This is what you wanted DV or 498a in current form. if any innocent women is learnt about such laws, and one bad individual is enough to change their minds to control their husbands. That starts destruction of marriage and take a lot of time and resources of individuals.

Today india infrastrcutre is affected, I believe, strong reason is 498a. Many officials participate in corruption as they became imbalanced, selfish not thinking properly for the development of the country, just because their minds are affected for 5 to 15 yrs period in controlled, blackmailed marriage. you can't imagine what happens to brain or physiology of human when stressed for years together. That outcome is the present physic structure of men in India.

In future, just like in the west, women be it mother, sister will be fed by only brothers or fathers only. Concept of husband will die. If they get husbands, they get poor husbands, who are economically not well otherwise not. Just western life pervades all walks of life in India. Marriage will not happen (bcoz, boys parents learn boys not to, I learn my son to..i need his physical health and mental helath rather marriage life).

Many intellecutals(>80% 498a cases) masters, phds, engineers, doctors are around courts for 5 yrs to 8 yrs to just become innocent(misuse) after trials. Is this the way country using intellectual resources/proeprty for the country? is this what we wanted India to be?

There is chance for India only when dedicated, sacrifice women role is required. India doesn't afford feminism. It affords active role of BEST women for the development of the nation. Women who are in wonderful marriage and at the same time helping hands for the country flourish and not feminists.

Do you think, a man who simply becomes a pet dog with economic/emotional violence usage by a urban controlling any women. I dont think so. Marriage will 100% break. BUT if the man is intelligent enough to become a beggar, what happens to the fate of that women in the current indian critcal/difficult economy, has any
one thought about it. She will be forced to enter into mal-profession for survival. Bad elements use her more and more. Is this feminism?

Such cases grow exponentially from year after year. Men stop marrying if not now, after 5 yrs. parents will no longer marry their boys. they learn them how to stay away and take care of themselves.

I end up saying only one thing before western feminism takes its troll completely -

Good women ROLE is must for Indias growth and to preserve marriage value system and spiritual india. Pls. think calmly for a day or 2 and read western life and indian life difference, where it comes. I want my daughter to be part of this marriage system and not living outside marriage with multiple parterns in the name of liberation.

Once majority of Indian men are learnt not to provide/protect/feed his wife for no reciprocation/expectation from herside, that is westernization.

I agree women are suffering, but we need social engineers to design laws for complex sensitive structural society and not by men hatred persons.



regds
Santha
Phd - social dynamics
www.saveindianfamily.org

www.498a.org

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Business of Marriage

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6 Dowry Law Misuse Forum ( www.498a.org)

5 Some of the top police officers of india

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8 Purushakk

9 Protect Indian Family

10 National Commission of Women (NCW) and related organisations and NGO's.

11 Various activists who are opposing the MISUSE of LAWS by women.

Business of Marriage

Gone are the days when marriage ceremonies were filled with joyous sentiments and a warm welcome to a whole new life of learning, happiness, understanding and salvation. Parents were rejoicing to see their son/daughter getting married and starting a new journey of life, a journey where they will get to experience ups and downs, and more importantly, they will one day become parents. Son/daughter will be taught to tackle daily family problems with understanding and adjustment.

Now, in the 21st century, the desire for detached freedom has become so acute and pierce that people began to find the traditional way of living a married life as ridiculous and oppressive. Now marriage is all about flashy decoration, swanking outfits, pricy jewelry and flamboyant ceremonies. The marriage expenses quite obviously sky-rockets. Both the parties are competing for the fame of getting their son/daughter married in the most lavish way. Elaborate entertaining jests are organized to keep the guest spellbound by the immensity of the marriage. But the intoxication of celebrating the marriage ceremony doesn't even last for a week. Married couple will return back to their mundane life and will occasionally visit the moments of marriage watching the videos/photo albums.

Only when the man realizes that now he can start saving money for the education of his children, his wife will pull out her much deliberated lists of demands. She will demand her in-laws to live separately. She will demand equal rights in the in-law's ancestral property. She will demand the transfer of title of the house to her name. The husband, being gullible and God-fearing will not see any harm in approving most of her demands. He would, however, respectfully explain to her that he cannot ask his parents to live elsewhere. She will complain to her parents of being harassed by him and he will soon be reprimanded for treated her like this. He submissively tries to mitigate the situation by apologizing. After all, if the marriage breaks apart, the society will accuse him only irrespective of whose fault it is.

After regular blackmailing, she will complain to the police of dowry harassment and domestic violence. The police, like scavengers, will immediately arrest him and his parents. The cops are also helpful to them explaining the unofficial mechanism if they want to escape imprisonment. They will be asked to cough up mind-blowing monetary compensation as demanded by the accuser. Who would want to get entangled in our notorious legal system especially one who is accused by a woman? They reluctantly give away huge chunk of their ancestral property to the woman to settle the case. The woman is happy to earn so much money that it is only a dream of people to earn it in such a short span of time. She walks away with fortune and a tag of being a victim of domestic violence, and the husband walks away bankrupt and a tag of being a culprit who wrongly got acquitted.

It is all about money. As soon as the husband tries to re-collect his composure, he then gets slapped by the court orders commanding him to provide maintenance to his wife. Now he is slogging day and night to earn to make ends meet and a portion of his earning is going into the hands of a woman who legally destroyed him. The woman is thankful to such laws in place and also flaunts her assertiveness to her friends and relatives for fighting for her so-called rights.

Woman's rights are all about a man's liability. More and more women are happy to increase men's liability calling it as their rights. Women have proved that women's liberation is all about strangulating men's rights. What started off as a beginning of a new life of happiness for the husband, abruptly ends by becoming bankrupt, defamed, and humiliated. And for the woman, it has always been about money before marriage, after marriage and after divorce. There is no stigma on the woman for filing a false harassment case on her husband and in-laws and blackmailing them for money. What is more disturbing is that people continue to believe that women are always the victims. And to make sure that women continue to make a business out of the marriage, women groups work hard to propose women protective laws, gender sensitivity, legal leniency toward women, uplifting women's status and defaming men as born oppressors.

In the business of marriage, men are not more than money-making machines and women are no less than legal extortionists.

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Sachit Dalal
My favourite websites :
http://www.saveindianfamily.org;
www.mynation.net
Read latest News at www.mynation.net/mynews

Disclaimer : These are my personal views. Your views could be different. I do not hold myself liable for any consequences, legal or otherwise, arising out of use of any such information.

Please Note : This mail message is being sent to or will be sent to

1. Hon'le Prime Minister of India.

2. Hon'le President Of India.

3. Hob'le Ministers and Members of parliament

4. Self help groups like Save Indian Family (http://www.saveindianfamily.org/), Save Indian Society ( http://www.mynation.net/), Misuse of 498a (http://www.498a.org/)

5. Some of the police officers of india

6. News agencies and media agencies

7. NGO's like Asha Kiran, Purushakk, Protect Indian Society, NCW etc.

8. Various activists who are opposing the MISUSE of LAWS by women.

http://presentindia.blogspot.com/2006/10/marriage-crucified.html

Marriage Crucified

Finally, women of India have successfully crucified the sacred institution of marriage. First, the proliferation of misuse of IPC 498A (anti-dowry law), which has created much apprehension in the hearts of many families who are under constant threat of being falsely implicated under IPC 498A. When that was not enough to satisfy the modern sadist (women), they have now introduced Domestic Violence Bill in order to loot the husband and his family legally.

More than 60,000 cases are filed each year, 800,000 families are badly affected and more than 90% of the cases are false. Shocking!!! The more shocking is to know that women organizations and the Government are aware of these figures but are not willing to protect the husband and his family from being victimized in the hands of their unscrupulous wife/daughter-in-law. Media, too, shamelessly is not willing to accept the blame for not raising this serious issue in the public. It is very clear that the women organizations have deliberately instigated such a plot to harass innocent families and the Government is helping them to ruin marriages.

It is important to note that those innocent people who have been falsely implicated didn't commit any crime, but they had to pay a very large sum of money to their sleazy wife to settle the case. This situation is even worse than dowry. To top it all, Domestic Violence Bill gives ridiculous rights to women to loot their husband and in-laws legally. Women call this as gender equality. Some women are bold enough to blurt it out that now its men's turn to suffer in pain. This clearly shows that sadistic approach in attaining gender equality. Unfortunately, with people's ignorance and lack of empowerment, they are simply living their helpless life under constant threat, thanks to bias media.

Anybody with reasonable maturity can figure out from these developments that women are not interested in gender equality; they are aiming for a World where men live like pet dogs to them who are stinking rich. Men will be legally obligated to live like pet dogs to women, earn lots of money and give it away to his wife, satisfy her sexual needs as and when, and finally to cheerfully dance on her tunes like a monkey.

However, in order to create the balance of power between the two genders, men are now beginning to realize that women can't be judged from their beauty. Men are becoming conscientious to an extent that they find it highly unreasonable to follow the age-old tradition of respecting, protecting and providing for women. They are now beginning to accept women as just another person in the society who can potentially hurt them. Now men will not fall for a beautiful and curvaceous woman having greed, jealousy and hatred in her heart. And there are plentiful of such women out there. This positive change will definitely shake the foundation of radical feminism. Needless to say, media will remain shameless and continue to protect the deception of women empowerment.

Women had dug up a grave for men but it seems women are going to fall into it and men are going to have loads of laugh.

Please Note : This mail message is being sent to or will be sent to

1. Hon'le Prime Minister of India.

2. Hon'le President Of India.

3. Hob'le Ministers and Members of parliament

4. Self help groups like Save Indian Family (http://www.saveindianfamily.org/), Save Indian Society ( http://www.mynation.net/), Misuse of 498a (http://www.498a.org/)

5. Some of the police officers of india

6. News agencies and media agencies

7. NGO's like Asha Kiran, Purushakk, Protect Indian Society, NCW etc.

8. Various activists who are opposing the MISUSE of LAWS by women.

http://presentindia.blogspot.com/2006/10/marriage-crucified.html

Marriage Crucified

Finally, women of India have successfully crucified the sacred institution of marriage. First, the proliferation of misuse of IPC 498A (anti-dowry law), which has created much apprehension in the hearts of many families who are under constant threat of being falsely implicated under IPC 498A. When that was not enough to satisfy the modern sadist (women), they have now introduced Domestic Violence Bill in order to loot the husband and his family legally.

More than 60,000 cases are filed each year, 800,000 families are badly affected and more than 90% of the cases are false. Shocking!!! The more shocking is to know that women organizations and the Government are aware of these figures but are not willing to protect the husband and his family from being victimized in the hands of their unscrupulous wife/daughter-in-law. Media, too, shamelessly is not willing to accept the blame for not raising this serious issue in the public. It is very clear that the women organizations have deliberately instigated such a plot to harass innocent families and the Government is helping them to ruin marriages.

It is important to note that those innocent people who have been falsely implicated didn't commit any crime, but they had to pay a very large sum of money to their sleazy wife to settle the case. This situation is even worse than dowry. To top it all, Domestic Violence Bill gives ridiculous rights to women to loot their husband and in-laws legally. Women call this as gender equality. Some women are bold enough to blurt it out that now its men's turn to suffer in pain. This clearly shows that sadistic approach in attaining gender equality. Unfortunately, with people's ignorance and lack of empowerment, they are simply living their helpless life under constant threat, thanks to bias media.

Anybody with reasonable maturity can figure out from these developments that women are not interested in gender equality; they are aiming for a World where men live like pet dogs to them who are stinking rich. Men will be legally obligated to live like pet dogs to women, earn lots of money and give it away to his wife, satisfy her sexual needs as and when, and finally to cheerfully dance on her tunes like a monkey.

However, in order to create the balance of power between the two genders, men are now beginning to realize that women can't be judged from their beauty. Men are becoming conscientious to an extent that they find it highly unreasonable to follow the age-old tradition of respecting, protecting and providing for women. They are now beginning to accept women as just another person in the society who can potentially hurt them. Now men will not fall for a beautiful and curvaceous woman having greed, jealousy and hatred in her heart. And there are plentiful of such women out there. This positive change will definitely shake the foundation of radical feminism. Needless to say, media will remain shameless and continue to protect the deception of women empowerment.

Women had dug up a grave for men but it seems women are going to fall into it and men are going to have loads of laugh.

--
Sachit Dalal
My favourite websites :
www.saveindianfamily.org ;
www.mynation.net
Read latest News at www.mynation.net/mynews

Disclaimer : These are my personal views. Your views could be different. I do not hold myself liable for any consequences, legal or otherwise, arising out of use of any such information.