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Sunday, November 12, 2006

98 % MISUSE of DOWRY LAW IS OKAY !!! - Ms. Renuka Chaudhary

98 % MISUSE of DOWRY LAW IS OKAY !!! – Renuka Chaudhary

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I'll empower women: Chowdhury

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Posted Sunday , November 12, 2006 at 20:39
Updated Sunday , November 12, 2006 at 21:24 Email Print
RENUKA SPEAKS: Renuka Chowdhury says Domestic Violence Bill will empower women.
Karan Thapar: Hello and welcome to Devil’s Advocate. Will the UPA Government’s Domestic Violence Bill convert innocent husbands into offenders and criminals, and worse, will it empower motivated women to act viciously and get away with it? Those are the two key issues I should raise in an exclusive interview with the Minister for Women and Child Development, Renuka Chowdhury.
Ms Chowdhury, let’s start with the definitions under this Act, which are so wide that they are worrying. To begin with, there is the whole question of what the Act means by domestic violence - it covers verbal abuse, emotional abuse, economic abuse and anything that tends towards them. I put it to you, that’s so wide as to be either meaningless or dangerously self-embracing.
Renuka Chowdhury: I don’t know why you have to see it in two extremes. Why have you not ever noticed that women live in dangerously self-embracing situations? That it’s none of this, even if you see it as porosity in the Act or that the ambit is too wide. Please understand that women are burnt to death, beaten to insensibilities.
Karan Thapar:But the cure is not imprecision, the cure is not vagueness of legislation.
Renuka Chowdhury:Absolutely.
Karan Thapar:Let me explain why this Act is imprecise. For instance, emotional and verbal abuses are defined to include insults and ridicule. That means you can’t be sarcastic to your wife, it means you can’t call you brother-in-law an ass or a mother-in-law a nag even if both are those are correct. Surely, that’s a level of silliness, but it’s a part of your Bill.
Renuka Chowdhury: I want to tell you what you deem as silly is really not something that I have created today. Under the IPC section, speaking in a way that is denigrating to the status of women, which removes her from her dignity, is very much an Act under the IPC. So I don’t see what are you getting heated up about today.
Karan Thapar:But you are here interfering in normal conversation between two adults. As Soli Sorabjee writing in The Indian Express pointed out, you are reducing an important and serious issue to the level of silliness.
Renuka Chowdhury: I don’t think anything that happens to a women in the sense of her domestic violence can be termed as silly. It is over-trivialising and over-simplifying this Act. Please understand that despite all the checks, women are burnt, one in six women is raped, murdered, beaten to death, sent in to mental asylums. I don’t think that’s funny.
Karan Thapar: No doubt. But that’s not what your Act concentrates on. Look, for instance, at economic abuse. It is defined by the Act as deprivation of any economic or financial resource, which the aggrieved is entitled to by custom and it includes disposal of household effects. Under that language, if a husband was to sell the family television at a time when his marriage was going through a bad patch, it should be deemed to be domestic violence. Now, that’s ridiculous, but it is very much a part of the Act.
Renuka Chowdhury:Is it anymore ridiculous than the fact that well-to-do men suddenly turn around and claim that they have no money, that they are bankrupt because they have to pay alimony to a woman - where human dignity is involved.
Karan Thapar:But what your Act has done is to take trivial issues - that could happen quite innocently, inadvertently and turn them into offences and crimes.
Renuka Chowdhury: I don’t agree with you. We are saying, we are facilitating and setting up a legal framework where by we expect to…
Karan Thapar:A very bad legal framework, insufficient legal framework and an imprecise one.
Renuka Chowdhury: Please listen to me. Can I be allowed to talk or otherwise this is deemed as domestic violence, this is professional violence.
Karan Thapar: That’s the danger; you are proving my point.
Renuka Chowdhury:Absolutely.
Karan Thapar:A mere interruption becomes domestic violence.
Renuka Chowdhury:Interruption? This is an overrun! It is an interpretation of what is an interruption and verbal overrun.
Karan Thapar:Don’t you think you are proving my point?
Renuka Chowdhury: You may think so, but let’s wait for what others think. But I want to tell you what I think. I think that if there is harmony within the house, there is nothing for anyone to fear. But if there is complete disharmony, where one partner is completely incapacitated, made to be dependent on another partner and they are harassed… you have no idea what harmony means.
Karan Thapar: That’s a biased statement which you are elevating into a principle of false philosophy. The reason that in fact it isn’t true is very simple: look at the range of people covered by your Act. It talks about aggrieved persons, and aggrieved persons are defined as any woman who is or has been in a domestic relationship. Then it defines domestic relationship as the relationship between two persons who live or have at any point of time lived together in a shared household.
Put them together and your Act covers not just wives, but wives who have been divorced, girlfriends who you have separated perhaps as long as a decade ago. Why are those included in the ambit of this Act?
Renuka Chowdhury: Why? Because, women even in those relationships have been harassed and held to ransom. There have been enough divorced women who have been divorced because of various reasons, and money is not returned.
Karan Thapar:Divorced women have a decree that is given by a court; an alimony that is given by a court; the divorce has been adjudicated; it is legal. There is no need for you to interfere.
Renuka Chowdhury: Fair enough. Let us assume there is no need for us to interfere.
Karan Thapar:Don’t assume, it’s a fact.
Renuka Chowdhury: Ok, if it’s a fact. But please tell me do you think a woman is given a divorce easily where a man doesn’t want (to give divorce). Go to the court and have a look.
Karan Thapar: When a divorce is given and granted by a court, there is no need to go further back in the picture. But you do.
Renuka Chowdhury: I tell you why we do it. If a man violates his custodial rights; if a man violates his restraint order; if after a divorce a husband keeps stalking me or harassing me; if a man turns up and smashes my windows - don’t you think that keeps happening, Mr Karan Thapar?
Karan Thapar:It may happen. But that’s not what your Act concentrates upon. Clause 3-C doesn’t just limit the ambit of the Act to former girlfriends you have separated from or former wives, it even talks about any person related to the aggrieved person. This means it’s not just the former girlfriend, arguably it’s her step-brother as well - this is becoming ridiculous at this stage. It means - let me interpret this for you - that a husband cannot threaten to verbally abuse. Note the words: just threaten to verbally abuse the step-brother of a former girlfriend who he parted with 10 years ago. That ambit is taking a major concern to a ridiculous extent.
Renuka Chowdhury:Oh my God! I tell you, you are looking at such extremely ridiculous situations.
Karan Thapar:It’s part of your Bill.
Renuka Chowdhury: You should be writing for a television series.
Karan Thapar:I am afraid your Bill seems to cater for it. That’s the problem.
Renuka Chowdhury: Ok, if that’s how you interpret it. But a man would, I am not surprised.
Karan Thapar:It is not a question of a man would. The reason I am pointing out the ridiculous extremes is that laws are always judged by the extremes, not by the middle position.
And what your law does - because of the wide ambit of the definition of domestic violence and because of the long range of people it covers - it tends to convert innocent husbands into offenders and criminals, and worse, it gives the power to motivated women who want to be vicious, or forgive me bloody-minded, to get away with such behaviour. That’s why it is potentially dangerous.
Renuka Chowdhury:Karan Thapar, you have to understand that this Bill addresses a family as a unit within a prescribed legal framework. If the ‘innocent husband’ as you call him is ‘innocent’ and his behaviour and attitude to his partner in life is of mutual respect and concern, there is no anxiety for men to suddenly feel victimised and victims of the whole thing.
Karan Thapar: But the point is how do you define the offence you hold him guilty of? Sarcasm becomes an offence; calling your brother-in-law an ass becomes an offence.
Renuka Chowdhury:No, calling him an ass doesn’t… that’s your personal equation. If your brother-in-law and you are not happy with each other, you are going to look at excuses. But if there is basic harmony and you call a friend or brother-in-law an ass, he is not going to take you to court, let me tell you.
Karan Thapar: Let me point it out to you why this is such a dangerous Act. Critics are pointing out that this Act is going to go the way of the anti-dowry law; it’s going to be deliberately misused.
Let me point out what the Supreme Court said in July 2005 about the anti-dowry law. It said many instances have come to light where the complaints are not bona fide and have been filed with an oblique motive. In such cases, acquittal of the accused does not wipe out the ignominy suffered during and prior to the trial. Sometimes adverse media coverage adds to the misery. Your act is going to go exactly the same way as the anti-dowry law.
Renuka Chowdhury:I want to tell you, when we bring out an Act, we help set a direction for a certain socially-accepted behaviour. Those are the broader parameters. Because of a minute percentage of people who misappropriate the Act, are you saying that I should not bring an Act, I should be in denial that women are not domestically harassed, that they are not kicked, removed from their home, denied access to their children, to their own earnings, and that they have no recourse to law?
Karan Thapar: Let me answer your question. You talk of a minute percentage of people?
Renuka Chowdhury:Yes.
Karan Thapar: The Centre for Social Research with regard to the anti-dowry law did a study after the Supreme Court judgment came out in August of 2005 and it concluded that of every 100 cases brought under the anti-dowry law, 98 per cent were false. Only two were correct. It’s not a minute percentage; the level of abuse that this could incur is phenomenally high.
Renuka Chowdhury:It’s okay.
Karan Thapar: It’s okay? It’s acceptable?
Renuka Chowdhury:It’s not acceptable, don’t put words into my mouth. No, I am very clear about it. Kindly listen - the law is not a static issue. Law reflects the need for a society to be given direction. We have put in broad parameters and we will see in which this direction this law goes. But even if this statistics are telling you that 98 per cent of the cases reported are violated and are wrong, please tell me the statistics of how many women are killed everyday, forced into abortions, raped against their will, denied access to society and property. Tell me those statistics and we will talk about it.
Karan Thapar: There is no doubt that women in India need protection. There is no doubt that domestic violence is one of the worst features of our society. The problem is you are protecting women at cost of exposing men to gross injustice. That’s why this Bill is wrong. You are creating one right against another wrong.
Renuka Chowdhury:Karan Thapar, why didn’t you do two rights in your shows earlier for those women who have no access to any justice in this country despite the establishment of laws? Are there no laws on Sati?
Karan Thapar: But you don’t have to give them access to justice at the cost of men being treated badly. That’s what you are doing. You are exposing men to injustice, harassment.
Renuka Chowdhury:We are not, we are not.
Karan Thapar: You keep talking about direction. You keep talking about importance of setting a direction for society. Clause 17 of the Act gives divorced women and former separated girlfriends - and I use that language very carefully: divorced women and former separated girlfriends - the right to claim residence in the home of their former husband or their former partner even though the Act says they may not have any right, title or beneficial interest in the same. What’s the justification for that?
Renuka Chowdhury:Because the woman is removed from her house. She is threatened, coerced and you have an ex-parte divorce, which has been granted…
Karan Thapar: A divorced woman has a decree, and I cite, granted by a court. She has an alimony granted by a court. A divorce can only happen when a court grants it.
Renuka Chowdhury:No, no certainly not. I cannot accept that every divorce case has been examined in its…
Karan Thapar: A divorced woman has an annulment, a divorced woman has an alimony given by a court - surely the merit (of the case) has been taken into account.
Renuka Chowdhury:No, no, not necessarily. Not necessarily on the merits of the case, not at all.
Karan Thapar: Are you saying the judges are wrong?
Renuka Chowdhury:Maybe.
Karan Thapar: Are you stepping in to correct what judges have done?
Renuka Chowdhury:I am not correcting judges. I am empowering my women to have the right to access the dignity to their life, if they have been denied justice on other foras, if they have been given ex-parte divorce. In the absence of this, they have had no money to go and appeal in a court and they are denied their right, and if the husband suddenly declares he is bankrupt and has not given an alimony.
Karan Thapar: You see my point. You have just qualified the problem by adding six different ifs. Your law, however, doesn’t add any of those ifs. Clause 17 begins with the phrase notwithstanding any other law in operation anywhere else in the country. Despite that divorced women and former girlfriends have a right of claim in the residence of their former partner or former husband. So, none of your ifs qualify, if you had put the ifs into the law I would understand.
Renuka Chowdhury: All right, so?
Karan Thapar: You need to amend it to actually incorporate your position.
Renuka Chowdhury: All right. We will see if the need arises, we will do it. First, let it come into being.
Karan Thapar: It has, on the 26th of October.
Renuka Chowdhury: And rather well, so far we haven’t had any complaints about the misuse of the law.
Karan Thapar: So now you accept, with limited reference to Clause 17, there is need for amendment?
Renuka Chowdhury: There is always need for corrections and amendments in any law as we progress as a society develops and the needs arise. But for one hypothetically - before I reach the bridge and cross it - if you want me to make amendments, I won’t.
Karan Thapar: In other words, let men suffer first, then I will correct the wrong I have done.
Renuka Chowdhury: It is not such a bad idea, except that I have such pity for men.
Karan Thapar: Ms Chowdhury, the great danger of the Domestic Violence Act, which came into force on October 26, is that in the hands of a bad judge and a good prosecuting attorney, it can be used to harass innocent men, to entrap innocent husbands and deny them justice. That’s the danger of the imprecision of the loose wording and the huge ambit of so-called offences included here.
Renuka Chowdhury: All right.
Karan Thapar: You accept?
Renuka Chowdhury: They may be.
Karan Thapar: What do you mean may be?
Renuka Chowdhury: If you are saying so, you are so convinced of it. You won’t even listen to what I have to say.
Karan Thapar: I have been listening to you. You seem to agree with me.
Renuka Chowdhury: I don’t have an agreeable concept of what is listening.
Karan Thapar: But tell me something. If this Act in the hands of a bad judge or a clever prosecuting attorney can inflict injustice on innocent men, does it not need amendment?
Renuka Chowdhury: Mr Karan Thapar, every law in this country is in the hands of a bad judge and a clever prosecutor. It is nothing new or unique, the situation. Hence, when we have bad judges - your words - and clever prosecutors - your words - where do the women of this country take recourse to regarding the situation they live in?
Karan Thapar: But do they need a bad law? That’s the problem. You are adding to the situation of bad judges by giving them a bad law.
Renuka Chowdhury: You are only telling me it’s a bad law for men. It’s not a bad law for women.
Karan Thapar: But that’s only 50% of the Indian population?
Renuka Chowdhury: Yes. But my tragedy is I have women who are no longer even 50 per cent of the population.
Karan Thapar: You really believe you cannot do justice to women without doing injustice to men?
Renuka Chowdhury: I don’t want to do injustice to men.
Karan Thapar: You have just done it.
Renuka Chowdhury: If you see it that way. Isn’t it injustice against women that we have rape laws in place and dowry laws in place and they have never been adhered to, that women are killed every minute?
Karan Thapar: If 98 per cent of the cases brought under the dowry laws, as I told you, turn out to be false - according to statistics given by the Centre for Social Justice - if the Supreme Court itself has opined on the subject roughly at the same time last year, I am sure you don’t need to add to the bad laws by creating more.
Renuka Chowdhury: It’s the courts which have been proactive. The High Court just recently ruled here, saying that for seven years after a woman is married, the family will be held accountable for her death. Why would a court state that extreme order? Do you think that is a fine law? You agree with the opinion of the court?
Karan Thapar: Absolutely. I do. But I am not talking about murder, I am talking about offences that are just limited to sarcasm. I am talking about sarcasm to the step-brother of a former girlfriend covered by this law. That’s why it’s a bad law.
Renuka Chowdhury: Step-brother of a former girlfriend depends on a one-to-one basis. You don’t have to be a relative of a woman for sarcasm. As a citizen if you misbehave with another citizen, under the IPC you can be held up. There is very little that is new in this law.
Karan Thapar: Let me point to you why this is, in fact, a dangerous law that can be misused in the hands of bad judges or clever prosecuting attorney. Clause 4(1) says any person who has reason to believe that an Act of domestic violence has been or is being or is likely to be committed, can inform the authorities with no liability if he or she is wrong. Secondly, at that point of time, a magistrate can impose a protection order that can severely restrain the rights of the accused. You are creating a devilish situation entirely on the basis of mischief-makers and title-tattlers snooping around.
Renuka Chowdhury: Maybe. Maybe initially you will have the title-tattlers, you will have everything. But I also like to believe that maybe you will save so may lives where we know that in-laws are planning to kill them or force her into a Sati death or go for PNDT Act.
Karan Thapar: You may also end up trapping innocent in-laws, because of paramours and other malignant people.
Renuka Chowdhury: “Innocent in-laws” have nothing to worry about. Innocent in-laws live in harmony with their daughters-in-law. There should not be problem.
Karan Thapar: The problem is that mischief-makers create trouble where there is disharmony. And Clause 4(1) permits them.
Renuka Chowdhury: Mischief-makers do create trouble everywhere. It’s mischief-makers who do tell us that women are opiated and forced to commit Sati. It is mischief-makers who report on Income-Tax laws, if you remember, earlier.
Karan Thapar: But you don’t need a law to tackle Sati.
Renuka Chowdhury: Of course, you need a law to tackle Sati.
Karan Thapar: But it’s already a crime in India. We don’t need a new law.
Renuka Chowdhury: Sure. But what is the success ratio? What are your success stories?
Karan Thapar: Let me point out the problem with Clause 4(1). It permits anyone who is inimical to you - leave aside the enemy of yours - to go and mischievously and maliciously report on things he claims you are doing and get away with it. In fact, it even permits your wife’s paramour to turn up and make mischief against you and to do so with impunity.
Renuka Chowdhury: Yeah, but I will tell you something, Karan. It is irrespective of that - these are preventive checks we are putting. Do you think the law is an ass, they will suddenly come and arrest you?
Karan Thapar: I’m afraid this law is an ass. That’s exactly what I am saying. This law is close to close to being an asinine.
Renuka Chowdhury: That’s your opinion. That may be there. But I want to tell you there are very few sections under this law, which are not existing under the IPC.
Karan Thapar: In which case, you didn’t need it. It’s redundant. So why to bring it about?
Renuka Chowdhury: It’s not redundant. Basically, we are empowering the IPC to do it. Delhi has reported that in the last year, 8,000 marital discord cases were reported to the police and there was little the police could do. How do you answer that?
Karan Thapar: Let me ask you one simple question. From Soli Sorabjee to ordinary Indians, there is great concern about the imprecision and dangerous wording and the dangerous ambit of this law. Are you prepared to listen and amend it?
Renuka Chowdhury: Of course. We are prepared in a democracy to listen and respond to a situation that could be an aberration on the societal fabric.
Karan Thapar: But you are going to wait for a situation to happen and then you are going to respond?
Renuka Chowdhury: That doesn’t deny the right for us to bring about a law like this. It is a unmet need and women across the country have not yet protested.
Karan Thapar: You are saying to me that a bad law is better than no law at all?
Renuka Chowdhury: If you want to say it that way. Any law is better than no law at all.
Karan Thapar: Ms Chowdhury, a pleasure talking to you on Devil’s Advocate.
Renuka Chowdhury: Well, thank you. But be careful.



Sachit Dalal
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Saturday, November 11, 2006

The Domestic Violence Law of India - Letter to the Editor

Dear Editor,

As an Indian Citizen, I am extremely concerned by the Domestic Violence Act. The feminist organizations have been hailing this act and presenting it as empowerment of domestic abuse victims. However, there is no recourse for men who are victimized in their houses. The law lends itself to very easy misuse and is a gross violation of human rights of half the population. The fact is that due to this law, men will be emotionally, mentally and financially abused. As so delicately put by the concerned minister Ms. Renuka Chaudhary - "Its now men's turn to suffer".

It is clear by the actions Ms. Renuka Chaudhary, that her real agenda is to legally cripple and victimize men on behalf of radical feminists. She is vehemently opposed to making the law gender neutral. Her arguments have been the following - "If men are suffering, they should speak up" or "it is predominantly the woman who suffers". What confounds me is that if the law is made gender neutral, it does not take away ANY benefit from the real women victims of domestic abuse AND it provides help to male victims as well. The irony is that the Minister herself readily admits that the law will be misused. So, her solution? "What if this law is misused ? Every law is misused". Bravo !! So, now the Govt. is actually encouraging the misue of the law here ? Some more comments by Renuka Chaudhary - "If men behave, they have nothing to fear". But what if the men behave and the women misbehave ? Today, in urban India, when a woman does not want to be in a marriage, she promptly files a dowry case along with the divorce and legally harrasses and extorts money from the innocent husband and his family after they have been in jail for no crime of theirs. If a woman wants to walk out of a relationship, there is nothing to dissuade her from filing false cases and the lawyers actually encourage that.


There are three fundamental problems with the domestic violence law – a) it is overwhelmingly gender biased in favor of women, b) the potential for misuse is astounding and c) the definition of domestic violence is too expansive. There are degrees of domestic violence and not all conflicts in a relationship can be termed as domestic violence. This law trivializes the issue of domestic violence by including minor differences in its realm and by explicitly denying protection to half of the population.


The law in its current form is grossly inadequate to tackle the problem of domestic violence. It imposes a lot of responsibility on men, without giving them rights. On the other hand, it gives lots of rights to women without requiring them to be responsible. At the very minimum, it should be made gender neutral, offering protection to both men and women. Also, provisions for stringent punishments need to be incorporated into the law to prevent misuse. Moreover, the law needs to be made more practical by differentiating between various degrees of conflicts and by unambiguously defining what constitutes domestic violence.


The fact is domestic violence is a serious problem and a neutral and unprejudiced law is needed to protect the genuine victims of domestic violence, irrespective of gender. The perpetrators of domestic violence need to be appropriately punished and dealt with. At the same time, protection cannot be withheld from real victims for any reason whatsoever, least of all their gender. One can be certain that there is something sinister about a law, when it intimidates and instills fear in innocent people. When a person who has not committed any crime, begins to fear punishment under the provisions of a law, it is not a law anymore – it is state sponsored terrorism.


Nishant Agrawal

California, USA

My blog - savemarriages.wordpress.com

Note to the Editor - Most of the voices heard on this topic are of feminists and of well meaning people who do not understand the law completely and are just taken in by the propaganda of feminists, without even realizing it. Empowering women is a noble goal but empowering women by victimizing men is gross injustice. Please read the law and its implications at presentindia.blogspot.com. I hope that you will publish my concerns in your esteemed newspaper.

PS - I belive this issue is of paramount importance to the health and well being of the society and the country in general. I have seen many of my innocent collegaues from IITs been victimized by the dowry law and it completely destroys the young man, his ambitions and his outlook towards life.

Abt me
I am a proud Indian and have been fortunate enough to be have attended the best educational institutes of India (including stints in IT-BHU, IIT-Bombay and IIM-Ahmedabad). I have worked with the topmost companies in India and abroad (Hindustan Lever Ltd., Microsoft etc.). Lately, I have become an activist for gender equality and justice. Currently, I work for one of the most beloved internet companies in the world and live in California, USA

Friday, November 10, 2006

Ms. Renuka Choudhary�s �Diwali Gift� Gets arrested four women

Dear Sir or Madam:
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1 Honb’le Prime Minister of India.
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5 Save Indian Society (www.mynation.net)
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8 Purushakk
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NGO's.
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Reference:
News Source : THE TIMES OF INDIA
Email of the editor : toionlineeditor@indiatimes.co.in
By definition of the law : DV Act is applicable ONLY AGAINST MEN, BUT
HERE THE FOUR WOMEN TOO ARE ARRESTED !!!!!! - NO DOWRY DEMAND ALLEGED.
I conclude : Clearly proven that this “Domestic Violence Act” is AGAINST WOMEN.
MISUSE OF DV ACT HAS ALREADY STARTED – There is NO (alleged) DOWRY DEMAND, EVEN THEN THE FOUR WOMEN ARE ARRESTED . Just because a lady “ALLEGED HARRASMENT under Domestic Violence Act”, TRUE OR FALSE that will be decided by honb’le court. But before that, these FOUR WOMEN will have to undergo ALL THIS TORTURE (Legal, Mental, Physical, Social, Economical) and best of all these FOUR women are 50, 54, 28 and 18 years old.
PS : Here I wana point out that the lady who is 18 yrs old might be thinking about her marriage etc and the ladies at 50 and 54 are elderly ladies (of the age of my mother).
Secondly : DV Act says (as far as I understand) that police doesn’t have any power to take any action. The DV Act complaint has to be made with the honb’le megistrate, BUT HERE THE POLICE IS DOING WHATEVER THEY FEEL RIGHT !!!!!
I conclude : THIS LAW IS ANTI-WOMEN.– IT’S A FAMILY BREAKER. COZ EVEN before any investigations, THE WHOLE FAMILY GOT ARRESTED !!!!
May I ask you all, If in future, they (all the accused people) are found innocent during the trial in the honb’le court, then WHO IS GOING TO 'COMPENSATE' THIS TORTURE TO THE WHOLE FAMILY (?????)
I conclude : ONE LADY CAN MISUSE THIS LAW TO HARRAS ANOTHER FOUR LADIES – This DV Act is ANTI WOMEN (Example present here).
Who is GOING TO PUNISH THIS LADY (The Complainant) IF SHE IS FOUND TO BE FALSE ?. Is there any provision of PUNISHMENT for her in our Indian Laws?
Please notice the lines in the news item, “Nangre-Patil said it was "pure" case of domestic violence and there was no demand for dowry from the in-laws. Hence the suspects had been booked and arrested under the Domestic Violence Act.”
According to the news item, there is no dowry demand then how come the WHOLE FAMILY (INCLUDING FOUR LADIES) GOT ARRESTED UNDER DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ACT ALONE ?
Full News at
News Text as follows :-

Domestic violence

[ 3 Nov, 2006 0249hrs ISTTIMES NEWS NETWORK ]
PUNE: The Pune rural police has registered Maharashtra's first case
under the newly-enacted Domestic violence (Prevention) Act, 2005, after a
newly-married woman lodged a harassment complaint with the Ghodegaon
police station.
Shraddha Pingale (19), a resident of Narodi village in Ambegaon
taluka, lodged a complaint (crime register number 37/06) on Wednesday,
stating that her husband and in-laws harassed her mentally and physically
while accusing her of having had a pre-marital affair.
She was also harassed on account of her poor health, the complaint
says. Ghodegaon, a flourishing dairy centre, is located some 80 km from
Pune, near Manchar.
Following Shraddha's complaint, her husband Kachhru Vitthal Pingale
(26), mother-in-law Godabai (55), step mother-in-law Sarubai (50),
brother-in-law Vishwas ( 26) and sister -in-law Nisha (18) were arrested and
two relatives, Sadanand alias Sadashiv Sukhdev Thorat (33) and his wife
Vidya (28), booked by the police.
Vishwas Nangre-Patil, superintendent of police, Pune rural, told TOI
that it was the first case in the state registered under the act.
"The act has been used as supplementary to the section of the IPC to
achieve conviction in the case," he said. Nangre-Patil said it was
"pure" case of domestic violence and there was no demand for dowry from the
in-laws. Hence the suspects had been booked and arrested under the
Domestic Violence Act.


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Re: [SaveIndianFamily] A Day in Women Cell !! - 498A, DV Laws creat such stories everyday !!

Raj,
Do not worry , Indian stupid mens have to come in 21st century reality.
Till date i have seen a single men who does not face from thier wive's verbal abuse, mental crulity, economical abuse , but in front of public they want to show thier over confidence.
It is the time to use the techonology to prove you are innocent.
It is the time they have to declear that they are victim in public, if they do not , why to balme the media?
More than 1000 NGO working to do this legal terrorism, how many NGO working to stop such Legal Terrorism in India??

Our fight for justice irrespective of any sex and caste will continue.
let make more and more public awareness about such LAW , as maximum people do not take seriously such barbaric law and start crying after get hit by that ...
We need to change the same ....
Do wahtever you can do irrespective of any sitution , this is the fight against a well organised terrorist orginasation of india as well as out side india.


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A Day in Women Cell !! - 498A, DV Laws creat such stories everyday !!

A Day in Women Cell !! - 498A, DV Laws creat such stories everyday !!

A Day in Women Cell !!

"What do you want ?", Do you want to go back or you want to have mutual divorce? !, a police officer (CAW Cell incharge) asks Menaka.

Menaka : I tried my best but now I want a divorce as I can’t go back.

Police Officer : So, how do you want divorce.

Menaka : If he (Husband), can compensate me with 20 lacs, I shall go for mutual divorce.

Police Officer to Husband : Tell me man, what do you want? Do you agree to pay 20 lacs?

Husband : Sir, I wanted to have my wife back but now, if she is asking for divorce, I’m left with no other option but to comply to her desire. 20 lacs…….this is a huge amount and I don’t have it. My wife has already taken all what we had as our mutual saving and so, paying 20 lacs now to her, is now next to impossible for me.

Menaka : But we have spent even more than that over the marriage and so, I will not agree on anything less than this.

Police Officer : Ok, let’s do it like this, you both go to other room and discuss what is the best figure you can agree on.

Husband : Sir, I don’t want to go anywhere as I’ve no faith left. What she will agree with me at the back may deny later and so, let’s talk about it here only.

Menaka : There is no need to discuss any further as I’ll not agree on any other figure.

Police Officer to the husband : Decide man, I think you should agree to what she is asking else things will become difficult for you and your family.

Husband : Sir, please have mercy on us. I’ll not be able to pay this much. I can still try to pay somewhere around 50% of what is being asked by selling my fathers house as what I had saved that she has already taken.

Police Officer : I don’t think you have much of a choice but still I give you some more time to think about it. You can think over it once again for another 2 hrs. I suggest, check all your resources and then after 2 hrs from now, you all have to come here in my office again. Please do not try to take this lightly as you and your family is in big trouble already.

**************** After 2 hrs ***************************************

Police Officer to the husband : So, tell us what have you decided ?

Husband : Sir, I have checked all my resources and honestly telling you that paying 20 lacs is not just possible for me.

Menaka’s Brother to the Police Officer : Sir, this fellow is telling a lie. He has 2 houses and a car and he is holding good position in a MNC. He can definitely pay this amount.

Menaka : I’ve told my final figure, officer. I’ve no time to waste. If they do not agree to my demand, I want you to take an action against them and file an FIR for dowry harassment.

Police Office to the husband : Look man, I’m left with no other option but to comply to the ladies desire if you don’t agree to her demand. You have old father & mother, why you don’t agree. You know because of your adamant attitude, your old parents will have to suffer along with you. I suggest, you sign this agreement and pay your wife the amount she is asking else you guys will have to go to prision....PRISION...PRISION.....

This is a one of the event in thousands, happening on daily basis in India CAW / Police stations. THIS IS A HELL FOR THOSE WHO HAS TO GO THROUGH IT AND A STORY FOR OTHERS. IPC 498A, is already killing Indian family lives and now we have a new bill/Act called ‘Domestic Violence’, to make the things more worse. Please think, what we want and what we are doing. Society is from common people and if they can’t be happy, no society can grow & develop.

“LAW is meant for us as common people and so, what in LAW is good for all is to be asked by us only. Please stand against these forced barbaric laws to save Indian families. “

STOP LEGAL TERRORISM !!
Save Your Families today
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A Day in Women Cell !! - 498A, DV Laws creat such stories everyday !!

A Day in Women Cell !! - 498A, DV Laws creat such stories everyday !!

A Day in Women Cell !!

"What do you want ?", Do you want to go back or you want to have mutual divorce? !, a police officer (CAW Cell incharge) asks Menaka.

Menaka : I tried my best but now I want a divorce as I can’t go back.

Police Officer : So, how do you want divorce.

Menaka : If he (Husband), can compensate me with 20 lacs, I shall go for mutual divorce.

Police Officer to Husband : Tell me man, what do you want? Do you agree to pay 20 lacs?

Husband : Sir, I wanted to have my wife back but now, if she is asking for divorce, I’m left with no other option but to comply to her desire. 20 lacs…….this is a huge amount and I don’t have it. My wife has already taken all what we had as our mutual saving and so, paying 20 lacs now to her, is now next to impossible for me.

Menaka : But we have spent even more than that over the marriage and so, I will not agree on anything less than this.

Police Officer : Ok, let’s do it like this, you both go to other room and discuss what is the best figure you can agree on.

Husband : Sir, I don’t want to go anywhere as I’ve no faith left. What she will agree with me at the back may deny later and so, let’s talk about it here only.

Menaka : There is no need to discuss any further as I’ll not agree on any other figure.

Police Officer to the husband : Decide man, I think you should agree to what she is asking else things will become difficult for you and your family.

Husband : Sir, please have mercy on us. I’ll not be able to pay this much. I can still try to pay somewhere around 50% of what is being asked by selling my fathers house as what I had saved that she has already taken.

Police Officer : I don’t think you have much of a choice but still I give you some more time to think about it. You can think over it once again for another 2 hrs. I suggest, check all your resources and then after 2 hrs from now, you all have to come here in my office again. Please do not try to take this lightly as you and your family is in big trouble already.

**************** After 2 hrs ***************************************

Police Officer to the husband : So, tell us what have you decided ?

Husband : Sir, I have checked all my resources and honestly telling you that paying 20 lacs is not just possible for me.

Menaka’s Brother to the Police Officer : Sir, this fellow is telling a lie. He has 2 houses and a car and he is holding good position in a MNC. He can definitely pay this amount.

Menaka : I’ve told my final figure, officer. I’ve no time to waste. If they do not agree to my demand, I want you to take an action against them and file an FIR for dowry harassment.

Police Office to the husband : Look man, I’m left with no other option but to comply to the ladies desire if you don’t agree to her demand. You have old father & mother, why you don’t agree. You know because of your adamant attitude, your old parents will have to suffer along with you. I suggest, you sign this agreement and pay your wife the amount she is asking else you guys will have to go to prision....PRISION...PRISION.....

This is a one of the event in thousands, happening on daily basis in India CAW / Police stations. THIS IS A HELL FOR THOSE WHO HAS TO GO THROUGH IT AND A STORY FOR OTHERS. IPC 498A, is already killing Indian family lives and now we have a new bill/Act called ‘Domestic Violence’, to make the things more worse. Please think, what we want and what we are doing. Society is from common people and if they can’t be happy, no society can grow & develop.

“LAW is meant for us as common people and so, what in LAW is good for all is to be asked by us only. Please stand against these forced barbaric laws to save Indian families. “

STOP LEGAL TERRORISM !!
Save Your Families today
to have Indian Society Tomorrow

Thanks & Best Regards
Raj Kaushal
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Nari Shakti yaa Nari Bechari?? (Woman Power or Woman Weak)

Nari Shakti yaa Nari Bechari?? (Woman Power or Woman Weak)

Nari Shakti yaa Nari Bechari??
(Woman Power or Woman Weak)

In a place like India where women has a place just next to God, where woman has ruled the country the most longest than any country of the world, where woman has all the say in family matters without being at the for-front, today we are saying they are so fragile that to safeguard them we need a bill/act like DV. Isn’t this an insult to all the women & our social values??

Who wants Domestic Violence / Dowry Harassment Law (498A) ?? :

Laws like DV, 498A makes us to think as who needs such laws and who is currently using it. This needs to be given very serious thought now as if we don’t think now, promotion and support to such barbaric laws will destroy all family values in our society and our future generations will never spare us without cursing as to what we have given then in inheritance.

In the Land of Jhansi Ki Rani Laxmibai, the great warrior, Sarojini Naidu, a strong woman who fought for Indian freedom, Indira Gandhi, a woman who ruled on Indian politics for longest time, Mother taresa, who is given Saints status, Sushmita Sen, Aishwarya Rai, ladies, ruled on Universe & World hearts, is this right to state that women are fragile here?? In a land where women are prayed and Mother is considered next to GOD as she is the creator of this world, is this right to say they are being maltreated??

Laws like DV & 498A are meant to be used by those women who are being maltreated by there husbands & in-laws but do they really use it or using it?? There is no mechanism in these laws to find out if the complaint which is being lodged is correct or not. Husband & his family members including the women from husbands family are considered CRIMINALS at the time complaint is lodged. They have to go through all what a CRIMINAL has to go through with out committing any crime. Those women (mother-in-law, sister-in-law of the complainant) who has to go to Prison, are we not committing cruelty on those women?? And then Women organizations are talking about giving support & independence to Women by introducing laws like Domestic Violence & 498A. This is really shameful that A WOMAN is not trying to protect other WOMAN’s rights. Women welfare organizations are trying to give support to wives by supporting these laws but what about those wives who have already done their duty towards society & humanity by giving birth to a child, who are implicated under these laws by those wives who are looking for DV & 498A support. People will not come from out of the world for the protections of such women who are mothers and sisters. If wives are to be supported, mothers & sisters are also to be supported equally.
WHO IS THINKING ABOUT MOTHERS, SISTERS..???

I urge to all the women of India to stand against these laws in order to safeguard the pride & status of Woman in India. DV & 498A law are to be countered till such time they become balance. Gender bias which is there, in these laws as on date, has to go and all people whether woman or man, need to be given equal space. There has to be a provision of punishment to those who falsely implicate people in these laws. There has to be fast track courts for all such cases and on finding guilty, strongest possible punishment must to awarded to husbands & their convicted family members but if false implication is proved then equally strong punishment must be given to woman & her family members for wasting public services, time & resources and destroying family structure in the society.

I hope someone must be reading these words written and may pass them to right place & authorities who are defining our future society. Urge to all the authorities to act now without wasting any further time as if DV / 498A misuse is not stopped now, there will not be any way to mend the damage done to our society. Doing corrective actions after the damage done are NO corrective actions. Proactive action is, what’s needed as already our current situation of misuse of 498A, is very high and is increasing day by day.
PLEASE ACT…PLEASE ACT…..PLEASE ACT, NOW !!

STOP LEGAL TERRORISM !!
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Friday, November 03, 2006

Some more insights to Chandrima and Telegraph for possibly expanding their horizons of appreciation, which seems to be non-existant for now

To,

The Editor Telegraph India: The Telegraph
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CHANDRIMA S. BHATTACHARYA, Author of the Article: http://www.telegraphindia.com/1061030/asp/calcutta/story_6933770.asp

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This article(originally posted as Comment # 220) is also Posted at: http://desicritics.org/2006/10/26/070855.php ;

This also has reference to your article http://www.telegraphindia.com/1061030/asp/calcutta/story_6933770.asp :Sex & The City : What are men scared of?, I am sending this your way for you to understand our activities a bit more and possibly be a bit more informed in your journalistic(or the lack of it) ventures in future. You always welcome to clarify, if need be. By the way do reply to acknowledge the receipt of this, anyway you will have to reply to the "Legal Notice" is being send to your office soon enough for your appropriate actions.

*************** Comment on behalf of SIF, addressing stereotypical indifference, apathy and mindless resistance to even appreciate the need for SIF activities, let alone acknowledge the fact the Gender biased laws like DV ACT and IPC 498a, are actually pushing Indian Families into the brink of non-existence, and thence a nation to an awaiting black-hole which will suck it into total annhilation and Oblivion******************************

Comment#213: "MCPs who are looking for sexual favours, provide protectionist attitude and shelter to women causes under the genetically hard wired sub conscious thought, that having erased/removed/defeated one more male from sexual competition, there is an increase(even if miniscule) in probability of finding that available mate for having some more sex."............. "Somebody who already Commented".......... I don't know, for sure, what's the reality in your case, but I agree to the above line of thought, about males feeling obliged to think in favour of a woman ,even when he sees a lot of men helplessly trying to get out of the turmoil they are pushed into by unscrupulous wives/girls, who would almost always lie about the reality. This "Common unaffected" man would not believe that women could be such cold-blooded predators who tries to target her target-victim's emotional stability and his above 'soft-corner' for women, which is conditioned in him by centuries of culture and traditional upbringing- these 'common unaffected but fixated, and un-inquisitive male types will only sit and think about the 'conspiracy theories' when the killer meteorite smashes his planet(or beliefs, self-imposed but stupid sensitivities, and his out-of-touch-with-reality dogmas!) into smithereens, then he will sit-up and realize , yes this was what SIF talked on that day

.......... Welcome to Armageddon , where u either stand alone and wither away or you team-up with other 'Born again Men' and fight for justice even if it's a fight till death.... This is the reality monsieur, this is the truth, it may be bitter, but u will do better to verify and realize this ASAP, lest we meet for a bit in the same SIF camp, for the Apocalypse. Sooner we all join together the better, we need to save this society from moral decay and mindless destruction, realisation may come at several points to all of you, or somemay never want to accept the reality, but no one is going to insulated from this issue at hand.

If we have Christian and Muslim theologies ready to get on the war path(some say that's the actual apocalypse which has been talked about in mythology) , we already have wars between Male and Female genders, as an undercurrent in our societies for a long time, this disturbing and avoidable trend is assuming dangerous proportions, that's a worrying specter, and that's why we need to ACT NOW.


I would also add another point about why a man feels compelled, if not for this sub-conscious need for advancing in the queue in the "mating game!".... this propensity to side women mindlessly comes from the conditioning which makes us think that "all women are helpless, weak and defenseless and we are supposed to be the 'Knights in Armour' who are responsible for protecting her against any harm, even at our own peril(that's supposed to be a Gentleman's hallmark, to lay his life down for a lady, yes I too believed it, but now I know better; like being cautious about the possibility of back-stabbed when you least expect it by the same lady you would have laid you life in the line of fire!).

This conditioning is in line with the age-old "Rakhi" tradition, when rakhi was instituted as a way to ensure protection to women by making men their 'mooh bolah' brothers(adopted brothers or whatever one may call this 'Rakhi').

While females(can't call them ladies or even women, and I am not talking about each every female on the face of this earth, I am talking about some malignant strain/breed of the female kind) have evolved and taken to predatory, 'imperialistic', & selfish manipulations and who would wrongly take recourse to lopsided laws, and misuse these draconic laws which inherently lack any degree of rudimentary checks and balances, feigning with some false pretext(the laws which they(or malignant money-making, power-mongering lobbies of these sick feminazies/females) push through leaving logic and 'natural justice' and other primal Maxims of all laws, in lurch(Maxims of Law including not an Innocent should be convicted even if 100 criminals escape the "net" of Law- leave alone 1 innocent, lakhs of innocent victims of misuse of these gender biased laws are wallowing in the dark and trying to team up with their brethren who are like minded, of similar fate or just plain just and honest, good Samaritans).

And in between these struggles to try and get our society evolve in the direction, simpletons driven by love of poetry or plain pompous gay abandon, end up quoting poems in which are very 'nice' but perfectly out of context when you consider that they are directed as taunts at members of SIF (referring to comment # 217). But if 'null' had changed his comment after the poem as "See Mother how these sons of yours are taking on to what you had wished", ... then it would have been an excellent tribute to some of those hardworking, selfless activists of SIF who are selflessly spending mighty man-hours online and offline to make a difference. The efforts which would be cherished by our successors(including the children of the same detractors of SIF and similar uprisings, who are now mindlessly opposing our messages and intend, leave alone not agreeing to our cause, they don't even allow a patient hearing of what we are clarifying, that "we are here to try and reduce the misuse, if not eliminate it- not to take away these rightful recourses which women obviously need - we are not here to increase the gender divide, we are here to reduce it by accepting both genders as important and blissfully different/complimentary in unison, and hence both deserve an equal footing".

An equal footing cannot be achieved before we, as a start, eliminate the 'glaring' bias in the laws like IPC 498a and DV Act, which almost assumes that violence, cruelty or harassment are ambit of the "male form" only!, what's this absurd logic about?, where has it come from. Yes, we all observe that more women get abused/violated/oppressed/harassed than males in a marital set-up(but this as a proportion compared to males being oppressed in a marital set-up is increasing thanks to these draconic laws), but please introduce checks and balances to prevent misuse by anybody and which ensures the genuine victim, irrespective of gender gets justice.

I hope to have a consensus on the fact that our aim should not be to mould a legislature which is wide open for misuse and which will put men and their families(which includes sisters and mothers, who do not possibly qualify as "women"!) at perpetual risk and liable to oppression, unduly disadvantaged and manipulation.

With this I hope to have ur favourable audience and articulate discussions, be good to your selves and other's(who might not "seem" to have a privileged life, as you seem to be having). Don't just sit and spit out "Roobbish" as they say ;), enjoyyy life anyway.

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This article is also Posted at: http://www.telegraphindia.com/1061030/asp/others/feedback.asp , this has reference to your article http://www.telegraphindia.com/1061030/asp/calcutta/story_6933770.asp :Sex & The City : What are men scared of?

DV Bill: Threat to family or Boon for Domestic harmony

Since the introduction of the bill, men have been protesting against the bill and women were wondering, apparently, “What are men scared of?” .Yes the reasoning behind the protest and wonder is missing, but yes the drafters of the bill are all well aware of the reasons, but are silently seeing their ulterior motives being realised through this act.

First and foremost, the objective of the bill is misguiding both in the case of Title and Preamble. An objective man with some syntactic knowledge of english language will reasonably believe that DV bill, will aim at curbing the domestic violence. The ulterior objective of the bill is hidden behind the nice words of protecting women from domestic violence, but actually has nothing to do with curbing domestic violence and promoting domestic harmony within family sphere.

Domestic violence, in its clearest interpretation, can be committed by anybody and everybody within or outside the family, and the offenders are not gender-specific(men do not have monopoly of "executing" acts of D.V!!). On the contrary, the bill limits the victims only to women and perpetrators only to men. A general experience, with 498a is that there are many threats given to husband and his relatives to meet the demands of wife and her relatives before actually filing the complaint. The DV Bill legalizes this procedure and gives more teeth to such women. After the protection order is passed, its anybody's guess and limited only to imagination of any man/woman about what all could go wrong, and this is the real domestic violence which is going to be the prime bye-product of this law. Usually, whatever be the point of difference, a woman will be encouraged by her clout/feminists or even lawyers and protection officers to provoke the man to engage in acts akin to domestic violence. It can be easily noted that mere one or two acts of provoked domestic violence does not have sever impact on the woman, but the gains out of such provocation are huge for the woman, under domestic violence act. The definition of domestic violence is also such that mere consented acts of woman may also be accounted as domestic violence. Thus it is extremely easy for any woman to obtain protection order, whether in reality the act of male has caused damage to the extent of grievance of woman or not. However as soon as the protection order is obtained, the woman becomes all powerful in the domestic sphere. The implications of the violation of protection order on man and his family are extremely sever.

It is not actually necessary for any act of domestic violence to have happened actually to cause the damage to the man’s life under the provisions of this act, a mere allegation is enough. Violation of protection order is a non-bailable offence. If the woman goes into police station and only reports that the domestic violence has again been committed in any imaginary form, the man will be immediately arrested and sent to jail without enquiry. Arrest for one day is enough punishment for anybody. The humiliation and wrath and depression is only added damage not to forget the provision under law that a day’s arrest will by default result in loss of employment. Besides the stigma in society after the arrest is made is nearly unbearable for any man. The fear of loss of shelter and property is also tremendous. A man whose female relative has obtained protection order against him, will fear her to death. There is nothing with him which he cannot lose. The punishment of living under protection order shall be worse than living in jail for one year.

Such position makes the woman, extra-ordinarily powerful at home. The man shall be under absolute control of the woman and vulnerable to the domestic violence, which may extend to any form of abuse such as verbal, emotional and even physical. The man obviously by definition of this law cannot obtain any protection against the violent woman.

It is a misnomer promoted by feminists that woman is alone, weak and cannot handle herself. Women are socially powerful elements and have often taken help from natal home, to establish and assert their power in matrimonial home. Such trend will take a boost, due to this law.

The provisions of this act also do not leave much scope for enough opportunity for hearing from man during trial and do not leave any scope for material evidence. The offence is convictable, by the word of devil herself. The monetary benefits and benefit of power within home is such that the irrational behavior is simply irresistible for most women.

The opportunities for NGOs and corrupt officers are also aplenty and are further protected by law. NGOs have been given free hand to mishandle the man and his opinions in the family matter. Police officers have been given mandatory functions to intimidate him. The lure of money and power over the household will be simply irresistible for such unaccountable aides to woman.

A man will lose all his opinions in the household and will have to silently see his household destroyed by the unscrupulous women and people around. He may never be able to protect his children against any such abuse.

The ridiculous provisions of keeping the women outside the ambit of domestic violence act, will actually promote domestic violence by women in the family sphere and men shall lose all the reasonable opinions in the house and their lives will also be jeopardized socially economically and physicially.

The above explanation is sufficient to foresee the domestic violence promoted by enactment of Domestic Violence Act.

The objective of the act should have been to prevent domestic violence within domestic sphere and allow for reasonable opportunities for all parties at home and government should have looked for the earliest opportunity to withdraw the intervention inside the home after ensuring that reasonable circumstances exist for restoration of domestic harmony at home. The domestic violence act is going create a mess in our backyard, and no one shall forgive feminists and irrational questions such as "What are men scared of?"

Contributed by a SIF member who choses to remain anonymous for legal reasons

Warm Regards

P.R.Gokul

B.E(E.C.E), M.B.A, C.P.I.M

Director, Protect Indian Family, Mumbai (NGO working for Marital & Familial Harmony)

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