This for consolidating Awareness Campaigns and tips to fight Misuse of IPC section 498a and other women-protection laws.
Right now many of us are doing promotional/email campaigns separately, and we don't have synergy here(once we consolidate, we can refer data, get inspired by successful pitches etc.). So please ask me(email: drmura (at) hotmail.com) to send a Member Invitation.
(Please inform your feedback and appreciation to Ms.Kavita, the correspondant at kavita0501 (at) yahoo (dot) co (dot) in and response (at) saamana (dot) com )
After a Divorce, Shared Parenting is Wanted
A Powerful demand from Men's Organisations
The men's organisations have tightened the belts in order to bring in and implement the "Shared Parenting" system in India which has already been successful in Western countries.
They have appealed to Women and Child Department (WCD) to obtain its help is remedying the situations where Even though the father may be of sound Financial and Mental health, in many divorce proceedings, the Indian rule of awarding custody of children to their father is being ignored and is showing lethargic attitude.
In Divorce Proceedings, while father and mother fight with each other, children are routinely ignored. Child knows that father and mother both love him or her equally, but court proceedings are so antagonistic against each other that both parents tend to overlook the needs of the child.
"In Indian Family Laws, During Separation, Mother is considered more important" says P.R.Gokul, a member from a voluntary organisation Called "Children Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting". Because of this only, even after a father is proved innocent, he only gets rights of visitation.
If for some reason, a father is not able to meet his children, the opposite party pollutes the mind of the child and changes outlook of the children towards their father. Because of this, the children are constantly trying to evaluate whether their father loves for them.
Besides this, problems faced by such father is not heard or considered properly.
Hence for those kids, whose parents are living in same city, let one of them take him from Monday to Friday and let another parent take him on Saturday and Sunday. In this manner, the child will not feel deprived from the father as well as the mother.
Options for such a Shared Parenting Arrangements must be considered.
A plea is made to Women and Child Department (WCD) to make Justice system of India to consider that during durations of holidays, guardians must spend equal portions of time with children And Instead of the current law where children less than five years of age live with mother, the child must be allowed to spend some with the father.
For further information on this, Kumar Jahagirdar from CRISP told Saamna that Women and Child Department has assured him that Shared Parenting Options is being considered.
It has been proven time and again that the children who only live with one of their natural parent as a result of divorce grow up to face many mental and social problems which affect their personality.
For this reason, "Shared Parenting" system currently being practised in western countries must be implemented for benefit of children from divorced parents must be able to obtain love from both parents.
(Please inform your feedback and appreciation to Ms.Kavita, the correspondant at kavita0501 (at) yahoo (dot) co (dot) in and response (at) saamana (dot) com
To The Lord Chancellor by Percy Bysshe Shelley .. Written some 330 years ago
Thy country's curse is on thee, darkest crest Of that foul, knotted, many-headed worm Which rends our Mother's bosom--Priestly Pest! Masked Resurrection of a buried Form! Thy country's curse is on thee! Justice sold, Truth trampled, Nature's landmarks overthrown, And heaps of fraud-accumulated gold, Plead, loud as thunder, at Destruction's throne.
And whilst that sure slow Angel which aye stands Watching the beck of Mutability Delays to execute her high commands, And, though a nation weeps, spares thine and thee,
Oh, let a father's curse be on thy soul, And let a daughter's hope be on thy tomb; Be both, on thy gray head, a leaden cowl To weigh thee down to thine approaching doom.
I curse thee by a parent's outraged love, By hopes long cherished and too lately lost, By gentle feelings thou couldst never prove, By griefs which thy stern nature never crossed;
By those infantine smiles of happy light, Which were a fire within a stranger's hearth, Quenched even when kindled, in untimely night Hiding the promise of a lovely birth:
By those unpracticed accents of young speech, Which he who is a father thought to frame To gentlest lore, such as the wisest teach-- THOU strike the lyre of mind!--oh, grief and shame!
By all the happy see in children's growth-- That undeveloped flower of budding years-- Sweetness and sadness interwoven both, Source of the sweetest hopes and saddest fears-
By all the days, under an hireling's care, Of dull constraint and bitter heaviness,-- O wretched ye if ever any were,-- Sadder than orphans, yet not fatherless!
By the false cant which on their innocent lips Must hang like poison on an opening bloom, By the dark creeds which cover with eclipse Their pathway from the cradle to the tomb--
By thy most impious Hell, and all its terror; By all the grief, the madness, and the guilt Of thine impostures, which must be their error-- That sand on which thy crumbling power is built--
By thy complicity with lust and hate-- Thy thirst for tears--thy hunger after gold-- The ready frauds which ever on thee wait-- The servile arts in which thou hast grown old--
By thy most killing sneer, and by thy smile-- By all the arts and snares of thy black den, And--for thou canst outweep the crocodile-- By thy false tears--those millstones braining men--
By all the hate which checks a father's love-- By all the scorn which kills a father's care-- By those most impious hands which dared remove Nature's high bounds--by thee--and by despair--
Yes, the despair which bids a father groan, And cry, 'My children are no longer mine-- The blood within those veins may be mine own, But--Tyrant--their polluted souls are thine;--
I curse thee--though I hate thee not.--O slave! If thou couldst quench the earth-consuming Hell Of which thou art a daemon, on thy grave This curse should be a blessing. Fare thee well!
"The fun really begins at the Immunity Task when the boys put their future generations at stake during the Ball Bursting quiz ;). Here, the girls get tested on their Hindi vocabulary - one mistake and the guys get it between their legs. " ........................
Thus goes the description for the latest Roadies episode in which young boys get whacked on their scrotum with a pole!, as girls answer a quiz which supposedly tests Hindi - our National language... television has touched a new low, an abysmal low just in the pursuit of TRPs, advocating mis-andry in the process.'
See the ball breaker episode, all the 5 videos of this Roadies episode are in the below playlist:
We should complain to ministry of Broadcasting and other watchdog bodies about this inhuman and negatively influencing trend........ in general roadies inculcates hatred as a desired attitude and makes the format of their show a very 'dog eat dog' one... which is not at all a responsible thing to do.
Roadies is just riding by pandering to young peoples baser instincts of hatred, bitchiness, scheming and rudeness and such undesirable traits, we need to stop this immediately.
We may see people emulating these things on campus/ragging soon and god forbid we lose lives, even otherwise spreading a message that humiliating and paining others are "fun-stuff" is worse enough.
My comment to the "Roadies" production unit:
Hi raghu and other makers of roadies,
How did u all think that the "ball busting" task was an amusing thingto do to enrich roadies?. It was the most barbaric thing i had seen on tv. Had you guys assessed the physical risks and the negative effects the "ball busting" task would have over the impresisonable target audience Roadies commands?.
We at protect indian family demand a explanation and a public apology from the production team of roadies, and would urge you to cease and desist from incorporating such negative footage in future roadies editions.
Is this Scrotum-Pole experience the meaning of "Roadies - hell down under? ", it better not be!, since we will react against such anti-social 'feeds' in the name of FUN.
Pls find below the consolidated responses till now, regarding your Roadies episode Ball Busting of young boys(6 boys getting hit on their scrotum for mistakes made by the girls answering a so called quiz). Your programming consistentaly and grossly violates the Content code and Self Regulation Guidelines - http://mib.gov.in/informationb/CODES/ContentCode100308.pdf
Iam also attaching this communication as a wordpad file for easy reference.
regards Gokul ********************* 1st response(after my original response quoted at the bottom) to MTv's insensitive and gender-hatred mongering programming**************** Re: Roadies: "Fun" while boy's get 'ball busted?' Posted by: "ROHAN DHARESH" rohandharesh@yahoo.co.in HYPERLINK "http://profiles.yahoo.com/rohandharesh"rohandharesh Sun Jan 18, 2009 4:26 am (PST) Hi Raghu and others,It is very unfortunate that in the name of fun, all kinds of bodily harm is inflicted on the guys participating in it. Just because there is a lot of competition in the media, it doesn't mean that anything and everything can be performed or shown. Inflicting bodily harm or any kind of violence is a violation of Press Council of India norms and broadcasters norms. This is allowed to happen just because men are considered disposable creatures. I request you to immediately STOP the show failing which I will have to take the next step. No civilized society can allow such stupid shows in the name of fun.Awaiting an realy reply.Regards.Rohan ********************* 2nd response to MTv's insensitive and gender-hatred mongering programming**************** Re: Roadies: "Fun" while boy's get 'ball busted?' Posted by: "gorky_maksim" gorky_maksim@yahoo.com HYPERLINK "http://profiles.yahoo.com/gorky_maksim"gorky_maksim Sun Jan 18, 2009 10:59 am (PST) Ball Bursting and Bobbitising (cutting the penis by women) are comicstuff for society. These were social norms even before 498a or DV came.Men are considered disposable and are emotionally castrated at age of7. If they become criminals and rapists, then they raise a hue and cry.Who gave the society the right to make men disposable?We did.Unless, we change the attitudes ourselves, and kick the society, thejudges and politicians will not change.]We have not change attitude of a million men in next 6 months throughmedia and bombardment in Internet. ********************* 3rd response to MTv's insensitive and gender-hatred mongering programming****************
Re: Roadies: "Fun" while boy's get 'ball busted?' Posted by: "parthaab" parthaab@yahoo.com HYPERLINK "http://profiles.yahoo.com/parthaab"parthaab Sun Jan 18, 2009 8:01 pm (PST) feedback@mtvindia. comSir, SUB : "Ball busting" in "Roadies"The makers of "Roadies" should apologise for the propagation of misandry as an acceptable culture. Misandry, is a abuse of males based on gender. We have too many 'socially accepted' forms of misandry, that males need to be AWARE of. Males, unfortunately, do not speak up for themselves when they are abused. Here are a few examples of 'socially accepted' misandry :1. Circumcision in males2. Conscription of males without compensation for the years lost ( unlike in 'maternal leave' for females )3. Much more funding for breast cancer, as opposed to prostate cancer4. Ragging, etc.etc.This is also due to TV advertisements . - from domestic cleaning agents, to car insurance, to food, which all portray the male as the stupid moron, and the female as the one who provides a solution to his stupidity by using the product being advertised. This creates gender roles where women are the smart, cool, sophisticated and innocent gender, and men are the complacent, retarded, pathetic gender.Insentising people to the pain felt by males is deplorable. The producers must make amends by apologising and making males aware of misandry and their rights.Parthasarathy ********************* 4th response to MTv's insensitive and gender-hatred mongering programming**************** Re: Roadies: "Fun" while boy's get 'ball busted?' Posted by: "sureshram56" sureshram56@yahoo.co.in HYPERLINK "http://profiles.yahoo.com/sureshram56"sureshram56 Sun Jan 18, 2009 8:20 pm (PST) ViricideViricide is the systematic killing of men for various reasons, usually cultural. Viricide is seen as a gender crime. Viricide may happen during war to reduce an enemy's potential pool of soldiers.Perhaps one of the earliest examples of viricide in recorded history occurred some time during the 600s BCE when Ionian pirates massacred the men of Miletus, forced the Milesian women into marriage with them, and settled the city of Miletus in the Milesian men's stead.[4] It has been written that forever afterward the Milesian women would neither eat with their husbands nor address them by name.[5][6]The most famed example of viricide in Western literature is recounted in the Book of Matthew in the New Testament of the Bible. If modern scholars are correct in establishing the birth of Jesus as around the year 3 BCE, the slaughter would have taken shortly thereafter. Matthew 2:16 states that Herod ordered what is known as the Massacre of the Innocents, which modern scholars note may be apocryphal[7] rather than an actual historical event:" Then when Herod saw that he had been tricked by the magi, he became very enraged, and sent and slew all the male children who were in Bethlehem and all its vicinity, from two years old and under, according to the time which he had determined from the magi. " —Matthew 2:16, New American Standard BibleIn 627 CE, the men and boys of the Qurayza were beheaded by Muhammad[8] after the tribe surrendered. They condition of the surrender were they would be tried and passed judgement by Sa'd ibn Mu'adh, a chief of their allied tribe of Aws. After asking what the punishment for treason was in Jewish law, all the males were decapitated.Pakistan targeted male intellectuals for extermination in the erstwhile province of East Pakistan (present day Bangladesh) during the 1971 Bangladesh atrocities[9] Male Gendercide was also carried out by Pol pot in Cambodia, thanks to which a large percentage of Cambodia's present population are women.[10] During the 1984 Anti-Sikh riots men were targeted overwhelmingly on account of them being breadwinners of the family.[10] More recents examples include the 1988 Anfal campaign against Kurdish men and boys[11][12] [13] in Iraq and the Srebrenica massacre of Bosniak men and boys on July 12, 1995http://en.wikipedia .org/wiki/ Gendercide ************1st complaint to Ministry of broadcasting and Information *************** To, The Additional Secretary (P&A)/Public Grievances Cell( Jsp.inb@nic.in ), Ministry of Broadcasting & Information R.No. 552, A-Wing, Shastri Bhawan, New Delhi - 110001 Messers, Subject: Complaint against the program "Roadies" on MTv Channel, for showing content which is Violent, Humiliating and inflicts bodily harm to the participants of the show(in clear violation to the Content Code and Self Regulation Guidelines of Broadcasters) "The fun really begins at the Immunity Task when the boys put their future generations at stake during the Ball Bursting quiz ;). Here, the girls get tested on their Hindi vocabulary - one mistake and the guys get it between their legs. " ........................Thus goes the description for the latest Roadies episode in which young boys get whacked on their scrotum with a pole!, as girls answer a quiz which supposedly tests Hindi - our National language... television has touched a new low, an abysmal low just in the pursuit of TRPs, advocating mis-andry in the process.'This episode can be viewed at: http://mtvindia.com/roadies/videos_episodes.php?showname=Episode%202 Such inhuman and negatively influencing trend has to be nipped in the bud........ in general "Roadies" inculcates hatred as a desired attitude and makes their format akin to 'dog eat dog'... which is not at all a responsible thing to do. This disturbing trend has been continuing right from the audition(initial selection of the participants) where the aspirants are humiliated, violated, abused and some time inflicted pain, etc.Roadies is just riding by pandering to the young audience's baser instincts of hatred, bitchiness, scheming and rudeness and such undesirable traits, we need to stop this immediately. We at Protect Indian Family, NGO, Mumbai and Save Indian Family Foundation a worldwide network of NGOs demand suitable actions against the erring parties, especially the makers of Roadies and a public apology so that we can try and contain the damage which has already been caused. Requesting your office to keep us intimated of the actions taken up at each stage of the process. Warm Regards Gokul
************2nd complaint to Ministry of broadcasting and Information *************** Complaint to Ministry of Broadcasting & Information: MTV Roadies obj Posted by: "Virag" virag.v@gmail.com HYPERLINK "http://profiles.yahoo.com/talk2virag"talk2virag Sun Jan 18, 2009 9:13 pm (PST) To,The Additional Secretary (P&A)/Public Grievances Cell(Jsp.inb@nic. in),Ministry of Broadcasting & InformationR.No. 552, A-Wing, Shastri Bhawan,New Delhi - 110001Respected Sir,Save Indian Family Foundation would like to air its strong objection andcondemnation to the theme of MTV roadies wherein the boy gets a hit in thescrotum for girls making mistakes. The episode can be seen at,http://mtvindia. com/roadies/ videos_episodes. php?showname= Episode%202We all know the TV shows are blind followers of sensationalism and they areso blind that they have forgotten and deeply buried their sense of socialresponsibility. Performing such a dastardly act on TV is spreading poison inthe society. The notoriously famous MTV music channel is not coming underscanner for the first time. Your good office has issued warnings to thischannel earlier as well for other objectionable content and the channel hasbeen instructed by your good office to display the warning on their telecastsome one year back.MTV being a habitual offender of violation of basics of Content Code andSelf Regulation Guidelines of Broadcasters, needs to be banned from airingits shows since its very concept of program is detrimental to the existenceof a well behaved society.It injects, violence (especially violence against males), insensitivity,bitchiness, hatred and dispassion amongst its participants and viewersequally. If the channel had shown violence against females, the act wouldhave made great news and probably by now the channel would have been offair. But since it is against men, it is being allowed to continue?Violence, irrespective of the gender of its victim, is condemnable in allforms and needs strict action against its perpetrators.We, Save Indian Family Foundation <http://www.saveindi anfamily. org> stronglyurge removal of the program from air and a strict penalty be imposed on thechannel and its designers and content publishers as your good office maydeem as fit and just.Thanks & RegardsViragPublic Relations OfficerSave Indian Family Foundation, BangaloreReality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.http://www.saveindi anfamily. orghttp://www.antidowr y.orghttp://legalfighter .wordpress. comhttp://www.wemen. us/http://www.crisp- india.orghttp://www.merinews .com/allArticles .do;jsessionid= BD553EEC98EAF167 806C6437009FFBE6 ?choice=ByUser& pageNo=1& userId=crusaderhttp://legalfighter .instablogs. com/http://crusader- indianjustice. blogspot. com/
