This for consolidating Awareness Campaigns and tips to fight Misuse of IPC section 498a and other women-protection laws.
Right now many of us are doing promotional/email campaigns separately, and we don't have synergy here(once we consolidate, we can refer data, get inspired by successful pitches etc.). So please ask me(email: drmura (at) hotmail.com) to send a Member Invitation.
PIFF (Protect Indian Family Foundation) and IFF (Indian Family Foundation) are celebrating International Mens Day on 19th November 2009 at Azad Maidan(11 A.M to 4 P.M). An awareness vehicle rally, consisting of about 50 motorcycles and four wheelers, starting from Mulund will be converging at Azad Maidan by 12.30 pm.
We are part of the Save Indian Family Movement. This movement was initiated by victims of law who were falsely accused or threatened of law misuse, done with a view to take undue advantage, when a male family member’s marriage fails due to some other reason other than the false criminal accusation.
Male plight have always been the butt of jokes or cartoons and have never been taken seriously as their suffering is taken for granted or ignored. On this mens day we would like to pay tribute to the undisputable hard working taxpayer, Men, who pays approximately 82% taxes to the Government of India. Legal atrocities on us has been termed as “Legal Terrorism” by Supreme Court and recently the government has advised not to rush for Arrests of the Innocent Family of the Groom, as gross misuse of cruel Marriage laws has been observed for years together.
We would like to call for your Unconditional and Overwhelming support in demanding a basic constitutional infrastructure and machinery for Men and his family members.
- Calling the government attention for Introducing a Ministry for Men regarding welfare of mens and related issues. - Introducing a suo motu (By Default) punishment in the IPC for misuse of any law(especially laws concerned with families) irrespective of gender. - Creating Machinery for Men to get his serious grievances recorded as crime against men and thus allow generating statistics for men to help understand his plight better. - Identify his emotional needs as a father and allow a shared parenting during marital dispute. - Protect the Mother and Sister and other relatives of Husband during marital dispute.
We are only against the misuse of any law on any innocent. We are not against any strata of the society. We are for protection of a vulnerable section in the society. We believe that law should treat everyone equal without blindly favoring / opposing any group.
We look forward for your support and participation in making this International Men’s day a great success.
RSVP. Public Relations Officer: 9930889008 / 9769770498 / 9224335577 info@protectindianfamily.org , help@iff-ngo.org Indian Family Foundation and Protect Indian Family Foundation (Mumbai)
Supported by: Save Indian Family Foundation Bangaluru, Chattisgarh, Save Family Foundation Delhi, Hridaya Kolkatta, Pati Parivar Kalyan Samiti Lucknow, Save Family Welfare System Indore, All India Forgotten Women Hyderabad, Mothers And Sisters Initiative Delhi, All India Mother In Law Protection Forum Nagpur. Gender Human Rights Society Delhi, Child Rights and Famliy Welfare Mumbai, Bhavya Foundation Moradabad, Childs Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting Bangaluru. Sahana Hyderabad, Rakshak Foundation USA, 498a.org USA, Mynation.net (Middle East), Indiya Kudumba Pathukappu Iyakkam Chennai, Family India Lifeline Kochi, All India Men’s Welfare Association Bangaluru.
This is a discussion aired in Loksabha TV in their program "Gender Discourse".
Laws intended for protection of women are being rampantly misused and innocent family members are being jailed without investigation and are entangled in vexatious, lingering and wasteful litigation and harassment by police.
Participants: Swarup Sarkar- Save Family Foundation, New Delhi Abhimanyu - Save Family Foundation, New Delhi Meenakshi Lekhi- Advocate, Supreme Court
Presented by Protect Indian Family Foundation, Mumbai www.protectindianfamily.org www.mynation.net www.siftimes.com www.savefamily.org www.saveindianfamily.org
(Please inform your feedback and appreciation to Ms.Kavita, the correspondant at kavita0501 (at) yahoo (dot) co (dot) in and response (at) saamana (dot) com )
After a Divorce, Shared Parenting is Wanted
A Powerful demand from Men's Organisations
The men's organisations have tightened the belts in order to bring in and implement the "Shared Parenting" system in India which has already been successful in Western countries.
They have appealed to Women and Child Department (WCD) to obtain its help is remedying the situations where Even though the father may be of sound Financial and Mental health, in many divorce proceedings, the Indian rule of awarding custody of children to their father is being ignored and is showing lethargic attitude.
In Divorce Proceedings, while father and mother fight with each other, children are routinely ignored. Child knows that father and mother both love him or her equally, but court proceedings are so antagonistic against each other that both parents tend to overlook the needs of the child.
"In Indian Family Laws, During Separation, Mother is considered more important" says P.R.Gokul, a member from a voluntary organisation Called "Children Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting". Because of this only, even after a father is proved innocent, he only gets rights of visitation.
If for some reason, a father is not able to meet his children, the opposite party pollutes the mind of the child and changes outlook of the children towards their father. Because of this, the children are constantly trying to evaluate whether their father loves for them.
Besides this, problems faced by such father is not heard or considered properly.
Hence for those kids, whose parents are living in same city, let one of them take him from Monday to Friday and let another parent take him on Saturday and Sunday. In this manner, the child will not feel deprived from the father as well as the mother.
Options for such a Shared Parenting Arrangements must be considered.
A plea is made to Women and Child Department (WCD) to make Justice system of India to consider that during durations of holidays, guardians must spend equal portions of time with children And Instead of the current law where children less than five years of age live with mother, the child must be allowed to spend some with the father.
For further information on this, Kumar Jahagirdar from CRISP told Saamna that Women and Child Department has assured him that Shared Parenting Options is being considered.
It has been proven time and again that the children who only live with one of their natural parent as a result of divorce grow up to face many mental and social problems which affect their personality.
For this reason, "Shared Parenting" system currently being practised in western countries must be implemented for benefit of children from divorced parents must be able to obtain love from both parents.
(Please inform your feedback and appreciation to Ms.Kavita, the correspondant at kavita0501 (at) yahoo (dot) co (dot) in and response (at) saamana (dot) com
To The Lord Chancellor by Percy Bysshe Shelley .. Written some 330 years ago
Thy country's curse is on thee, darkest crest Of that foul, knotted, many-headed worm Which rends our Mother's bosom--Priestly Pest! Masked Resurrection of a buried Form! Thy country's curse is on thee! Justice sold, Truth trampled, Nature's landmarks overthrown, And heaps of fraud-accumulated gold, Plead, loud as thunder, at Destruction's throne.
And whilst that sure slow Angel which aye stands Watching the beck of Mutability Delays to execute her high commands, And, though a nation weeps, spares thine and thee,
Oh, let a father's curse be on thy soul, And let a daughter's hope be on thy tomb; Be both, on thy gray head, a leaden cowl To weigh thee down to thine approaching doom.
I curse thee by a parent's outraged love, By hopes long cherished and too lately lost, By gentle feelings thou couldst never prove, By griefs which thy stern nature never crossed;
By those infantine smiles of happy light, Which were a fire within a stranger's hearth, Quenched even when kindled, in untimely night Hiding the promise of a lovely birth:
By those unpracticed accents of young speech, Which he who is a father thought to frame To gentlest lore, such as the wisest teach-- THOU strike the lyre of mind!--oh, grief and shame!
By all the happy see in children's growth-- That undeveloped flower of budding years-- Sweetness and sadness interwoven both, Source of the sweetest hopes and saddest fears-
By all the days, under an hireling's care, Of dull constraint and bitter heaviness,-- O wretched ye if ever any were,-- Sadder than orphans, yet not fatherless!
By the false cant which on their innocent lips Must hang like poison on an opening bloom, By the dark creeds which cover with eclipse Their pathway from the cradle to the tomb--
By thy most impious Hell, and all its terror; By all the grief, the madness, and the guilt Of thine impostures, which must be their error-- That sand on which thy crumbling power is built--
By thy complicity with lust and hate-- Thy thirst for tears--thy hunger after gold-- The ready frauds which ever on thee wait-- The servile arts in which thou hast grown old--
By thy most killing sneer, and by thy smile-- By all the arts and snares of thy black den, And--for thou canst outweep the crocodile-- By thy false tears--those millstones braining men--
By all the hate which checks a father's love-- By all the scorn which kills a father's care-- By those most impious hands which dared remove Nature's high bounds--by thee--and by despair--
Yes, the despair which bids a father groan, And cry, 'My children are no longer mine-- The blood within those veins may be mine own, But--Tyrant--their polluted souls are thine;--
I curse thee--though I hate thee not.--O slave! If thou couldst quench the earth-consuming Hell Of which thou art a daemon, on thy grave This curse should be a blessing. Fare thee well!
"The fun really begins at the Immunity Task when the boys put their future generations at stake during the Ball Bursting quiz ;). Here, the girls get tested on their Hindi vocabulary - one mistake and the guys get it between their legs. " ........................
Thus goes the description for the latest Roadies episode in which young boys get whacked on their scrotum with a pole!, as girls answer a quiz which supposedly tests Hindi - our National language... television has touched a new low, an abysmal low just in the pursuit of TRPs, advocating mis-andry in the process.'
See the ball breaker episode, all the 5 videos of this Roadies episode are in the below playlist:
We should complain to ministry of Broadcasting and other watchdog bodies about this inhuman and negatively influencing trend........ in general roadies inculcates hatred as a desired attitude and makes the format of their show a very 'dog eat dog' one... which is not at all a responsible thing to do.
Roadies is just riding by pandering to young peoples baser instincts of hatred, bitchiness, scheming and rudeness and such undesirable traits, we need to stop this immediately.
We may see people emulating these things on campus/ragging soon and god forbid we lose lives, even otherwise spreading a message that humiliating and paining others are "fun-stuff" is worse enough.
My comment to the "Roadies" production unit:
Hi raghu and other makers of roadies,
How did u all think that the "ball busting" task was an amusing thingto do to enrich roadies?. It was the most barbaric thing i had seen on tv. Had you guys assessed the physical risks and the negative effects the "ball busting" task would have over the impresisonable target audience Roadies commands?.
We at protect indian family demand a explanation and a public apology from the production team of roadies, and would urge you to cease and desist from incorporating such negative footage in future roadies editions.
Is this Scrotum-Pole experience the meaning of "Roadies - hell down under? ", it better not be!, since we will react against such anti-social 'feeds' in the name of FUN.
Pls find below the consolidated responses till now, regarding your Roadies episode Ball Busting of young boys(6 boys getting hit on their scrotum for mistakes made by the girls answering a so called quiz). Your programming consistentaly and grossly violates the Content code and Self Regulation Guidelines - http://mib.gov.in/informationb/CODES/ContentCode100308.pdf
Iam also attaching this communication as a wordpad file for easy reference.
regards Gokul ********************* 1st response(after my original response quoted at the bottom) to MTv's insensitive and gender-hatred mongering programming**************** Re: Roadies: "Fun" while boy's get 'ball busted?' Posted by: "ROHAN DHARESH" rohandharesh@yahoo.co.in HYPERLINK "http://profiles.yahoo.com/rohandharesh"rohandharesh Sun Jan 18, 2009 4:26 am (PST) Hi Raghu and others,It is very unfortunate that in the name of fun, all kinds of bodily harm is inflicted on the guys participating in it. Just because there is a lot of competition in the media, it doesn't mean that anything and everything can be performed or shown. Inflicting bodily harm or any kind of violence is a violation of Press Council of India norms and broadcasters norms. This is allowed to happen just because men are considered disposable creatures. I request you to immediately STOP the show failing which I will have to take the next step. No civilized society can allow such stupid shows in the name of fun.Awaiting an realy reply.Regards.Rohan ********************* 2nd response to MTv's insensitive and gender-hatred mongering programming**************** Re: Roadies: "Fun" while boy's get 'ball busted?' Posted by: "gorky_maksim" gorky_maksim@yahoo.com HYPERLINK "http://profiles.yahoo.com/gorky_maksim"gorky_maksim Sun Jan 18, 2009 10:59 am (PST) Ball Bursting and Bobbitising (cutting the penis by women) are comicstuff for society. These were social norms even before 498a or DV came.Men are considered disposable and are emotionally castrated at age of7. If they become criminals and rapists, then they raise a hue and cry.Who gave the society the right to make men disposable?We did.Unless, we change the attitudes ourselves, and kick the society, thejudges and politicians will not change.]We have not change attitude of a million men in next 6 months throughmedia and bombardment in Internet. ********************* 3rd response to MTv's insensitive and gender-hatred mongering programming****************
Re: Roadies: "Fun" while boy's get 'ball busted?' Posted by: "parthaab" parthaab@yahoo.com HYPERLINK "http://profiles.yahoo.com/parthaab"parthaab Sun Jan 18, 2009 8:01 pm (PST) feedback@mtvindia. comSir, SUB : "Ball busting" in "Roadies"The makers of "Roadies" should apologise for the propagation of misandry as an acceptable culture. Misandry, is a abuse of males based on gender. We have too many 'socially accepted' forms of misandry, that males need to be AWARE of. Males, unfortunately, do not speak up for themselves when they are abused. Here are a few examples of 'socially accepted' misandry :1. Circumcision in males2. Conscription of males without compensation for the years lost ( unlike in 'maternal leave' for females )3. Much more funding for breast cancer, as opposed to prostate cancer4. Ragging, etc.etc.This is also due to TV advertisements . - from domestic cleaning agents, to car insurance, to food, which all portray the male as the stupid moron, and the female as the one who provides a solution to his stupidity by using the product being advertised. This creates gender roles where women are the smart, cool, sophisticated and innocent gender, and men are the complacent, retarded, pathetic gender.Insentising people to the pain felt by males is deplorable. The producers must make amends by apologising and making males aware of misandry and their rights.Parthasarathy ********************* 4th response to MTv's insensitive and gender-hatred mongering programming**************** Re: Roadies: "Fun" while boy's get 'ball busted?' Posted by: "sureshram56" sureshram56@yahoo.co.in HYPERLINK "http://profiles.yahoo.com/sureshram56"sureshram56 Sun Jan 18, 2009 8:20 pm (PST) ViricideViricide is the systematic killing of men for various reasons, usually cultural. Viricide is seen as a gender crime. Viricide may happen during war to reduce an enemy's potential pool of soldiers.Perhaps one of the earliest examples of viricide in recorded history occurred some time during the 600s BCE when Ionian pirates massacred the men of Miletus, forced the Milesian women into marriage with them, and settled the city of Miletus in the Milesian men's stead.[4] It has been written that forever afterward the Milesian women would neither eat with their husbands nor address them by name.[5][6]The most famed example of viricide in Western literature is recounted in the Book of Matthew in the New Testament of the Bible. If modern scholars are correct in establishing the birth of Jesus as around the year 3 BCE, the slaughter would have taken shortly thereafter. Matthew 2:16 states that Herod ordered what is known as the Massacre of the Innocents, which modern scholars note may be apocryphal[7] rather than an actual historical event:" Then when Herod saw that he had been tricked by the magi, he became very enraged, and sent and slew all the male children who were in Bethlehem and all its vicinity, from two years old and under, according to the time which he had determined from the magi. " —Matthew 2:16, New American Standard BibleIn 627 CE, the men and boys of the Qurayza were beheaded by Muhammad[8] after the tribe surrendered. They condition of the surrender were they would be tried and passed judgement by Sa'd ibn Mu'adh, a chief of their allied tribe of Aws. After asking what the punishment for treason was in Jewish law, all the males were decapitated.Pakistan targeted male intellectuals for extermination in the erstwhile province of East Pakistan (present day Bangladesh) during the 1971 Bangladesh atrocities[9] Male Gendercide was also carried out by Pol pot in Cambodia, thanks to which a large percentage of Cambodia's present population are women.[10] During the 1984 Anti-Sikh riots men were targeted overwhelmingly on account of them being breadwinners of the family.[10] More recents examples include the 1988 Anfal campaign against Kurdish men and boys[11][12] [13] in Iraq and the Srebrenica massacre of Bosniak men and boys on July 12, 1995http://en.wikipedia .org/wiki/ Gendercide ************1st complaint to Ministry of broadcasting and Information *************** To, The Additional Secretary (P&A)/Public Grievances Cell( Jsp.inb@nic.in ), Ministry of Broadcasting & Information R.No. 552, A-Wing, Shastri Bhawan, New Delhi - 110001 Messers, Subject: Complaint against the program "Roadies" on MTv Channel, for showing content which is Violent, Humiliating and inflicts bodily harm to the participants of the show(in clear violation to the Content Code and Self Regulation Guidelines of Broadcasters) "The fun really begins at the Immunity Task when the boys put their future generations at stake during the Ball Bursting quiz ;). Here, the girls get tested on their Hindi vocabulary - one mistake and the guys get it between their legs. " ........................Thus goes the description for the latest Roadies episode in which young boys get whacked on their scrotum with a pole!, as girls answer a quiz which supposedly tests Hindi - our National language... television has touched a new low, an abysmal low just in the pursuit of TRPs, advocating mis-andry in the process.'This episode can be viewed at: http://mtvindia.com/roadies/videos_episodes.php?showname=Episode%202 Such inhuman and negatively influencing trend has to be nipped in the bud........ in general "Roadies" inculcates hatred as a desired attitude and makes their format akin to 'dog eat dog'... which is not at all a responsible thing to do. This disturbing trend has been continuing right from the audition(initial selection of the participants) where the aspirants are humiliated, violated, abused and some time inflicted pain, etc.Roadies is just riding by pandering to the young audience's baser instincts of hatred, bitchiness, scheming and rudeness and such undesirable traits, we need to stop this immediately. We at Protect Indian Family, NGO, Mumbai and Save Indian Family Foundation a worldwide network of NGOs demand suitable actions against the erring parties, especially the makers of Roadies and a public apology so that we can try and contain the damage which has already been caused. Requesting your office to keep us intimated of the actions taken up at each stage of the process. Warm Regards Gokul
************2nd complaint to Ministry of broadcasting and Information *************** Complaint to Ministry of Broadcasting & Information: MTV Roadies obj Posted by: "Virag" virag.v@gmail.com HYPERLINK "http://profiles.yahoo.com/talk2virag"talk2virag Sun Jan 18, 2009 9:13 pm (PST) To,The Additional Secretary (P&A)/Public Grievances Cell(Jsp.inb@nic. in),Ministry of Broadcasting & InformationR.No. 552, A-Wing, Shastri Bhawan,New Delhi - 110001Respected Sir,Save Indian Family Foundation would like to air its strong objection andcondemnation to the theme of MTV roadies wherein the boy gets a hit in thescrotum for girls making mistakes. The episode can be seen at,http://mtvindia. com/roadies/ videos_episodes. php?showname= Episode%202We all know the TV shows are blind followers of sensationalism and they areso blind that they have forgotten and deeply buried their sense of socialresponsibility. Performing such a dastardly act on TV is spreading poison inthe society. The notoriously famous MTV music channel is not coming underscanner for the first time. Your good office has issued warnings to thischannel earlier as well for other objectionable content and the channel hasbeen instructed by your good office to display the warning on their telecastsome one year back.MTV being a habitual offender of violation of basics of Content Code andSelf Regulation Guidelines of Broadcasters, needs to be banned from airingits shows since its very concept of program is detrimental to the existenceof a well behaved society.It injects, violence (especially violence against males), insensitivity,bitchiness, hatred and dispassion amongst its participants and viewersequally. If the channel had shown violence against females, the act wouldhave made great news and probably by now the channel would have been offair. But since it is against men, it is being allowed to continue?Violence, irrespective of the gender of its victim, is condemnable in allforms and needs strict action against its perpetrators.We, Save Indian Family Foundation <http://www.saveindi anfamily. org> stronglyurge removal of the program from air and a strict penalty be imposed on thechannel and its designers and content publishers as your good office maydeem as fit and just.Thanks & RegardsViragPublic Relations OfficerSave Indian Family Foundation, BangaloreReality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.http://www.saveindi anfamily. orghttp://www.antidowr y.orghttp://legalfighter .wordpress. comhttp://www.wemen. us/http://www.crisp- india.orghttp://www.merinews .com/allArticles .do;jsessionid= BD553EEC98EAF167 806C6437009FFBE6 ?choice=ByUser& pageNo=1& userId=crusaderhttp://legalfighter .instablogs. com/http://crusader- indianjustice. blogspot. com/
Hi All, Parental interference(it could be either side or even both sides, owing to the lack of understanding with respect to the actual intensity or manner of the conflict between the couple concerned!) either catalyses impending splits and obnoxious behaviour which follows(after the war is announced!) and even legal terrorism once they come to know that there is 'some' trouble between the couple.
Such 'some' trouble kind of situations existed even in earlier times, but they did not definitely crystalise into 'stymie' situations or even evoked extreme actions for either side, since earlier generations had the skill and diplomacy(or command of a head of the joint/united family, which in turn came from the respect this head earned vide the services and dedication rendered to ones family- respect has that way of manifesting, it can never bought or forced, its self-evoking/eliciting... and this is a oft-forgotten truth by modernists, the so called modern men and women), the other members of a joint family would act as vents, counselors, confidantes, sounding boards or whatever the situation of conflict might warrant, and the couple at conflict themselves had some strong value base which seldom let them disrupt the peace of the family.
This kind of "concern for the family" or 'WE" is slowly becoming non existent and its this factor which pushes the so called 'modern' couple who do not have anytime other than thinking about 'I' and 'My'... the value base too have eroded so much that their shell-like self is so brittle that such persons can only think of self-destructive ways to handle a situation of conflict.
Lack of values coupled with self-centeredness does them in... and they do not usually mend their ways even after hard times like a violent divorce which extends to years of negativity and trauma(resulting in profuse loss of peace, spirit, resources, etc., on one side)... these persons run into disruptive situations after disruptive and eroding situations.. finally they are totally 'spent' on their intrinsic goodness, and turn totally negative and starts acting against whoever comes in contact with them and thence the society at large.
Their negative vibes and examples of wrong doing sets off an unfortunate trend in conflict management, and a snowball effect in a definite perimeter around them, especially on the impressionable youngsters who grow up to believe that these are the only ways to handle conflicts.
Unless we try to address and rectify these undercurrents which finally leads to legal terrorism , we would only be getting at the surface of the 'rust' or 'rot', just painting the rusted surface will not ensure that the 'spread' can be stopped, it will surface from time to time, until we address these problem of moral degradation in a macro scale.
Back to basics is one word to describe the cure, while we do what we are currently doing, the touch-up or fire-fighting jobs(by way of fighting legal terrorists on the same token or on a different, but addressing legal terrorism as a piece-meal problem).
Think about this, may you be able to action some solutions around you, starting NOW. Spread the message too.... Values, Values, and Values. values of honesty, of mutual respect, of Love, or Patience, of sharing, of caring, of courage, of physical endurance and mental serenity, of planting tress and rearing children, of Vasudeva Kudumbakam......
regards Gokul . .
Report: Parents Contribute to Divorce Posted by: "gorky_maksim" Tue Dec 23, 2008 9:44 am (PST) Parents contribute a lot to 498a female's behaviour and attitude.
Now, a Florida based counsellor has written about it and Deccan Chronicle has reported it.
Till now, we never highlighted this as "No one will digest that parents can contribute to Marriage break up." My guess shows that in 90% of cases the mother-in-law and father-in-law make the female file 498a.
NOW, IT is the TIME to ATTACK ------------ --------- --------
Please do Press Conferences and say that in more than 80% cases in SIF, the adverse and destructive advice by parents has led to breaking of marriage and 498a.
Let us build momentum on this Thread.
We had done a press conference in Bangalore just yesterday. So, it may not work if we do another press conference now.
But, activists in other cities can use this opportunity to show the real side of "Girl's Parents".
The Black March went on better than expected, considering that it was held on the day of Danteras festival. Many of members chose to celebrate danteras and perfrom poojas at home in connection with the same, but my only argument in favour of their attending our events(even if they had to be conducted on the same day as festivals as this) is that "Seva is the best form of prayer". If u do not help others or even help yourselves by strengthening our movement, how can we hope to achieve anything any soon?
We had 30 plus members participating displaying the banners to the oncoming traffic , distributing pamphlets and engaging the media, etc. The highlight for media was the video clips of one of our members , which showed the wife beating him for more than 1 hour etc.
Let me keep a proposal to all of you. November 19th we are going to conduct a massive Bike AND Car Rally from Fort area(from Fountain area if we get premission, or any other visible area, Family court Bandra). The detailed program will be designed and informed to all of you within this week.
Please mark this date(NOVEMBER 19TH) on your calenders right away and apply for necessary leaves or make suitable arrangements(no exuces please), since we need atleast 50 bikes and 10 cars to make an impact in the dense mumbai traffic. We are already on the job of the necessary permissions from the Commissioner of Police and family court etc. Tentatively this rally is going to commence in the afternoon session by around 2.30pm when the traffic thins and when we have a chance to get permission for the VIP roads(which are not allowed for such rallies when traffic in dense).
I need a head count by way of your replies, please do not necesitate a reminder in this regard, reply RIGHT NOW.
regards Gokul PS: The group has taken a firm decision that the key members and other members who counsels others who agree with this decision, will not entertain/councel members who do not give strength to group activities. This is not to put pressure on you, but with intention to activate sleeping members who think that "someone else will do it for them" this attitude has to be thrown out and NOW
This is my routine first reply for all new members who contact me with queries, the readers of this blog also could benefit by this
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First and foremost, please attend the weekly counseling meetings at Mulund(or Borivli), if you are around Mumbai. We conduct these meetings on every Sunday, 4 to 7pm at Chintaman Deshmukh Garden, Mahatma Phule Road, Mulund(east), very near local train station. Please call 9322156141(PIFF Helpline)/ 9833066726 (Suhail) to confirm or if in doubt. For confirming the Borivli based meeting details call Jinesh on 9820241589/9769770498(IFF Helpline) .
Please attend the weekly meetings for counseling and support near you, find the nearest venue from the helplines of All India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA)/Mynation/SIF (http://aimwa.in/contact, http://mynation.net/contact-us and http://www.saveindianfamily.in) and attend weekly meetings, which will help you solve your issues. It is very important to attend meetings/talk to fellow victims-turned-victors, etc., since it will give peace of mind more than anything in the first meeting itself. Everyone comes to meetings feeling very unlucky/cursed since they think they are the only ones having these troubles, but when u meet others in the same boat, not only u will resolve the "why me" question in your own minds, but also get a definite and positive direction on which you can work and solve your problems
There is so much collective knowledge to be tapped, in terms of working of courts, how cases proceed, what to keep in mind when dealing with advocates, and hundreds of other aspects of how to stay peaceful and still solve your problems - these inputs u wont get on any site or book, that’s a guarantee- meetings transform the people who have the will to transform.
I would recommend that you join SIF(saveindianfamily) yahoo group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily , where you can post your specific queries and can expect to get replies from the 4000 odd members in this group, who are highly passionate about fighting this kind of misuse of law and are knowledgeable than even an average advocate. The message archives of SIF yahoo group also will be helpful in getting more insight to any kind of legal situation that you may be in(you can search with Keywords related to your case).
See this for some links and resources which will help you to research solutions yourselves. Also call the helpline numbers near to you( given below) and meet the local group at their weekly meetings.
With the recent Cr.PC amendment(notified/enforced in November 2010) arrests in 498a is going to be a lesser threat since as per this amendment a warrant from the court is required to arrest any accused(of crimes with less than 7 years of imprisonment). A notice of appearance would be issued by the police to the accused who should then co-operate with the investigation, so no more arbitrary arrests by police. See an RTI reply Ministry of Home Affairs confirming that this Cr.PC amendment has been notified and is effective from 1st November, 2010
Please do your bit by sending the above RTI to the chief of police(DGP) of your state and ask for compliance, by all police stations in the state, with respect to this Cr.PC(section 41A) amendment.
In return we just need you to raise your voice in whatever way possible so that we can together see the end of this legal terrorism in families, families which are the real strength of India(and may be that’s why families are being systematically targeted and broken down by vested interests and neo-imperialists!)
Counseling helpline for Men in distress - "Man's Voice": http://bit.ly/mansvoice
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Cowardice asks...."Is it safe?", Expedience asks "Is it politic?", Vanity asks...."Is it popular?"... There comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, politic, nor popular, but one must take it because it is right: Martin Luther King, Jr.
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